Reply #35: Thanks for posting that - I reached a very similar conclusion

[DeschutesRiver]

I heard the gossip, but when I added up everything I'd read and every interviw I'd seen, I had the exact same thoughts that you expressed. That phrase "what we see is what we look like" is perfect. My thought had been "what people are thinking about him/assuming about him says more about them than about him." I esp. listened to Mr. Jackson himself, and I realized the tragic part of his life must have been more than he could bear at times.

The whole thing makes me feel bad when I reflect upon it.