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beam me up scottie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-23-09 02:01 PM
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54. That's a very good point.
Six years ago my dad had surgery for colon cancer and then again a year later to remove part of his right lung. His oncologist was one of the best in the country and was fairly certain he had removed all of the tumor. He told my dad that his life expectancy would be the same with or without chemo.

Dad decided to skip the chemo, get regular screenings and enjoy every minute he had left. We just celebrated another Father's Day and he has no regrets. :)

When it comes to cancer, it's almost always a crap shoot, oncologists should give patients the truth and allow them to make informed decisions.



:hi: hiya, Sid, a belated Happy Daddy's Day to you!
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  -If you had cancer and chemo was only guarenteed to extend your life for 6 months would you? greenbriar  Jun-23-09 01:05 PM   #0 
  - I think it would depend on what kind of cancer and what horrors I'd  babylonsister   Jun-23-09 01:06 PM   #1 
  - It depends  sharp_stick   Jun-23-09 01:07 PM   #2 
  - I declined to have Chemo along with my radiation in April. The combination was supposed to  sinkingfeeling   Jun-23-09 01:07 PM   #3 
  - My 78-yr.-old mother, a breast cancer survivor, refused to continue chemo after one treatment.  pacalo   Jun-23-09 01:30 PM   #36 
  - .  merh   Jun-24-09 12:18 AM   #81 
  - My grandmother eventually refused treatment. I respected her for it. n/t  QC   Jun-23-09 01:07 PM   #4 
  - each individual should be able to be respected to choose for themselves  Mari333   Jun-23-09 01:08 PM   #5 
  - Absolutely!  Individualist   Jun-23-09 02:10 PM   #60 
  - I see his point.  KansDem   Jun-23-09 01:08 PM   #6 
  - The hard truth is that the family should respect his wishes.  Gormy Cuss   Jun-23-09 01:08 PM   #7 
  - speaking only for myself, it would depend on whether...  mike_c   Jun-23-09 01:09 PM   #8 
  - Ditto.  sinkingfeeling   Jun-23-09 01:10 PM   #14 
  - personal decision. i totally respect his right and would hope family comes to a place  seabeyond   Jun-23-09 01:09 PM   #9 
  - that is what I told his mom  greenbriar   Jun-23-09 01:09 PM   #10 
  - Please know that your support is invaluable to this person  truedelphi   Jun-23-09 01:22 PM   #30 
  - Well, she could be right -  JerseygirlCT   Jun-23-09 01:58 PM   #52 
  - Perhaps seeing a therapist would help his sister come to terms with his decision...  Hekate   Jun-24-09 12:46 AM   #82 
  - Quality over quantity any day of the week and twice and Sunday  Horse with no Name   Jun-23-09 01:10 PM   #11 
  - My feelings too  safeinOhio   Jun-23-09 02:36 PM   #63 
  - It is his life.  roody   Jun-23-09 01:10 PM   #12 
  - I finished chemo in march  Robyn66   Jun-23-09 01:10 PM   #13 
  - No way...  The_Commonist   Jun-23-09 01:10 PM   #15 
  - I think I would rather spend what time I had left saying my goodbyes and enjoying life  greenbriar   Jun-23-09 01:12 PM   #18 
     - Agree. Makes perfect sense to me. n/t  Fire1   Jun-23-09 01:49 PM   #47 
  - Quality of life for those 6 months would be my determining factor as well  Solly Mack   Jun-23-09 01:11 PM   #16 
  - Depends...  SidDithers   Jun-23-09 01:11 PM   #17 
  - That's a very good point.  beam me up scottie   Jun-23-09 02:01 PM   #54 
  - Heya bmus!!!...  SidDithers   Jun-23-09 04:18 PM   #72 
  - edit, dupe  beam me up scottie   Jun-23-09 02:02 PM   #55 
  - If I just felt  Mz Pip   Jun-23-09 01:12 PM   #19 
  - I HAD cancer and know that successful treament protocols are discovered all the time.  DailyGrind51   Jun-23-09 01:12 PM   #20 
  - If I had never had chemo before I'd probably have it.  Lars39   Jun-23-09 01:14 PM   #21 
  - My mom refused all treatment for lung cancer  tularetom   Jun-23-09 01:14 PM   # 
  - I know  greenbriar   Jun-23-09 01:15 PM   #23 
  - My mom took every treatment they threw at her  seemunkee   Jun-23-09 01:14 PM   #22 
  - My mom did also, gave her 10 yrs vs the 6 months. Me? It all depends  uppityperson   Jun-23-09 01:32 PM   #37 
     - That was on her fifth recurrence, 15 years for fighting it  seemunkee   Jun-23-09 02:10 PM   #61 
  - It all depends. So many variables. One one hand, quality of life is key. On other hand, how strong  KittyWampus   Jun-23-09 01:15 PM   #24 
  - It would entirely depend on two things -  RaleighNCDUer   Jun-23-09 01:16 PM   #25 
  - Depends on his purpose in life....suppose he is working on some kind of research  opihimoimoi   Jun-23-09 01:17 PM   # 
  - Not a chance  Donnachaidh   Jun-23-09 01:17 PM   #26 
