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277. I think he should reconsider marrying you. I wonder if you have shown him your nasty postings here
wonder if he is aware of this side of you. You who take pride in running up your fiance's ex's lawyer bill yet scream "she wants vengeance" when he is told he must pay his arrears. Does he know he is marrying such a person?

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  -Is child support about supporting a child or about vengeance? blueamy66  May-07-11 05:38 PM   #0 
  - Do you think the expense of kids magically goes away on their 18th birthday?  PeaceNikki   May-07-11 05:40 PM   #1 
  - I think that parents of 18+ year old students should pay child support  kiva   May-07-11 05:41 PM   #2 
  - Its not about child support accruing after the child reaches 18  etherealtruth   May-07-11 07:33 PM   #101 
  - Ah, thank you - I hadn't been following this and didn't  kiva   May-07-11 08:31 PM   #116 
  - Non divorced parents are not REQUIRED to pay their kids way through college.  alphafemale   May-08-11 01:22 PM   #249 
  - Oh, The Huge Manatee!!!  Warren DeMontague   May-08-11 04:10 PM   #266 
     - There's a difference between a moral obligation or the "Right Thing"  alphafemale   May-08-11 05:22 PM   #268 
        - what state do you live in where parents are legally bound to pay for their  ladywnch   May-09-11 08:50 AM   #288 
  - "all non-divorced parents are required to send their children through college?" Since when?  raccoon   May-09-11 08:28 AM   #285 
  - If one "owes," one should pay.  Brickbat   May-07-11 05:41 PM   #3 
  - Child support is about financially supporting your child.  uppityperson   May-07-11 05:42 PM   #4 
  - Unfortunately, for some non-custodial parents, it's a vengeance thing,.  SharonAnn   May-07-11 06:31 PM   #62 
     - I have seen that also. "the custodial parent is living the high life so I'll get even by not paying  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:33 PM   #63 
  - Do you think there should be a statute of limitations on parenting?  lunatica   May-07-11 05:42 PM   #5 
  - very well said. Its a lifetime responsibility.  bobbolink   May-07-11 07:22 PM   #98 
  - Yes, I do.  blueamy66   May-07-11 08:03 PM   #112 
     - yes, because the govt. is always right and all bills stop at 18  dana_b   May-07-11 09:43 PM   #136 
     - You want to duck paying child support then when YOUR child reaches 18 have the debt canceled?  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:55 PM   #148 
     - So the hell with your kid after 18 because the government says you can move on?  lunatica   May-08-11 11:03 AM   #216 
        - Reading through, it is her step-child, her husband's child, husb is the non-custodial parent  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:11 AM   #218 
  - To be very sure, it is about supporting the child  Gman   May-07-11 05:43 PM   #6 
  - It's about spreading the costs.  boppers   May-07-11 05:43 PM   #7 
  - An order to pay back support ends when  blogslut   May-07-11 05:44 PM   #8 
  - exactly  shanti   May-07-11 08:02 PM   #111 
  - What do YOU think? Please answer your questions. Thank you. nt  uppityperson   May-07-11 05:44 PM   #9 
  - Deleted sub-thread  Name removed   May-07-11 06:14 PM   #37 
  - Turn it around: Is avoiding your child-support payments about getting back at the custodial parent?  PeaceNikki   May-07-11 05:45 PM   #10 
  - Yes, a lot of times it is about getting even with the custodial parent by  Liquorice   May-07-11 05:52 PM   #21 
  - Yup.  PeaceNikki   May-07-11 05:56 PM   #24 
  - Or... not being stuck with a giant financial burden  Taitertots   May-08-11 11:55 AM   #236 
     - Child support is about financially supporting your child. The person who wanted the divorce, or brok  uppityperson   May-08-11 12:03 PM   #239 
        - Your hypothetical situation doesn't contain enough information  Taitertots   May-08-11 12:24 PM   #242 
