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13. Kids are easy and get the basic sense of fairness. They don't need many details.
Edited on Mon Oct-11-10 10:00 PM by Pirate Smile
They really do just react with an "ok" and off to something else.

I've talked to mine recently about being on the lookout for any bullying or teasing based on this issue in particular because of the increased risk of suicide.
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  -I had the gay talk with my 6-year-old a couple of days ago. It went very well. krispos42  Oct-11-10 09:43 PM   #0 
  - ...  pinto   Oct-11-10 09:47 PM   #1 
  - So I did okay?  krispos42   Oct-11-10 09:48 PM   #2 
     - Yeah, you did.  pinto   Oct-11-10 09:50 PM   #4 
        - Thanks. That means a lot coming from you.  krispos42   Oct-11-10 09:52 PM   #7 
  - Handling it as you did makes for a better mature world. It's such a shame we  RKP5637   Oct-11-10 09:48 PM   #3 
  - I'm trying to make it easy-going. I figure if I don't blow up about it, he won't either.  krispos42   Oct-11-10 09:51 PM   #5 
  - Yep, I think you did a great job! And kindness is so much more rewarding to  RKP5637   Oct-11-10 09:54 PM   #9 
  - The GOP and their backers have been working hard to 'grow down' the american public. Now a certain  applegrove   Oct-11-10 10:11 PM   #20 
  - Yes, they remind me of "Children of the Corn."  RKP5637   Oct-11-10 11:11 PM   #34 
  - It's unfortunate that somewhere down the line parents will then have to explain  grace0418   Oct-12-10 12:32 PM   #69 
     - Yep, sad isn't it, having to explain how some prefer hatred and violence to love and kindness. n/t  RKP5637   Oct-12-10 02:33 PM   #77 
  - Okay, but sometimes a man falls in love with a man or a woman falls in love with a woman. Okay?"  givemebackmycountry   Oct-11-10 09:51 PM   #6 
  - I'm also glad he's not around my former in-laws anymore  krispos42   Oct-11-10 09:55 PM   #11 
  - Kudos to you.  David Zephyr   Oct-11-10 09:52 PM   #8 
  - that's about how it went for me and my son a few years back  proud patriot   Oct-11-10 09:54 PM   #10 
  - I figure I don't need to gush about concepts like diversity and civil rights right now.  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:02 PM   #16 
     - i think his knowing s and b and your succinct explanation of it will go  ejpoeta   Oct-12-10 06:46 PM   #94 
  - Nice story and the way you handled it.  revolution breeze   Oct-11-10 09:55 PM   #12 
  - A parent meeting? Yikes.  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:05 PM   #17 
     - Chrissy was a very sensitive woman  revolution breeze   Oct-12-10 07:27 AM   #41 
  - Kids are easy and get the basic sense of fairness. They don't need many details.  Pirate Smile   Oct-11-10 09:56 PM   #13 
  - You're a great dad  ruggerson   Oct-11-10 09:57 PM   #14 
  - Well I'm going back to school. Not sure what for yet, though.  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:10 PM   #19 
  - seems complex for a 6 yo...  GSLevel9   Oct-11-10 10:02 PM   #15 
  - Not sure, that's why I used the example. I didn't want to use the word "sex"...  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:08 PM   #18 
  - They know what "boys" and "girls" are so yeah, they know the basics.  uncommon   Oct-12-10 08:26 AM   #49 
  - They've known the difference between men and women for quite a while by then.  HuckleB   Oct-12-10 02:48 PM   #81 
