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Sun Jun-28-09 06:48 PM
Response to Reply #66 |
| 72. I do the cold shoulder good. I'm also a champ @ walking away. |
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I don't know how I can fix that. We'll see if I get or allow the chance.
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| -Ladies, if you knew your dad slept around while married to your mom... |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:01 PM |
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I had a brother who was born one month before me |
CatWoman |
Jun-28-09 04:04 PM |
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Bet. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:42 PM |
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My ex has a brother who was born 4 months after him. |
OmmmSweetOmmm |
Jun-28-09 05:45 PM |
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I spent minutes staring at your post wondering, "how is that biologically possible?" |
HamdenRice |
Jun-29-09 10:10 AM |
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my father waited until he was 60, couldnt get it up, and blame mom |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 04:08 PM |
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My problem is my mom. She can't get over it. I'm trying to get her to get into |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:22 PM |
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Your mom isn't acting childishly... |
colinmom71 |
Jun-28-09 04:58 PM |
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I talk to her about counseling every day. I'm gonna take your reading suggestion |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:35 PM |
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I was going to suggest |
MuseRider |
Jun-28-09 06:07 PM |
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my mom never drank. she started drinking. quit eating. went to therapy and they gave her drugs |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 08:44 PM |
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I have two opposing thoughts here. |
noamnety |
Jun-28-09 04:10 PM |
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So sorry, posted in the wrong place! (nt) |
colinmom71 |
Jun-28-09 04:49 PM |
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I'm still wondering what affect it will have on my sons when they find out about their mom's affair |
villager |
Jun-28-09 04:13 PM |
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For me it was huge. I don't know why. I'm hoping that your boys don't have |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:18 PM |
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How could you NOT let it impact you? |
Raine1967 |
Jun-28-09 04:18 PM |
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Thank you. Oh my mom plays a huge role in this whole thing. She won't |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:28 PM |
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ROFL! |
Raine1967 |
Jun-28-09 05:23 PM |
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You are not nutz. |
travelingtypist |
Jun-28-09 04:22 PM |
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Thank you. I had those same issues as a kid but with an extended relative. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:30 PM |
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That sounds like a solid, sensible plan. |
travelingtypist |
Jun-28-09 04:42 PM |
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yes, we knew at a young age that our father cheated on mom . . . |
ellenfl |
Jun-28-09 04:22 PM |
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Did your dad know you figured it out? |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:46 PM |
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i don't know. we never discussed it that i recall. but then, |
ellenfl |
Jun-29-09 08:14 AM |
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Sorry about his callous response to you. |
salin |
Jun-28-09 04:24 PM |
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Yup still together. It is true that my dad has this 'it's all about me' thing |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:52 PM |
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That sounds like a wise approach |
salin |
Jun-28-09 04:56 PM |
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You can't help how you feel, so if it did have an effect on you |
OKNancy |
Jun-28-09 04:26 PM |
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I'm mad cuz still afterall these years he's still talking to the woman. Even |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:57 PM |
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No but I'd lose a lot of respect for my dad. Which is very sad. |
Inspired |
Jun-28-09 04:26 PM |
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I have. I can't tell him that cuz I think it'd hurt him. I think he can figure it out though. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:00 PM |
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I would have had a very hard time with it |
get the red out |
Jun-28-09 04:27 PM |
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My dad was a serial cheater. Kept company with several other woman. |
calimary |
Jun-28-09 04:32 PM |
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Wow. Sorry to hear that but my story is the same but with a twist. |
Mandate My Ass |
Jun-28-09 04:52 PM |
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Hey, what can you do, she said, shrugging again. |
calimary |
Jun-28-09 05:06 PM |
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It's funny what little kids key on. Your sister was abandonment. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:11 PM |
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Wow! Great post. Congratulatinos on your 33+ marriage. Sounds like |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:07 PM |
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Actually, yeah, I am pretty happy, all things considered. |
calimary |
Jun-28-09 05:19 PM |
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Infidelity |
MuseRider |
Jun-28-09 06:37 PM |
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VERY true. They don't call it a messy business for nothing! |
calimary |
Jun-28-09 11:59 PM |
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Trust, abandonment, sure it has an impact. |
EFerrari |
Jun-28-09 04:34 PM |
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I need to work on forgiving my dad. I wish my brother were here in GA |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:19 PM |
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I really hear that because I didn't have any sibs to help me deal with them. |
EFerrari |
Jun-28-09 05:24 PM |
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Somehow you have to get to the point where you forgive your dad for YOUR sake |
nini |
Jun-28-09 04:36 PM |
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I told him today so I think I can let it go. It was time and today was the day. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:25 PM |
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You have every right to your feelings. |
demmiblue |
Jun-28-09 04:39 PM |
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You have every right to be mad |
ayeshahaqqiqa |
