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bobbolink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-17-07 04:25 PM
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22. I feel so honored that you would share all that with me!
Please, again, give your wife a hug for me! I have some understanding of what she's been through, and having not even met her, I have a fondness for her in how she's made it through.

It's something like 90% of marriages don't survive the loss of a child, so give yourselves LOTS of strokes for overcoming such odds! There must be a real strength there, now! :applause:

The two couples of the shooters of Columbine are still together, too, and that says to me that, in the middle of all the mess, there was something right there in their relationships. (You may be interested to know that the pastor who was ministering to both couples was run out of town because people were so angry with him for considering these people to be his "flock", also!! How's that for true "christianity"?)

"our modern society has not rituals to deal with loss, so people are at a loss as to what to say."

Absolutely! BUT... the big question is, WHY don't we have these "rituals" in place? It's not like losing a child, or suffering a loss alone is something rare anymore.

Just the other day, I said to a friend that every one of these catastrophies triggers those of us who have, in some way, experienced some of this ourselves, and MOST of us didn't have the kind of outpouring of support that the Columbine or Va. Tech people had. So, how 'bout recognizing that, and putting something into place? It's not like it will never ever happen again!

They need to have a "ritual", as you said, already planned, and a list of churches or other venues where it could be done on short notice, NOT for those directly involved with the crisis in the news, but for those locally who are being triggered by it, and need their own support and consolation.

If we truly want strong families and strong communities, this is exactly what they will do. And if a small brain like mine can think of this, then surely those who are trained in ministry MUST have an inkling!

Again, I appreciate so much your sharing with me what is still painful, and my thoughts will continue to be with you.

:hug: :grouphug: :hug:
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  -For Mothers Who have LOST Children--alternative Mothers Day Message, and bobbolink  May-13-07 03:21 PM   #0 
  - Happy Mother's Day Bobbolink...  tinfoilinfor2005   May-13-07 03:50 PM   #1 
  - Dear bobbolink -- Happy Mother's Day!  antigop   May-13-07 04:14 PM   #2 
  - Happy Mother's Day.  H2O Man   May-13-07 04:44 PM   #3 
  - Beautiful K/R  omega minimo   May-13-07 05:20 PM   #4 
  - Happy Mother's Day Bobbie  nam78_two   May-13-07 05:22 PM   #5 
  - You have had a hard life Bobbolink  Reterr   May-13-07 05:25 PM   #6 
  - Happy Mother's Day, bobbolink.  whereismyparty   May-13-07 05:34 PM   #7 
  - Oh Bobbolink ...  etherealtruth   May-13-07 05:36 PM   #8 
  - Oh bobbolink ... I hope you don't mind  Catchawave   May-13-07 06:02 PM   #9 
  - The Earth, too, is our mother. ALL mothers deserve honor today.  calimary   May-13-07 06:24 PM   #10 
  - Tears in my eyes here.  Cleita   May-13-07 06:31 PM   #11 
  - a child was taken from us on mother's day weekend.  Lerkfish   May-13-07 06:53 PM   #12 
  - I'm so sorry that happened to you!  bobbolink   May-14-07 04:01 PM   #14 
     - Right back at ya...  Lerkfish   May-14-07 09:46 PM   #15 
        - "I don't think there's anything worse than losing a child."  bobbolink   May-15-07 12:10 PM   #16 
           - I know what you mean...we went to a grief counselor who told us (hard to believe)  Lerkfish   May-15-07 02:21 PM   #17 
              - It was all about her. Yes, I can definitely believe it.  bobbolink   May-15-07 07:32 PM   #18 
                 - things are better now, My heart goes out to you for your situation.  Lerkfish   May-16-07 12:19 PM   #20 
                    - I feel so honored that you would share all that with me!  bobbolink   May-17-07 04:25 PM   #22 
  - Oh, Bobbie,  brer cat   May-13-07 07:53 PM   #13 
  - Thank you for your kind thoughtfulness  JNelson6563   May-15-07 07:50 PM   #19 
  - That is a beautiful message  renate   May-16-07 12:26 PM   #21 

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