  - Ya done good. Sounds like S & B probably helped since they  Booster   Oct-11-10 10:14 PM   #21 
  - i think all parents should do this, even if they don't personally know a gay couple  JI7   Oct-11-10 10:18 PM   #22 
  - I was lucky. I got to give the gay talk without ever speaking a word.  Mister Ed   Oct-11-10 10:19 PM   #23 
  - That's a good story.  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:26 PM   #25 
  - Beautiful!  Dappleganger   Oct-12-10 07:25 AM   #40 
  - Well done.  wakemewhenitsover   Oct-11-10 10:25 PM   #24 
  - Nice...  one_voice   Oct-11-10 10:27 PM   #26 
  - YET. Your car didn't explode YET.  the redcoat   Oct-11-10 10:30 PM   #27 
  - So you're telling me I should invest in a fire extiguisher?  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:35 PM   #29 
  - your child is lucky...it's easier to pass on love than hate  spanone   Oct-11-10 10:34 PM   #28 
  - He's doing so well here. Very stable household environment, great schools,...  krispos42   Oct-11-10 10:37 PM   #30 
  - My child used to have playdates over a friend's house with 2 Moms.  FourScore   Oct-11-10 10:45 PM   #31 
  - Where did the name "Aidan" come from, anyway?  krispos42   Oct-12-10 08:23 AM   #48 
     - Irish names are in vogue this generation.  Bette Noir   Oct-12-10 12:04 PM   #68 
     - None of those, this time. But there a lot of those kids floating around, aren't there? n/t  krispos42   Oct-12-10 09:17 PM   #99 
     - I think Sex and the City is at least partly to blame. n/t  iris27   Oct-12-10 06:29 PM   #93 
  - It's never to early to explain love K&R n/t  FreeState   Oct-11-10 10:55 PM   #32 
  - The hard part is explaining hate  starroute   Oct-11-10 11:07 PM   #33 
  - Wow, glad I was out to lunch that day.  madmax   Oct-12-10 12:29 AM   #36 
  - You get Number 1 Dad  madmax   Oct-12-10 12:27 AM   #35 
  - I had this happen a dozen years ago when my goddaughter was also 6.  elocs   Oct-12-10 05:51 AM   #37 
  - I figured "love" was better than "lust after", or something stronger  krispos42   Oct-12-10 08:27 AM   #51 
  - Well done.  timtom   Oct-12-10 05:56 AM   #38 
  - When I had the talk with our oldest son...  Dappleganger   Oct-12-10 07:15 AM   #39 
  - That's what I couldn't understand.. I was taught it was a sin to live together and not be married,  glowing   Oct-12-10 08:27 AM   #50 
  - Very nicely explained...  Rhythm   Oct-12-10 07:36 AM   #42 
  - That's pretty much how I explained it to my 6-year old. She had no problem with it.  uncommon   Oct-12-10 07:43 AM   #43 
  - Cool story!  bigwillq   Oct-12-10 07:45 AM   #44 
  - Are there DU meetups here?  krispos42   Oct-12-10 08:21 AM   #47 
     - There have been some in CT  bigwillq   Oct-12-10 04:04 PM   #87 
     - I missed the last one  NewJeffCT   Oct-12-10 04:07 PM   #89 
     - We've had a few in my 7 years on DU  NewJeffCT   Oct-12-10 04:05 PM   #88 
  - You're a wonderful father and you're corroborating his experience with them  lunatica   Oct-12-10 07:48 AM   #45 
  - That's pretty much how it went down with my 5-yo.  rucky   Oct-12-10 07:50 AM   #46 
  - From the earliest age she could understand, we've told our daughter  Wednesdays   Oct-12-10 09:15 AM   #52 
  - It really IS that simple.  AngryOldDem   Oct-12-10 09:19 AM   #53 
  - My sister had a similar talk with my 4-YO nephew.  ThatsMyBarack   Oct-12-10 09:30 AM   #54 
