Reply #70: I'm so sorry for your loss

[MrsBrady]

I've lost several friends in the last few months, all too young, in my opinion.
Two of the three were shockers, so I know what that's like to be blindsided like that.

In 2004 I lost a young friend. Losing someone when they are young is really really hard. :hug:
I miss my grandparents terribly and I was a wreck when they died, but I knew it was coming.
And he had only been married for two years, which just makes it even more tragic...because it ruined his wife's life, really, as well.
But his was an accident...he wasn't sick.

Single men often don't get the help they need, simply because they don't have wives at home to bug them about getting help.
They say this is sometimes a problem when single males are suicidal as well, because there is no one around to notice they are in trouble.
I'm generalizing, but I think you know what I mean.
My husband and I were dating and then got married while he was dealing with bouts of MRSA, that we were finally able to beat...but it took a year and a half of
hard work on both our parts to beat it. (And that would be another whole entire OP for me to discuss what he and I had to do to actually get rid of it, not just stop outbreaks.)

He told me that he's not sure if he would have taken care of himself properly if I had not been there to help and nag him.
Actually, he said he might have been dead. Once he realized how serious it was after the 2nd or 3rd infection, he started doing what he was supposed to do, etc.
He said that he was sort of thinking that he would just get better and that he still had this teen mentality that he was invincible.
He was never hospitalized as his infections were luckily localized and not systemic. But he was very sick with each outbreak.

He doesn't let things go quite like he used to now, though. I see a change in him.

My condolences. :hug: