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Sat May-23-09 09:55 AM
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| 100. I know you are not a bigot |
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This is why the timing of this thread surprised me. And obviously, I know plenty of married people, so I really don't need instruction about who and who is not a bigot. Gay people live in the same society you do, our relatives are heterosexuals and usually married.
But face it, my rights are not the same as yours, and the reason for that is bigots who are heterosexual. Those bigots are coming along to revoke standing marriages from a group of people the bigots do not like. The decision in CA comes next week, just after this weekend.
So this is a weekend of great tension for many millions who wish they could join in on such threads as this. Me and mine have been together far longer than many of the real citizens here.
Maybe I should have just posted that I'd noticed that not one of the celebrating marrieds on this thread noted the context of the CA decision, front page news on DU this week. Not one of the marrieds here thought to note that what you are celebrating is not shared by millions of Americans, and many DU ers, and that this very week will see either a nice step forward, or yet another slap in the face by the majority. I could have just said 'gee, how nice for you all. I'll let you know on Tuesday if I'm married or not. Please keep the thread kicked until then."
Just one of those moments when you notice how different lives are for those who have and those who don't. And I would hope those who have might notice that as well.
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| -If you're married, how long, and is it worth it? |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 12:43 AM |
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Been together for 20 years... |
Luminous Animal |
May-23-09 12:47 AM |
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May-23-09 03:10 PM |
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47 years this August. Some thin but mostly thick. |
tularetom |
May-23-09 12:48 AM |
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WOW! Just nice. |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 12:52 AM |
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I am married. |
Heidi |
May-23-09 12:49 AM |
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My Mom is 90 and she has a boyfriend |
goclark |
May-23-09 09:38 AM |
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Right on, goclark! |
Heidi |
May-23-09 09:49 AM |
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Married 10 years. Separated since Sept 08 |
pkdu |
May-23-09 12:49 AM |
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You are VERY lucky t0o have such a best friend! |
elleng |
May-23-09 12:49 AM |
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There's nothing I can |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 12:54 AM |
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Sister, no CHANCE to do it more than once. |
elleng |
May-23-09 01:13 AM |
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so sorry to read this... |
bliss_eternal |
May-23-09 06:39 PM |
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Thanks, bliss. |
elleng |
May-23-09 09:10 PM |
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Good time long time |
rwheeler31 |
May-23-09 12:50 AM |
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15. yes, worth it. lots of thick not much thin. it has been much easier |
seabeyond |
May-23-09 12:54 AM |
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Married to my best friend 31 years now. . . |
Journeyman |
May-23-09 12:54 AM |
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See, that's so nice! |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:06 AM |
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40 years next month. Yes it's been worth it. nt |
SPedigrees |
May-23-09 01:00 AM |
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Thanks, and nice to see you. |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:04 AM |
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sorry for the duplicate. not sure how it happened |
SPedigrees |
May-23-09 01:00 AM |
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10 years this month |
mrs_p |
May-23-09 01:04 AM |
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Ha! I didn't have that luxury. |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:08 AM |
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that was fast |
mrs_p |
May-23-09 07:41 AM |
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I have been married for 26 years this year and I am 45 |
terip64 |
May-23-09 01:07 AM |
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Wow! You will be in the local newspaper, |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:11 AM |
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We really are. We have worked our buts off and right now |
terip64 |
May-23-09 01:18 AM |
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Going on 31 years now.... |
Adsos Letter |
May-23-09 01:12 AM |
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Bullhockey! |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:17 AM |
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No serious family disappointments, which is a huge positve, I admit |
Adsos Letter |
May-23-09 01:20 AM |
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why are you doint this thread |
seabeyond |
May-23-09 01:14 AM |
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Why not? It was time. |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:20 AM |
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me too.... |
seabeyond |
May-23-09 01:22 AM |
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24 Years - Thick, Thin |
otohara |
May-23-09 01:17 AM |
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I am 26 and have been married for over 9 years. |
Hyper_Eye |
May-23-09 01:18 AM |
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Wow. That's young. I was 26 when I got married. Props to you |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 01:21 AM |
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That is so young and yet I think sometimes more natural. |
terip64 |
May-23-09 01:23 AM |
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That's really interesting and courageous. |
Laelth |
May-23-09 01:42 AM |
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Wow. I did not meet my husband until I was 21, at college. |
Jennicut |
May-23-09 06:14 AM |
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babylonsister |
whatchamacallit |
May-23-09 01:20 AM |
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35 years, if you add them all up. |
Ron Green |
May-23-09 01:22 AM |
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25 years in November--worth it? Absolutely. n/t |
quiller4 |
May-23-09 01:22 AM |
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too bad more GLBT folks can't join in the thread... |
LooseWilly |
May-23-09 01:24 AM |
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My father and his partner always announced their anniversaries, |
pnwmom |
May-23-09 02:53 AM |
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Married 11. Together 16. |
Laelth |
May-23-09 01:34 AM |
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It'll be 44 years this June... |
CaliforniaPeggy |
May-23-09 01:41 AM |
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FANtastic! How wonderful! |
Number23 |
May-23-09 02:52 AM |
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27 years officially, plus 8 years before we exchanged rings |
DFW |
May-23-09 01:41 AM |
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Definitely worth it! |
bluedeminredstate |
May-23-09 01:44 AM |
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Yuppers! |
kimmylavin |
May-23-09 01:49 AM |
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40 year's next month |
Michigan-Arizona |
May-23-09 01:58 AM |
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7 years married, eight years together. |
Mythsaje |
May-23-09 01:59 AM |
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45 years May 9th. There were some rough patches, but we muddled |
napi21 |
May-23-09 02:00 AM |
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17 years this November. Not a shred of regret. |
JeffR |
May-23-09 02:02 AM |
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22 yrs as of the 15th. |
bumblebee1 |
May-23-09 02:04 AM |
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21 years....my best friend....no regrets, even through the thick |
firedupdem |
May-23-09 02:06 AM |
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15 years and definitely worth it. |
ohheckyeah |
May-23-09 02:21 AM |
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hear you |
mrs_p |
May-23-09 07:40 AM |
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Together 29 years, married almost 22 years. |
stevedeshazer |
May-23-09 02:24 AM |
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45 years |
shari |
May-23-09 02:24 AM |
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that is absolutely beautiful |
renate |
May-23-09 02:41 AM |
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I'm crying. This is the most lovely thread I've seen on DU |
Number23 |
May-23-09 02:54 AM |
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Thank you, shari, for sharing. You are |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 08:58 AM |
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Met my wife here on DU and it's been almost 6 years. |
scubadude |
May-23-09 02:32 AM |
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How lovely! |
Number23 |
May-23-09 02:49 AM |
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wow....! |
bliss_eternal |
May-23-09 07:25 PM |
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It will be 28 years next month ... |
BlueMTexpat |
May-23-09 02:34 AM |
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Been together 4 years |
Number23 |
May-23-09 02:50 AM |
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17 years, but I've been crazy about her for 24 years. |
Vickers |
May-23-09 03:17 AM |
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25 years this September, and dating for 29! |
FrenchieCat |
May-23-09 03:19 AM |
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39 years last February. Some thin, mainly thick. No regrets n/t |
eridani |
May-23-09 03:43 AM |
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our 39th is coming up in September! |
DemReadingDU |
May-23-09 04:49 PM |
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Congrats! It does tend to work out that way, no? n/t |
eridani |
May-23-09 07:39 PM |
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16 years last March. Second time for both of us. |
old mark |
May-23-09 05:05 AM |
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36 years this September |
Thothmes |
May-23-09 05:18 AM |
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23 years on 6/2 |
annabanana |
May-23-09 05:20 AM |
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32 Years....27 Legal...and She Probably Regrets It... |
KharmaTrain |
May-23-09 05:29 AM |
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We Have Been Together For Almost Five Years |
NikolaC |
May-23-09 05:57 AM |
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17 years. |
H2O Man |
May-23-09 05:59 AM |
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7 years, there are up and downs but he is my best friend. |
Jennicut |
May-23-09 06:10 AM |
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41 years this past Jan. If we were not married, and I could have only |
Obamanaut |
May-23-09 06:11 AM |
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Beautiful! I hope Mrs. Obamanaut reads your words! nt |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 08:58 AM |
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dated 6 weeks, married 19 years. It's a wonderful adventure. |
Saphire |
May-23-09 06:24 AM |
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Nearly 28 years |
malaise |
May-23-09 06:32 AM |
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29 years last week |
ashling |
May-23-09 06:59 AM |
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19 yrs and 15 yrs |
Uben |
May-23-09 06:59 AM |
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It will be 15 years this September..... |
Jello Biafra |
May-23-09 07:17 AM |
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Together 37 years, married 34 next week |
proud2BlibKansan |
May-23-09 07:21 AM |
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54 years old now married my wife when I was 17. Still married |
NNN0LHI |
May-23-09 07:27 AM |
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Great story. My parents married when they were 15 and 17. |