           - Child support is about financially supporting your child whether you have custody or not.  uppityperson   May-08-11 12:26 PM   #243 
              - That doesn't address why one party should pay for the choices of another  Taitertots   May-08-11 12:38 PM   #246 
                 - Because the question of 'choice' is irrelevant.  msanthrope   May-08-11 02:49 PM   #259 
                 - That is because choice here is irrelevant. The courts are looking out for the best interests of the  uppityperson   May-08-11 02:59 PM   #260 
  - What if the custodial parent is in debt because of the deadbeat?  Zanzoobar   May-07-11 05:45 PM   #11 
  - What is the custodial parent is NOT in debt, yet living the high life  blueamy66   May-07-11 06:16 PM   #40 
     - You feel you should have no financial obligation to support your child financially if the other pare  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:28 PM   #57 
     - Yes, Exactly.  blueamy66   May-07-11 07:55 PM   #106 
        - it's a court order fer chrissakes  Donnachaidh   May-07-11 08:02 PM   #110 
        - That is wrong. You are not removed from your obligations to your child simply because someone else  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:42 PM   #134 
     - dupe  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:28 PM   #58 
     - As I said  Zanzoobar   May-07-11 06:30 PM   #61 
     - And I will also post an adage my dear mum told me long before I was able to understand it.  Zanzoobar   May-07-11 06:34 PM   #64 
     - I'm pretty sure your child can have his/her payments  blogslut   May-07-11 06:35 PM   #65 
     - "travel, gambling, cooking, reading" are your interests, yet you live in a hole in the wall apt?  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:38 PM   #68 
     - I don't get you at all. You have a child - and you don't  stanwyck   May-07-11 06:55 PM   #75 
     - Sounds like non-custodial parent having a vengeance. eom  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:57 PM   #76 
     - It doesn't matter. The parents of a child have a responsibility  MineralMan   May-07-11 07:21 PM   #96 
     - I would think that karma would be the fact you live in a hole in the wall  tammywammy   May-07-11 09:06 PM   #125 
     - My ex used to complain the same as you  unapatriciated   May-08-11 05:13 AM   #196 
  - no, people who owe back child support should pay up and the money should  cali   May-07-11 05:45 PM   #12 
  - You should pay what you fucking owe.  Warren DeMontague   May-07-11 05:46 PM   #13 
  - It's about supporting the child, so pay up. n/t  msanthrope   May-07-11 05:46 PM   #14 
  - In theory, it's about supporting the child.  LostInAnomie   May-07-11 05:47 PM   #15 
  - it's about the security state.  Hannah Bell   May-07-11 05:48 PM   #16 
  - What do you mean? I don't understand your usage of these words/term. Thanks.  uppityperson   May-07-11 05:50 PM   #17 
  - it's about the continual & increasing surveillance & control of the poor &  Hannah Bell   May-07-11 05:56 PM   #25 
     - Child support is about watching/controlling the poor & working class? What? What do you mean  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:00 PM   #28 
     - a good deal of the owed child support you hear about is owed not the child  azurnoir   May-07-11 06:10 PM   #33 
        - Which makes sense to me. I don't see it as controlling the poor/working class though  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:17 PM   #42 
     - No it's not. It's about people supporting their own children.  Warren DeMontague   May-07-11 06:20 PM   #45 
     - that's a good thing, but when in fact the social situation = people in fact *cannot*  Hannah Bell   May-07-11 07:20 PM   #95 
        - How is it "about surveillance & suppression of the poor & the working class"? I already asked you  uppityperson   May-07-11 07:23 PM   #100 
           - the major consequence of the policy has not been to better provide for the  Hannah Bell   May-07-11 07:37 PM   #102 
