Reply #14: I'm so sorry.

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My sister says she once visited a graveyard with a tall stone listing one man's lifetime accomplishments, full of degrees and awards. The list ended with, "but didn't have sense to come in out of the rain."

Which is why we are so proud of my BIL, who had the sense to call an ambulance when his heart rate suddenly shot up, we found out, to 200. Yesterday.

I'm guessing that family members are going to beat themselves up with what they should have done to get him to the doctor, because it hurts and they're angry as well as grieving because it feels avoidable. That's just part of the process. Forgiveness takes a while.

38 is too young.