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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-02-09 08:01 PM
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10. I might as well continue to share what I've shared elsewhere today....
as the positive aspect of the story is appropriate here. :)

I discuss the loss of my first child in this other thread. Joshua was stillborn in 1991.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.ph...

The day of his "birth" and the days preceding it continue to be the most devastating of my life. When one normally hears the nurse or caregiver say, "Time of birth ___," I heard, "Time of death: 2:12."

HOWEVER, the overall pregnancy experience was one of the most profoundly joyful events of my life.

I never planned to have children. I don't even consider myself very maternal. The pregnancy was a bit of a surprise, but one which I embraced.

Bottom line: The devastating loss (and corresponding realization that so much is out of our control) was balanced with experiencing unconditional love for the first time.

That experience introduced me to a love so expansive...it's hard to describe. Anger never entered into my grieving process.

It completely changed my life...how I see myself, how I see others...primarily for the better (though not completely).
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  - same as yours  Uzybone   Jun-02-09 07:46 PM   #1 
  - same as you  Wickerman   Jun-02-09 07:50 PM   #2 
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  - hmmmm -- as the years go by --  xchrom   Jun-02-09 07:53 PM   #4 
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  - the death of my older  sweettater   Jun-02-09 07:58 PM   #8 
  - By far, the death of my brother. He was my "big" brother, being  Booster   Jun-02-09 07:59 PM   #9 
  - I might as well continue to share what I've shared elsewhere today....  OneGrassRoot   Jun-02-09 08:01 PM   #10 
  - A diagnosis of cancer...  Contrary1   Jun-02-09 08:02 PM   #11 
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