              - I think you are saying that collecting child support criminalizes people. Is this right?  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:41 PM   #133 
                 - uh, no. i think you're boring me.  Hannah Bell   May-07-11 10:02 PM   #154 
                    - Excuse me for trying to clarify. It is too bad that you find asking for clarification so boring.  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:04 PM   #155 
                       - i'm sorry if you're sincere. to me your questions read as disingenuous.  Hannah Bell   May-08-11 04:56 AM   #194 
                          - I know we've gone round a few times in the past but yes, I'm trying to figure out what you mean here  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:07 AM   #217 
     - What a crock.  Skidmore   May-08-11 12:07 PM   #240 
  - Child support is 'about the security state'?  Warren DeMontague   May-07-11 05:51 PM   #19 
     - I suspect there's a "Marxist Random Quote Generator"  msanthrope   May-07-11 06:28 PM   #56 
     - is that anything like your pointed red-baiting generator? or your personal personal attack  Hannah Bell   May-07-11 07:21 PM   #97 
        - Who says I wasn't talking about Groucho and Chico?  msanthrope   May-07-11 08:47 PM   #120 
     - It means that it's awfully convenient for authorities to put people in...  JVS   May-07-11 08:33 PM   #117 
        - If convenience is the issue, people shouldn't have kids they're not willing to support.  Warren DeMontague   May-08-11 12:54 AM   #188 
        - You asked what that means. Now you seem to ignore it and ramble about people having kids they ...  JVS   May-08-11 01:30 AM   #192 
           - Having a kid isn't a crime. Refusing to pay court-ordered support for one is.  Warren DeMontague   May-08-11 04:48 AM   #193 
        - If a person is not making court ordered child support payments, it is a crime.  Arkansas Granny   May-08-11 08:43 AM   #207 
        - Not complying with a court order IS a crime. Having your wages garnished for non-payment of  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:19 AM   #222 
  - The custodial parent still had to buy food, clothing, etc., etc., while  Liquorice   May-07-11 05:50 PM   #18 
  - I agree. nt  ZombieHorde   May-07-11 06:05 PM   #31 
  - How about if the custodial parent didn't pay a thing for food, clothing, etc.?  blueamy66   May-07-11 07:57 PM   #107 
  - seems custodial parent re-married and now the ex is pissed off about it  Donnachaidh   May-07-11 08:07 PM   #113 
  - Then demand custody and make them pay you.  JVS   May-07-11 08:43 PM   #119 
  - Does the custodial parent live in fantasy land where raising kids is free? nt  Liquorice   May-07-11 09:07 PM   #126 
  - It sounds like the custodial parent found a new spouse with wealth.  JVS   May-07-11 09:27 PM   #130 
     - The custodial parent is still paying for the kid to be fed and clothed, etc.,  Liquorice   May-07-11 09:37 PM   #131 
     - New spouse has no duty to support someone else's kids nt  WolverineDG   May-08-11 07:17 AM   #203 
  - How could a custodial parent get out of paying for any of that?  tammywammy   May-07-11 09:08 PM   #127 
  - The custodial parent hasn't had to pay anything? How in world does that work?  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:46 PM   #137 
  - so the child is starved to death  mzteris   May-07-11 10:47 PM   #174 
  - This person is apparently the new partner of a man who owes child  Liquorice   May-08-11 12:42 AM   #186 
     - she better do herself a favor  mzteris   May-08-11 10:13 AM   #212 
  - well the kid is being clothed and fed and provided with a roof over their head.  ejpoeta   May-08-11 03:27 PM   #264 
  - While my ex was paying a certain percentage of his wages for child support,  Arkansas Granny   May-07-11 08:14 PM   #114 
     - An experience shared by many of us  etherealtruth   May-07-11 08:38 PM   #118 
