Reply #12: well,

[seabeyond]

a child is different. but

what i experienced and was able to say to myself, i know my mom was in pain and in our 38 yr relationship we had nothing left unsaid. i dont know what the relationship was like for your friend and her daughter, but the biggest blessing in all of this, is i had said everything to my mom, in the course of the years, that i would want her to know. i knew she loved me. she knew i loved her and respected her and appreciated her. that comforted me.

that truly allowed me to accept her choice

again, i say, it is different from a mother doing it and a child doing it. but there is that.