Reply #6: How could you NOT let it impact you?

[Raine1967]

My dad was a shit. I chose to not have kids... coincidence? I do not know, but I know watching my parents growing up made a great impact on my life. Life is not just viewed thru a grownups eyes.

What our parents do makes an impact on us. Sadly -- there are parents who do not seem to get that. Your dad, like mine don't seem to be willing to accept that they are responsible for forming their children as much as Mom was. I have a decent relationship with my dad now, but it is only because I know that my anger served no purpose to making him see things the way I wanted him to. Trust me -- I tried to get my point across... I took him to court. got a restraining order and everything.

You are not nutz. I never had kids -- I think it was a result of watching my parents.

A quick question: Your parents stayed together? I think that while your dad was unfaithful, your mom staying might also have something to do with how you see things.

And no I am not blaming anyone in particular. I really am not. Your dad, telling you to get over it is rather dismissive. That would make my patience reach an end. It's not like you are a child anymore.