     - Indeed. And many ex's then rant if custodial parent shows up with new socks. "How DARE  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:47 PM   #138 
     - Absolutely.  emilyg   May-07-11 10:54 PM   #177 
  - Yes.......nt  Wounded Bear   May-07-11 05:51 PM   #20 
  - Yes child support should go to  CC   May-07-11 05:52 PM   #22 
  - So deadbeats should be able to let someone else pay to raise/feed their kids  WolverineDG   May-07-11 05:55 PM   #23 
  - what an ignorant post  CreekDog   May-07-11 05:59 PM   #26 
  - When you play the game of mommie and daddie you got to pay the fiddler.  southernyankeebelle   May-07-11 05:59 PM   #27 
  - lol  La Lioness Priyanka   May-07-11 06:02 PM   #29 
  - +lolz nt  sudopod   May-07-11 06:07 PM   #32 
     - ++lulz n/t  demmiblue   May-07-11 06:12 PM   #35 
  - that depends is the 'child' fully independant at 18 has the child graduated high school?  azurnoir   May-07-11 06:04 PM   #30 
  - Why should owing back support have anything to do with the child  pnwmom   May-07-11 06:12 PM   #36 
  - in the cases I am talking about it is the state not the parent or child that is  azurnoir   May-07-11 07:04 PM   #82 
  - No thrid player involved.  blueamy66   May-07-11 06:18 PM   #44 
     - its not vengeance to want money that is owed to you. nt  La Lioness Priyanka   May-07-11 06:20 PM   #46 
     - Owed for what?  blueamy66   May-07-11 07:53 PM   #104 
        - Withholding legally mandated child support over envy that the custodial parent is able to  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:49 PM   #139 
        - Scarping by on $100,000 a yr? THAT is "scraping by"? Only $100,000/yr and barely scraping by  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:56 PM   #151 
     - I don't know. Was it about child support or vengeance when the hypothetical deadbeat parent  Warren DeMontague   May-07-11 06:21 PM   #47 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   May-07-11 07:59 PM   #108 
        - Ok. If that's how it is, just keep telling them to fuck off and don't pay them.  JVS   May-07-11 08:51 PM   #122 
        - Why did you get that far in arrears? How many months, yrs did you not pay?  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:50 PM   #141 
     - Well, it sounds like you are dealing with your own situation specific to you.  PeaceNikki   May-07-11 06:22 PM   #48 
     - Paying back child support you owe isn't "vengeance" any more than paying any other debt is  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:25 PM   #52 
     - This is sad ....  etherealtruth   May-07-11 06:53 PM   #73 
     - That would depend on the financial status of both the parent and child  azurnoir   May-07-11 07:06 PM   #84 
     - Easy. It's ABOUT CHILD SUPPORT . n/t  Gormy Cuss   May-07-11 10:18 PM   #163 
  - Is there a reason you're phrasing this as "either-or"?  WinkyDink   May-07-11 06:12 PM   #34 
  - It's supporting your family  Uben   May-07-11 06:15 PM   #38 
  - If you owe back child support, that debt doesn't go away  pnwmom   May-07-11 06:15 PM   #39 
  - Damn, guess I touched a nerve  blueamy66   May-07-11 06:17 PM   #41 
  - Your own, perhaps?  Warren DeMontague   May-07-11 06:23 PM   #49 
  - Naw....not mine...my nerves are shot.  blueamy66   May-07-11 07:54 PM   #105 
  - you touched my sense of justice nerve & my idiotic question of the day nerve. nt  La Lioness Priyanka   May-07-11 06:24 PM   #51 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   May-07-11 08:02 PM   #109 
  - What would ever make you think DUers feel paying your debts is a good thing?  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:26 PM   #53 
  - Stupid things do that on DU.  Forkboy   May-07-11 06:36 PM   #67 
  - Yes I'm sure you're very proud of yourself.  TBF   May-08-11 08:52 AM   #209 
  - Who do you think was paying for the shoes, clothes and housing  notadmblnd   May-07-11 06:18 PM   #43 
  - Well the Ex was giving stuff to the kids out of spite  CreekDog   May-07-11 06:28 PM   #59 