CBR |
May-23-09 07:57 AM |
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My mother warned me with tears in her eyes that I was too young and it wouldn't work |
NNN0LHI |
May-23-09 08:13 AM |
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May-23-09 07:28 AM |
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I didn't start this thead to insult anyone, so I'm |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 09:05 AM |
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I know you are not a bigot |
Bluenorthwest |
May-23-09 09:55 AM |
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Whoa !!! there..... |
dixiegrrrrl |
May-23-09 01:02 PM |
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I look at you and think to myself "you enjoy what others can not have" |
Lorien |
May-23-09 10:16 AM |
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hey lorien |
bliss_eternal |
May-23-09 05:52 PM |
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My friends K and M were married in March, hubby and I witnessed. |
redwitch |
May-23-09 03:06 PM |
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Whoah there. nt |
anonymous171 |
May-23-09 03:08 PM |
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May-23-09 03:19 PM |
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And why not just understand |
nichomachus |
May-23-09 04:22 PM |
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May-23-09 04:58 PM |
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May-23-09 05:29 PM |
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Married almost 32 years -- worth it? |
ccinamon |
May-23-09 07:35 AM |
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Married 3.5 years.... together 8.5 years. |
CBR |
May-23-09 07:44 AM |
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I'm... |
sendero |
May-23-09 07:45 AM |
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Almost 19 years |
madokie |
May-23-09 07:53 AM |
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33 this year |
spanone |
May-23-09 07:55 AM |
#83 |
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22 years, this time |
babsbunny |
May-23-09 07:57 AM |
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Married for 18 years, together for 24. First (and last) marriage for both of us. |
Happyhippychick |
May-23-09 08:09 AM |
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Been together neary 30 |
JerseygirlCT |
May-23-09 08:10 AM |
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Lost my husband and best friend over 15 years ago... |
Hepburn |
May-23-09 09:12 AM |
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Hepburn... |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 09:52 AM |
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Thank you... |
Hepburn |
May-23-09 10:59 AM |
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25 years this October |
countingbluecars |
May-23-09 09:29 AM |
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30 years in June (not counting the 1 year tryout). |
Tierra_y_Libertad |
May-23-09 09:29 AM |
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Married for 13 years to my best friend. |
Orsino |
May-23-09 09:37 AM |
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It works if you work it. |
TexasObserver |
May-23-09 09:54 AM |
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Twenty-one years, yes. nt |
bemildred |
May-23-09 09:58 AM |
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Twenty Four Years in July |
Irishonly |
May-23-09 10:00 AM |
#102 |
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30 years in August. |
yellerpup |
May-23-09 10:01 AM |
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23 years this December - It's been hard as hell at times and we probably |
ourbluenation |
May-23-09 10:08 AM |
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55yrs last month!! |
watercolors |
May-23-09 10:11 AM |
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Mad props to you and yours, watercolors! |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 12:19 PM |
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42 years this June. Some good years, some bad years. |
s-cubed |
May-23-09 10:22 AM |
#107 |
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Together 20 years; Married 16 Of Them |
Mr. Ected |
May-23-09 10:23 AM |
#108 |
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Together 13 years, but it's illegal for us to marry. |
donco6 |
May-23-09 10:24 AM |
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This will change.... |
Hepburn |
May-23-09 04:16 PM |
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Y'know, I think you're right. |
donco6 |
May-23-09 04:42 PM |
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i really don't see that happening |
noiretextatique |
May-26-09 04:09 PM |
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31 years |
Ezlivin |
May-23-09 11:07 AM |
#111 |
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We'll be married 16 years September 18th |
Missy Vixen |
May-23-09 11:53 AM |
#112 |
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Married twice. Once for 10 years, once for 11. |
LWolf |
May-23-09 12:04 PM |
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36 years and counting. We've had our problems, but overall I would say yes, it was/is worth it. |
madmom |
May-23-09 12:12 PM |
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22 years married and it's absolutely worth it! |
azmouse |
May-23-09 12:14 PM |
#115 |
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26 years and we have been together through some interesting times |
TayTay |
May-23-09 12:16 PM |
#116 |
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Got married ten years after the honeymoon, about fourteen years ago. |
BrotherBuzz |
May-23-09 12:17 PM |
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This time? |
Blue_In_AK |
May-23-09 12:29 PM |
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15 yrs and i am happy, appreciate these 15 yrs and would say thank you for it, BUT |
seabeyond |
May-23-09 12:32 PM |
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Thirty years this Halloween--our love affair is a magical tempest |
librechik |
May-23-09 12:41 PM |
#121 |
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I went to a wedding thirty years ago on Halloween... |
handmade34 |
May-23-09 05:59 PM |