  - His body, his choice.  Crunchy Frog   Jun-23-09 01:17 PM   #27 
  - 23 years ago, I had ovarian cancer with a less than 20% survival chance..  Peacetrain   Jun-23-09 01:18 PM   #28 
  - Are you me , Peacetrain?  ChickMagic   Jun-23-09 01:47 PM   #46 
     - ChickMagic.. I had to stop and think.. I did not make 10 but had 9  Peacetrain   Jun-23-09 03:59 PM   #70 
        - Congratulations to you too!  ChickMagic   Jun-23-09 04:15 PM   #71 
           - The reason I had three indwelling is because they kept floating loose  Peacetrain   Jun-23-09 04:19 PM   #73 
              - So you had indwelling caths  ChickMagic   Jun-23-09 04:30 PM   #74 
  - his family is furious with him?  northernlights   Jun-23-09 01:21 PM   #29 
  - Wife's uncle stopped chemo about 3 months ago. With chemo he  Obamanaut   Jun-23-09 01:23 PM   #31 
  - Refuse.  patriotvoice   Jun-23-09 01:25 PM   #32 
  - The family is starting to grieve now. It's a selfish response and  Gman   Jun-23-09 01:26 PM   #33 
  - No.  backtoblue   Jun-23-09 01:26 PM   #34 
  - I would, on the off chance that the 6-8 months projection was wrong. It's happened before.  Maru Kitteh   Jun-23-09 01:26 PM   #35 
  - My best wishes to his family and friends. It is difficult to accept someone's life/death decisions  uppityperson   Jun-23-09 01:34 PM   #38 
  - I agree with your friend  leftynyc   Jun-23-09 01:38 PM   #39 
  - I've asked myself this question  BlueGirlRedState   Jun-23-09 01:41 PM   #40 
  - My father refused treatment  Kaleva   Jun-23-09 01:42 PM   #41 
  - Support your friend in his decisions about his own life and its quality.  damntexdem   Jun-23-09 01:43 PM   #42 
  - As an atheist, I say ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY yes...  scheming daemons   Jun-23-09 01:44 PM   #43 
  - Strange, I feel the opposite.  Oregone   Jun-23-09 02:12 PM   #62 
     - In 6 to 8 months, medical science could find a cure......it would suck to die one day before a cure  scheming daemons   Jun-23-09 03:03 PM   #65 
        - No, it wouldn't suck  Oregone   Jun-23-09 03:12 PM   #66 
           - I appreciate the consistency of your thought! It's refreshing.  KittyWampus   Jun-23-09 03:15 PM   #67 
           - There always is a "possibility"... it would be "belief" if I thought it was a certainty  scheming daemons   Jun-23-09 03:18 PM   #68 
  - Depends on several factors. In any event it is up to the patient to decide.  davsand   Jun-23-09 01:46 PM   #44 
  - My Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer four yeas ago  DainBramaged   Jun-23-09 01:46 PM   #45 
  - Kudos to a strong, courageous woman, and sympathy in your loss.  K Gardner   Jun-23-09 01:51 PM   #48 
  - At 58 if I was promised another 6 months with my spouse, I'd take it  quiller4   Jun-23-09 01:52 PM   #49 
  - My wife denied chemo and radiation....  Uben   Jun-23-09 01:53 PM   #50 
  - I think that's far too personal a decision for any choice to be "right"  JerseygirlCT   Jun-23-09 01:56 PM   #51 
  - It depends  Irishonly   Jun-23-09 02:01 PM   #53 
  - Doctors are not always right. My husband was sent home with a terminal illness  winyanstaz   Jun-23-09 02:03 PM   #56 
  - Each person is different  get the red out   Jun-23-09 02:06 PM   #57 
  - My Mom refused chemo.  Blue Diadem   Jun-23-09 02:08 PM   #58 
  - No...but...chemo can also very well tear you apart  Oregone   Jun-23-09 02:09 PM   #59 
  - Sometimes chemo can also be paliative....  hlthe2b   Jun-23-09 02:40 PM   #64 
  - Chemo is generally a pretty brutal treatment  MadHound   Jun-23-09 03:21 PM   #69 
  - It should be his decision  karynnj   Jun-23-09 04:35 PM   #75 
  - extend life for 6 months minimum, or 6 months maximum?  rucky   Jun-23-09 04:35 PM   #76 
  - I'd take the chemo, but I'd understand not wanting to do it as well  NeedleCast   Jun-23-09 04:36 PM   #77 
  - My mother had chemo for a cancer that was incurable to extend her life.  Cleita   Jun-23-09 04:37 PM   #78 
  - Yes I would, because miracles tend to run in my family.  Lyric   Jun-23-09 04:45 PM   #79 
  - thank you for all the replies  greenbriar   Jun-23-09 11:47 PM   #80 
  - I would take it as a challenge  Art_from_Ark   Jun-24-09 12:54 AM   #83 
  - I don't know; but it doesn't matter...  GoddessOfGuinness   Jun-24-09 12:55 AM   #84 
  - My dad has Stage IV liver cancer, and he's doing chemo to extend his life for a few months.  Heidi   Jun-24-09 01:19 AM   #85 
  - No, especially not after seeing my mother  Raine   Jun-24-09 01:58 AM   #86 
  - Nope.  DireStrike   Jun-24-09 02:05 AM   #87 
  - It's a hard situation.  proteus_lives   Jun-24-09 02:57 AM   #88 
 

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