     - No, what the real pity is.. is that these two people brought children into this world  notadmblnd   May-07-11 06:38 PM   #69 
  - With your premise that even back support should end  Curmudgeoness   May-07-11 06:23 PM   #50 
  - Of course it's about vengeance.  Codeine   May-07-11 06:26 PM   #54 
  - why is it hurtful to help with expenses associated with your child?  La Lioness Priyanka   May-07-11 06:27 PM   #55 
  - How is it hurtful to be responsible for financially helping support your child?  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:29 PM   #60 
  - it's hurtful to the OP's gambling hobby  CreekDog   May-08-11 12:34 AM   #184 
  - Oy vey.  Forkboy   May-07-11 06:36 PM   #66 
  - Wow, you managed to outdo the OP  CreekDog   May-07-11 06:39 PM   #70 
  - Sometimes, it is ABSOLUTELY about both.  M0rpheus   May-07-11 09:52 PM   #144 
     - I'm not into the binary thing  KurtNYC   May-09-11 09:00 AM   #289 
  - Stop making it about YOU. It's about supporting a child YOU share responsibility for creating.  CelticThunder   May-07-11 06:44 PM   #71 
  - +1000  uppityperson   May-07-11 06:47 PM   #72 
  - thank you!! perfectly stated. n/t  dana_b   May-07-11 09:49 PM   #140 
  - He's too busy bangin' the 27-year-old "cougar" to be reading this.  WorseBeforeBetter   May-07-11 11:20 PM   #179 
  - I can't imagine there is any parent who really thinks  stanwyck   May-07-11 06:53 PM   #74 
  - The child support system is pretty FUBAR  ProgressiveProfessor   May-07-11 06:58 PM   #77 
  - If only child support could turn whiny, selfish little pouters into real men.  Maru Kitteh   May-07-11 06:59 PM   #78 
  - It's not always men who pay child support.  Codeine   May-07-11 07:00 PM   #79 
  - In fact, women are worse at paying court ordered child support. n/t  stevenleser   May-07-11 07:03 PM   #81 
  - Link? I see you posted downthread "If". Link to those stats please. thanks.  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:25 PM   #167 
  - True. In this case it is. Feel free to interchange "adult" with "man." The sentiment is still  Maru Kitteh   May-07-11 07:06 PM   #85 
     - OK, but think about this. If only 54% or so of men and 45% of women ordered to pay are current...  stevenleser   May-07-11 07:20 PM   #94 
        - Sometimes theres a reason selfish assholes of either sex find themselves divorced and w/o custody  Maru Kitteh   May-07-11 07:48 PM   #103 
           - At least you didnt respond to me with a sweeping generalization... oh wait...  stevenleser   May-07-11 09:22 PM   #129 
              - delete. I mistook you for the OP and was reacting thusly.  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:52 PM   #143 
                 - self delete  stevenleser   May-07-11 10:18 PM   #162 
                    - my apologies, I mistook you for OP. I was wrong. eom  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:20 PM   #164 
                       - See my #94 n/t  stevenleser   May-07-11 10:22 PM   #165 
                          - Link to reputable source regarding that statistic, otherwise it is just numbers  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:24 PM   #166 
                             - Here you go. Numbers have moved slightly since I last checked but not materially so  stevenleser   May-07-11 10:31 PM   #169 
                                - Thank you, those numbers are closer together than 54/45 you posted elsewhere. I found this  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:35 PM   #170 
                                   - The male figure has gone down in the last 3 years, probably due to the recession. I've heard that  stevenleser   May-07-11 10:38 PM   #172 
                                      - That could be. Now men/women's jobs are more even, incomes more even  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:43 PM   #173 
                                         - I knew I read it somewhere... here it is...  stevenleser   May-07-11 10:48 PM   #175 