Jun-28-09 04:43 PM |
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My father was faithful to my mother for 40 years |
undeterred |
Jun-28-09 04:49 PM |
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Yes, OMG that is rare. I don't think any of my relatives have had faithful |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 04:54 PM |
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oh that is sad. i have more people in my family that have had no cheating |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 09:37 PM |
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Hi My Friend |
goclark |
Jun-28-09 04:56 PM |
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Thank you. Great post. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:30 PM |
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I wonder whether marriages suck "because of infidelity," or... |
InvisibleTouch |
Jun-28-09 04:59 PM |
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Possession? |
mamaleah |
Jun-28-09 05:05 PM |
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I don't advocate lying and sneaking around... |
InvisibleTouch |
Jun-28-09 05:26 PM |
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I guess I look at it more self-lessly |
mamaleah |
Jun-28-09 05:32 PM |
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One can write one's own vows -- nobody is "locked" into a relationship. |
anneboleyn |
Jun-28-09 09:04 PM |
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It's not that hard. |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 09:33 PM |
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You might enjoy Against Love: A Polemic by Laura Kipnis |
Sisaruus |
Jun-28-09 05:57 PM |
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I couldn't disagree with your post more. People know what they are getting |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 06:10 PM |
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Yup kinda like |
mamaleah |
Jun-28-09 06:18 PM |
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15 yrs in hubby and i amazed is so easy. both of us like our marriage, enjoy marriage. |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 09:04 PM |
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It's your model for relationships but not your only one. |
wickerwoman |
Jun-28-09 05:00 PM |
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Going forward starts today. You are right about that. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 06:07 PM |
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What about those whose Mom slept around while married to their dad |
UndertheOcean |
Jun-28-09 05:03 PM |
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I saw this after I posted my reply below |
pipi_k |
Jun-28-09 05:16 PM |
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I could be wrong but imho, it's not about men or women |
EFerrari |
Jun-28-09 05:26 PM |
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I think it is the same thing. If my mom had done it I think it would have been |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 06:05 PM |
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i dont think it matters much on the gender, do you? not |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 09:07 PM |
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It would certainly have an impact on me if I knew one of my parents were not faithful to the other. |
mamaleah |
Jun-28-09 05:07 PM |
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"Boys will be boys" - the response of a total asswipe. |
Rabrrrrrr |
Jun-28-09 05:09 PM |
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I know right! I told him that he said it today. I think it shocked him. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 06:04 PM |
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In my house, it was the opposite problem |
pipi_k |
Jun-28-09 05:14 PM |
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his vow was taken with his wife...not you...I can appreciate that. I think in some |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 06:03 PM |
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Here are some interesting numbers. Infidelity is very common. |
JDPriestly |
Jun-28-09 05:29 PM |
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"Monogamy Myth" Straight up. Thanks for the numbers and the link. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:44 PM |
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UNTIL YOU ARE IN THAT SITUATION YOU REALLY CAN'T JUDGE = |
southernyankeebelle |
Jun-28-09 05:33 PM |
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Oh I'm not judging mom. She needs help though. Seriously. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 05:37 PM |
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please stop yelling. |
anneboleyn |
Jun-28-09 09:07 PM |
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i figured |
seabeyond |
Jun-28-09 09:34 PM |
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you are not crazy at all |
dana_b |
Jun-28-09 06:08 PM |
#66 |
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I do the cold shoulder good. I'm also a champ @ walking away. |
xultar |
Jun-28-09 06:48 PM |
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Ir's YOUR choice - you can CHOOSE to "get over it" and lead YOUR OWN LIFE |
TankLV |
Jun-28-09 06:11 PM |
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It happened a long long time ago, but |
asjr |
Jun-28-09 06:40 PM |
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These things are complicated |
Blasphemer |
Jun-28-09 07:06 PM |
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That wasn't the most important factor, although it certainly had an influence. |
LWolf |
Jun-28-09 07:29 PM |
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Yup. I've come to realize that platonic is good. Unless it is Vin Diesel |
xultar |
Jun-29-09 09:14 AM |
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he did cheat, it did affect me |
fortyfeetunder |
Jun-28-09 07:58 PM |
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For me it's caused huge commitment issues 1. I don't want it to happen |
xultar |
Jun-29-09 09:05 AM |
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I have a half brother born of an affair my dad had |
Skittles |
Jun-28-09 08:01 PM |
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Looks like you gained something good at least. That's kinda cool. |
xultar |
Jun-29-09 08:45 AM |
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My half-brother on my dad's side |
PSzymeczek |
Jun-28-09 08:37 PM |
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My dad cheated on my mom for years |
tammywammy |
Jun-28-09 08:49 PM |
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I love my dad. He's been a great father, I just feel that I let his actions |
xultar |
Jun-29-09 08:43 AM |
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I had that coversation too! |
tammywammy |
Jun-29-09 11:21 AM |
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How about this? |
Bucky |
Jun-29-09 12:08 AM |
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Thanks Bucky. I'm feeling much lighter today! |
xultar |
Jun-29-09 08:39 AM |
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Hope we helped you to feel better |
goclark |
Jun-29-09 08:46 AM |
#93 |
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