Reply #32: What never ceases to amaze me...

[Sapphocrat]

...is the number of different ways there are to demand that queers just shut up and get over it.

I'm tired of people who think they have the right to tell us how we should feel, and to what degree we should feel it. We've heard all the variations, you know -- and now we can add to the list: We're wrong to acknowledge our genuine relief that Jerry Falwell is finally out of our lives, although the damage he wrought never will be.

Oh, sorry, you didn't say "wrong," did you? You said "pathetic."

There are only two things that are really pathetic: The first is telling others that their feelings are wrong, and should be suppressed. As if we gay folks haven't heard that all our lives; it always comes back to telling us that our feelings are wrong, and should be suppressed. Funny how that works.

The second is the notion some people have that it is their mission to impose certain standards of behavior on everyone else. Funny how that works: Jerry Falwell thought it was his mission to impose certain standards of behavior on everyone else.

Here's a little tip: Jerry Falwell wasn't my dad. And neither are you.

Next: Stop implying I've said things I haven't. In what way have I "(decried) any attempt at even the tiniest speck of civility"? Where -- in this or any other thread in all the years I've been on DU -- have I ever wished "suffering and death" on anyone? The "if not you" does not cut it, buster; it's an attempt to plant doubt in the mind of the reader about all queers, and it's a cheap shot.

And slipping in the words "unhealthy and/or immoral"-- Wait a minute, did you actually use the word immoral? Assuming you even read my OP (and I am not at all convinced you did), you just finished reading about violence against queers provoked by decades of "Christian" hate speech -- and yet you have the audacity to cast a moral judgment on my words, which harm no one? My God... Have you no sense of irony?

Next: Considering that the OP was my first foray into the Falwell Wars, versus the number of your posts on this issue over the past few days -- and considering the vehemence with which you admonish everyone you oppose -- I know I'm not the one apparently compelled to "vigorously rationalize" my position at every opportunity, and browbeat everyone into thinking as I do.

Project much?

Finally: Your temerity in trying to psychoanalyze me -- or even "some small part" of me -- is appallingly condescending and offensive. You know nothing about me, except that my post struck a nerve with you, and you don't like it one bit.

By the way, in case you can't recognize civility when you do see it, I am being quite civil with you -- more generously so than you may deserve. If you want to read it any other way -- and I expect you will -- that's your problem, not mine. I was through, long ago, with letting anybody else's hangups become my problem.