  - And whiny, selfish little pouters into real women. nt  uppityperson   May-07-11 07:04 PM   #83 
  - Indeed! n/t  Maru Kitteh   May-07-11 07:07 PM   #86 
  - You might be surprised that real men use their own definitions. n/t  lumberjack_jeff   May-08-11 01:15 AM   #191 
  - It's actually about taking responsibility for your actions  auburngrad82   May-07-11 07:03 PM   #80 
  - Only if you see a well-cared for child as an affront, I guess.  Starry Messenger   May-07-11 07:07 PM   #87 
  - Yes, but the money should only be used on the kid...  Modern_Matthew   May-07-11 07:07 PM   #88 
  - you'd soon become a proud deadbeat in jail - and I would laugh  Maru Kitteh   May-07-11 07:10 PM   #89 
  - You abdicate all responsibility if other parent lives with another adult & does "things" with him?  uppityperson   May-07-11 07:17 PM   #91 
  - and how would you know?  dana_b   May-07-11 09:52 PM   #145 
  - "A lot of women use the money on themselves and that's not OK."  Mariana   May-07-11 10:49 PM   #176 
  - Deciding to be a parent is a LIFE TIME job.  bobbolink   May-07-11 07:13 PM   #90 
  - The non-custodial parent still played half the role of creating  MineralMan   May-07-11 07:18 PM   #92 
  - When do you STOP being a parent to your child? Never... that's when child support stops.  NotThisTime   May-07-11 07:18 PM   #93 
  - of course the parent should have to pay back. that money the primary spent that was not available  seabeyond   May-07-11 07:23 PM   #99 
  - so if the non-custodial parent  KT2000   May-07-11 08:27 PM   #115 
  - Yeah, the idea of making it so that you get off the hook for dodging until 18...  JVS   May-07-11 08:49 PM   #121 
  - You sound like an ass  tammywammy   May-07-11 09:00 PM   #123 
  - Bookmarking for next time someone says 'Sanctity of Marriage'  Bluenorthwest   May-07-11 09:04 PM   #124 
  - If you didn't want to support a child, you shouldn't have had a child  Lydia Leftcoast   May-07-11 09:13 PM   #128 
  - It is about supporting a child,  MadHound   May-07-11 09:39 PM   #132 
  - Or as in my case, I have my kids half the time and still fork over 25% of my net income to their....  Darkhawk32   May-07-11 10:06 PM   #156 
     - I bet your kids appreciate your being financially responsible for them.  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:08 PM   #157 
        - I sacrifice so much...  Darkhawk32   May-07-11 10:11 PM   #158 
  - In December you stated that you and your partner make 100,000 a year  Starry Messenger   May-07-11 09:43 PM   #135 
  - Interesting. The new partner of the non-custodial parent is sometimes  Liquorice   May-07-11 09:50 PM   #142 
  - Yeah. Otherwise known as "Starry's stepmother, 1984-1987"  Starry Messenger   May-07-11 09:54 PM   #147 
  - I had one of those too. It was awful. nt  Liquorice   May-07-11 09:55 PM   #149 
     - Here's another interesting post, blueamy66 getting mom's child support reduced:  Starry Messenger   May-07-11 10:15 PM   #160 
        - Interesting, and now she doesn't want to have to pay what he owes in arrears  uppityperson   May-07-11 10:16 PM   #161 
        - Ugh. n/t  Pithlet   May-07-11 10:26 PM   #168 
        - Oh good God, that brings back bad memories. That poor kid. I hope the father  Liquorice   May-08-11 12:36 AM   #185 
        - i had a friend whose boyfriend was a real jerk. wouldn't work extra hours etc.  ejpoeta   May-08-11 03:42 PM   #265 
  - There's no "rift".  blueamy66   May-08-11 07:01 AM   #197 
  - "My fiance and I make over $100k a year". Wow. Good catch. I'd like to know how long child support  uppityperson   May-07-11 09:53 PM   #146 
  - Oh shit. That one.  JVS   May-07-11 09:56 PM   #150 
  - Please expound.  blueamy66   May-08-11 07:06 AM   #199 
     - Wow, you're actually 40 and think this way?  Forkboy   May-08-11 11:53 AM   #234 
  - 100k BEFORE TAXES AND SUPPORT  blueamy66   May-08-11 07:04 AM   #198 
     - $60,000 from your own math  Starry Messenger   May-08-11 09:21 AM   #210 
        - My last thing to say.  blueamy66   May-08-11 11:35 AM   #229 
