Reply #251: Actually, in my case

[Mopar151]

A couple-three-four ladies of my acquaintance clued me in over a period of time. But, a couple of them are of the crazy brave persuasion themselves (hillclimb drivers/ProRally navigators). They appreciate the difference between brave and macho - and told me, in a nice way, that Men should wear mens' underwear, not "tighty whiteys" - and that you can only screw about an hour a day, and a good lady might like someone she can talk to the rest of the time.
I met my sweetie, and we're fine - but a lot of what they told me got reinforced when I worked the swing shift with the "hawt" bartender and a couple lesbian soldiers (1 Iraq vet, 1 NG). Phony tough did not sell with those ladies at all! (2nd break was like a radio call in show - Ms. Hawt used to tell the other guy on the shift "take notes, Joel, this is the important part!")