  - Uh-oh...you made Baby Jesus cry...  joeybee12   Oct-12-10 09:32 AM   #55 
  - Wish all kids were blessed with a parent such as you........  GoldenOldie   Oct-12-10 09:55 AM   #56 
  - That's a wonderful story! K&R  terrya   Oct-12-10 10:31 AM   #57 
  - What is so difficult  MH1   Oct-12-10 10:54 AM   #58 
  - What a good Dad you are.  Bluenorthwest   Oct-12-10 11:06 AM   #59 
  - Well done. Your body language and voice tone were at least as important  Nothing Without Hope   Oct-12-10 11:07 AM   #60 
  - I was driving, which typically relaxes me.  krispos42   Oct-12-10 09:02 PM   #97 
     - Interesting! I hadn't realized that. I drive in eastern Massachusetts  Nothing Without Hope   Oct-12-10 09:20 PM   #100 
        - I just moved back after 9 years in the Upper Midwest  krispos42   Oct-12-10 09:22 PM   #101 
  - Just the facts, Sir.  davsand   Oct-12-10 11:27 AM   #61 
  - I had a conversation with my son when he was about six. It went like this:  Arugula Latte   Oct-12-10 11:29 AM   #62 
  - I hope this isn't too graphic,  theaocp   Oct-12-10 11:36 AM   #63 
  - My parents were pretty much the same. It started with thunderstorms. I was  tpsbmam   Oct-12-10 01:01 PM   #73 
  - Beautiful words .... it's just "love" ...like anyone else loving someone ....  defendandprotect   Oct-12-10 11:47 AM   #64 
  - Thanks for this. Your response will help me with my kids when the time comes  AllyCat   Oct-12-10 11:52 AM   #65 
  - "My new car didn't explode"...  awoke_in_2003   Oct-12-10 11:56 AM   #66 
  - Super-duper.  Bette Noir   Oct-12-10 11:56 AM   #67 
  - You did good! Thank you.  Better Believe It   Oct-12-10 12:36 PM   #70 
  - lucky kid you got  stuntcat   Oct-12-10 12:38 PM   #71 
  - Oh, I got to tell you about the gay talk I had with my nephew about the same age  Roon   Oct-12-10 12:42 PM   #72 
  - Beautifully done -- simple & straightforward. Good going, Dad! K&R n/t  tpsbmam   Oct-12-10 01:07 PM   #74 
  - My sister is a lesbian and she came out before my children were born..  rainlillie   Oct-12-10 02:13 PM   #75 
  - I love that story - thanks - Kids are such good examples sometimes!!  tomm2thumbs   Oct-12-10 02:14 PM   #76 
  - Nice job.  HuckleB   Oct-12-10 02:45 PM   #78 
  - When your son chooses to be gay, this post will mark the trigger...  kirby   Oct-12-10 02:48 PM   #79 
  - K&R. nt  DesertFlower   Oct-12-10 02:48 PM   #80 
  - pretty much the way I explained to my kids about their Aunt.  Saphire   Oct-12-10 02:53 PM   #82 
  - Thank you. I sent a link to this post to my family and friends.  pgodbold   Oct-12-10 03:17 PM   #83 
  - K&R. nt  OnyxCollie   Oct-12-10 03:35 PM   #84 
  - My daughter was taught about this in kindergarten  NewJeffCT   Oct-12-10 04:02 PM   #85 
  - I can imagine how that would go in a RW school system  krispos42   Oct-12-10 09:07 PM   #98 
  - Beautiful post. K & R.  chill_wind   Oct-12-10 04:03 PM   #86 
  - Good on ya, krispos42.  foxfeet   Oct-12-10 04:18 PM   #90 
  - Beautifully said. Good job! n/t  bear425   Oct-12-10 04:19 PM   #91 
  - I had a similar conversation with my child about a year ago  TNLib   Oct-12-10 04:29 PM   #92 
  - In the 80's, when I was in 2nd grade, a girl yelled at me "Your mom is gay!"  Heddi   Oct-12-10 07:07 PM   #95 
  - LOL  krispos42   Oct-12-10 08:54 PM   #96 
  - Yeah, you did real good  dickthegrouch   Oct-12-10 09:41 PM   #102 
 

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