           - It brings you joy to cause suffering in others. You are so special. It brings you joy to be with a  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:39 AM   #231 
           - .  Bunny   May-08-11 01:15 PM   #248 
           - Thank you.  blueamy66   May-08-11 01:55 PM   #255 
              - If you run up a bill, you are responsible for paying it, even if the reason is not current.  uppityperson   May-08-11 03:01 PM   #262 
           - You've got that straight.  Starry Messenger   May-08-11 12:20 PM   #241 
              - FUNNY  blueamy66   May-08-11 01:53 PM   #254 
  - It is about supporting the child  treestar   May-07-11 09:57 PM   #152 
  - With my mother it was selfish greed.  bikebloke   May-07-11 10:02 PM   #153 
  - With some women, it's totally about greed and vengeance.  Darkhawk32   May-07-11 10:14 PM   #159 
  - It's taking care your CHILD!  mzteris   May-07-11 10:37 PM   #171 
  - It's about whatever you want it to be about.  shoutinfreud   May-07-11 10:55 PM   #178 
  - A good story about child support.....my brother and his first wife divorced  mrmpa   May-07-11 11:34 PM   #180 
  - back child support is owed regardless of how old the kid becomes  TorchTheWitch   May-07-11 11:40 PM   #181 
  - Barf.  Warren DeMontague   May-08-11 12:04 AM   #182 
  - You must be posting this in honor of Mother's Day  CreekDog   May-08-11 12:33 AM   #183 
  - They just don't appreciate the difficulties the 2nd wife can go through.  Warren DeMontague   May-08-11 12:50 AM   #187 
  - Well no....as my Mother is dead.  blueamy66   May-08-11 07:07 AM   #200 
     - Thanks all for the replies.  blueamy66   May-08-11 07:08 AM   #201 
     - all we know about you is what you say on this message board  CreekDog   May-08-11 10:19 AM   #214 
        - Like I said....  blueamy66   May-08-11 11:32 AM   #225 
           - Maybe you are wonderful  CreekDog   May-08-11 12:33 PM   #245 
              - I said that I wouldn't post anymore...but..I will  blueamy66   May-08-11 01:52 PM   #253 
     - And you aren't honoring other mothers, that's for sure  CreekDog   May-08-11 10:17 AM   #213 
        - I really don't give a shit, ya know?  blueamy66   May-08-11 11:30 AM   #223 
           - Seriously, why should you honor the mother of your step-child? What did she do anyway?  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:34 AM   #226 
  - When I turned 8 my parents divorced..my father never...  Tikki   May-08-11 01:08 AM   #189 
  - Obviously it *should* be the former.  lumberjack_jeff   May-08-11 01:13 AM   #190 
  - Another set of hypothetical examples and alternative endings for yours....  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:32 AM   #224 
  - My husband and his ex-wife did the money transfer  Mariana   May-08-11 07:30 PM   #275 
  - It's about responsibility to one's offspring and their well being.  mmonk   May-08-11 05:00 AM   #195 
  - Why can't it be about both? n/t  leeroysphitz   May-08-11 07:09 AM   #202 
  - my, my  trud   May-08-11 07:21 AM   #204 
  - IOW: If you weasel out of paying for 18 years, are you off the hook?  Courtesy Flush   May-08-11 08:12 AM   #205 
  - Seems like punishment, if it were about supporting the child it would be paid  jp11   May-08-11 08:20 AM   #206 
  - If the government supported the child  Courtesy Flush   May-08-11 02:16 PM   #258 
  - Unfortunately, there are so many stories of deadbeat parents with money  aikoaiko   May-08-11 08:45 AM   #208 
  - I know parents that are in debt up to their eyeballs because  Ilsa   May-08-11 09:55 AM   #211 
  - Wow. My husband is a prince among men  WCIL   May-08-11 10:43 AM   #215 
  - Must be nice to be so rich that $850 a month doesn't bankrupt you  Taitertots   May-08-11 11:13 AM   #220 
     - I realize I am lucky.  WCIL   May-08-11 11:34 AM   #227 
        - He was lucky enough to be wealthy so it isn't a hardship  Taitertots   May-08-11 11:42 AM   #232 
  - Child support should be abolished and replaced with a fair system  Taitertots   May-08-11 11:11 AM   #219 