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Good God, it's torment, a living nightmare. Thanks for the reminder, Babsister! |
Bucky |
May-23-09 12:45 PM |
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25 years and yes, it's still worth it. |
mr1956 |
May-23-09 01:00 PM |
#123 |
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Married fifty years on August l, but the first of the year she had to move |
Libertyfirst |
May-23-09 02:48 PM |
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ahhhh |
seabeyond |
May-23-09 02:51 PM |
#126 |
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Oh, Libertyfirst, |
babylonsister |
May-23-09 02:53 PM |
#129 |
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That is so sad! |
redwitch |
May-23-09 03:10 PM |
#134 |
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I am so sorry to read that |
kdmorris |
May-23-09 04:57 PM |
#146 |
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I'm so sorry. |
JohnnyLib2 |
May-23-09 05:10 PM |
#148 |
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Wow |
Juche |
May-23-09 11:50 PM |
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27th anniverary yesterday. Absolutely worth it. |
redwitch |
May-23-09 02:51 PM |
#127 |
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Together for 17 years, married for 10. Absolutely worth it. |
MrSlayer |
May-23-09 02:52 PM |
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On June 25 |
Retired AF Dem |
May-23-09 02:55 PM |
#130 |
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Married 26 years next week, been together for 30. Absolutely worth it. |
pleah |
May-23-09 04:19 PM |
#137 |
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25 years the first time. 11 years this time. |
Stinky The Clown |
May-23-09 04:20 PM |
#138 |
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40 years in a month. |
JohnnyLib2 |
May-23-09 04:21 PM |
#139 |
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Coming up on 32 years since we got the license signed |
csziggy |
May-23-09 04:30 PM |
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18 years. Yes. It has been worth it 99% of the time. |
glinda |
May-23-09 04:48 PM |
#143 |
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Married 21 years next month. |
sellitman |
May-23-09 04:56 PM |
#145 |
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Been together 16 years - |
waiting for hope |
May-23-09 05:35 PM |
#150 |
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divorced the day before what would have been our 28th anniversary |
leftofthedial |
May-23-09 05:36 PM |
#151 |
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Married, approx. 5.5 yrs, and yes, overall, definitely worth it |
Proud Liberal Dem |
May-23-09 05:45 PM |
#152 |
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Almost 14 years. |
Arugula Latte |
May-23-09 05:50 PM |
#153 |
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WAS married six years. Divorced (officially) Nov. 15, 2008. |
RandomKoolzip |
May-23-09 06:01 PM |
#156 |
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We lived together for eight years before we married, and were married for five. She |
Mike 03 |
May-23-09 06:10 PM |
#157 |
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I LOVE being married! |
cherokeeprogressive |
May-23-09 06:12 PM |
#158 |
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I am not, but my parents were married 57 years. They laughed and argued a lot |
glitch |
May-23-09 06:19 PM |
#159 |
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I KNEW MY HUSBAND 2 MONTHS WHEN WE GOT MARRIED AND |
southernyankeebelle |
May-23-09 06:25 PM |
#160 |
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LOL, my husband and I were friends for several years before we fell in love. And yet, |
gkhouston |
May-23-09 10:47 PM |
#177 |
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48 years |
sandsavage |
May-23-09 06:39 PM |
#162 |
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Almost 22 years |
MajorChode |
May-23-09 06:42 PM |
#163 |
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I'm heading into my third marriage this coming September 11! |
GliderGuider |
May-23-09 07:05 PM |
#164 |
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3rd time's a charm! Good luck! nt |
ecstatic |
May-26-09 04:19 PM |
#184 |
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Marta and I will be married for 34 years on the 5th of June |
Omaha Steve |
May-23-09 07:09 PM |
#165 |
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I have been married 4 times. I think I am one of those people |
MISSDem |
May-23-09 07:17 PM |
#166 |
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Today is our 33rd anniversary |
needledriver |
May-23-09 07:21 PM |
#167 |
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Longer than you...and YES...marry your best friend..and wear some naughty nighties |
KoKo |
May-23-09 08:14 PM |
#170 |
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I was married just 4 years. Lots of reasons why it didn't work. |
Critters2 |
May-23-09 08:19 PM |
#171 |
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don't think about the time |
writingabook |
May-23-09 08:21 PM |
#172 |
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That's the truth of it...who can know how long it or anything will last... |
KoKo |
May-23-09 08:59 PM |
#173 |
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21 years. Is it worth it? |
Dappleganger |
May-23-09 09:09 PM |
#174 |
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Currently married 24 years. Not so good times, recently. |
mnhtnbb |
May-23-09 09:16 PM |
#176 |
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It will be 43 in October. |
Lugnut |
May-24-09 12:51 AM |
#179 |
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I consider myself incredibly lucky |
willing dwarf |
May-24-09 02:44 AM |
#180 |
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married for 5 years |
Brundle_Fly |
May-24-09 11:56 AM |
#181 |
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wow @ all the long marriages |
ecstatic |
May-26-09 04:16 PM |
#183 |
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I was married for 11 years, 1 month and 7 days to the love of my life. |
ScreamingMeemie |
May-26-09 04:19 PM |
#185 |
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Together since 1988; moved in together in 93, married in 96, and continue to beat the odds |
Echo In Light |
May-26-09 04:21 PM |
#186 |
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