Reply #35: It's your model for relationships but not your only one.

[wickerwoman]

You have the choice to take a negative example and learn from it by not following it. As an adult, you have the ability to look around for other relationships to model your own on.

My parents have a pretty shitty relationship and what I realized far too late (at about 28) is that it's ultimately not about me and not even really much of my business. I'm extremely angry at my Dad but he doesn't give a shit so the only person that is hurt by it is me.

You have the right to feel however you feel. There's no way that you "should" or "shouldn't" feel about it. But going forward, you also have the power to decide how much you are going to let other peoples' actions which you have no control over define your own life and relationships.