  - You think that is fair? Wow. I'm glad that most places have a formula these days  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:37 AM   #230 
  - No one should have to pay for a child they don't want or don't get equal access to n/t  Taitertots   May-08-11 11:52 AM   #233 
     - Everyone should be responsible for their child, no matter access or desire. nt  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:54 AM   #235 
        - Everyone should be responsible for their choices, not the choices of other people  Taitertots   May-08-11 12:30 PM   #244 
           - Anyone who makes a child is making the choice to financially contribute to supporting their child  uppityperson   May-08-11 03:00 PM   #261 
  - Implicit in your post  CreekDog   May-08-11 01:01 PM   #247 
  - Exactly how much do you think it costs to support a child?  Skidmore   May-08-11 11:16 AM   #221 
  - She's complaining about her new husband having to pay arrears on child support he avoided  uppityperson   May-08-11 11:35 AM   #228 
     - There are still childrearing costs that extend into early adulthood.  Skidmore   May-08-11 12:00 PM   #237 
     - I am in very strong agreement.  uppityperson   May-08-11 12:02 PM   #238 
     - I'm not married yet. Geez.  blueamy66   May-08-11 01:59 PM   #257 
        - I think you ought to reconsider getting married.  msanthrope   May-08-11 03:01 PM   #263 
        - Well, your not invited anyway. You'd ruin the mood.  blueamy66   May-08-11 07:29 PM   #274 
           - I think he should reconsider marrying you. I wonder if you have shown him your nasty postings here  uppityperson   May-08-11 08:18 PM   #277 
           - Oh, I think every pot has its lid, ya' know? n/t  msanthrope   May-09-11 07:57 AM   #280 
           - Thank you. I am incredible.  blueamy66   May-09-11 08:02 AM   #281 
              - Your poor stepchild. n/t  msanthrope   May-09-11 08:40 AM   #286 
           - Too bad your 'degree' in Criminal Justice didn't teach you not to incriminate yourself.  msanthrope   May-09-11 08:24 AM   #284 
        - Sure, thanks for the invitation. I'd love to meet your fiance. Thanks!  uppityperson   May-10-11 11:16 AM   #290 
  - It's about the Child and it's also about fairness  TNLib   May-08-11 01:26 PM   #250 
  - Bullshit, if you owe back child support it means you didn't pay your child support  Kurska   May-08-11 01:38 PM   #251 
  - I can't believe the dead beat Dads on DU  TNLib   May-08-11 01:44 PM   #252 
  - Funny what comes out of the woodwork when certain topics are posted  CreekDog   May-08-11 06:20 PM   #273 
  - It is about supporting the child  quaker bill   May-08-11 01:59 PM   #256 
  - For starters, if there's back child support the other parent should be compensated for picking up  franzia99   May-08-11 04:54 PM   #267 
  - Child support is about supporting the child. If some one is ordered  Synicus Maximus   May-08-11 05:53 PM   #269 
  - Really depends on the case  Taverner   May-08-11 06:06 PM   #270 
  - I thought it ALWAYS stopped when the child becomes legally an adult?  Odin2005   May-08-11 06:16 PM   #271 
  - The OPs also upset because her partner has to pay the child support he's in arrears for. n/t  tammywammy   May-08-11 06:19 PM   #272 
  - No. Not always. It depends.  msanthrope   May-09-11 08:50 AM   #287 
  - I am so tired of encountering people who whine about their child support obligation.  BlueIris   May-08-11 07:37 PM   #276 
  - the person who loves the child supports the child thru college  pitohui   May-08-11 08:59 PM   #278 
  - It about supporting the child  cherish44   May-08-11 09:03 PM   #279 
  - I take pleasure in the fact that someone who enjoys fucking with people is being fucked with.  PeaceNikki   May-09-11 08:04 AM   #282 
  - I can only speak as the parent who went without child support for a few years.  w8liftinglady   May-09-11 08:14 AM   #283 
 

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