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Believing Is Art Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-20-09 10:48 AM
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18. It slips sometimes
I shouldn't, but, it happens. I heard it a lot as a kid and had incorporated it as an insult along with "moron," "stupid," and other such terms before I knew it was offensive to people with special needs. I managed to undo "gay" as an insult (I didn't even know what hetero- and homosexual meant by the time that was being used by kids my age), I should be able to undo this.

I also use it in some reports in a very literal sense. Like, "an adverse pressure gradient retarded the flow." I don't think that counts as derogatory, though.
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  -Do you use terms like "retard" (non) or "retarded" (adjective) derogatorily? CTyankee  Mar-20-09 10:28 AM   #0 
  - And it should be noted President Obama did not use either word  wndycty   Mar-20-09 10:29 AM   #1 
  - Exactly, if he had used such words then there should be real outrage  WI_DEM   Mar-20-09 10:33 AM   #7 
  - Also should be noted I never said that either.  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:27 AM   #29 
  - Yes, I do.  Iggo   Mar-20-09 10:30 AM   #2 
  - No, I don't  wryter2000   Mar-20-09 10:31 AM   #3 
  - There are more apt and more penetrating words to express the sentiment  depakid   Mar-20-09 10:31 AM   #4 
  - I try to call people on it whenever they use it, both here and IRL. There's no need to use those  ogneopasno   Mar-20-09 10:31 AM   #5 
  - 999 more post like this and I think the point will be made. Thanks.  peace13   Mar-20-09 10:32 AM   #6 
  - Perfect? Nope, not my goal. A little humility among those of us who are  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:32 AM   #30 
  - Of course people aren't perfect, but having it pointed out that you are using offensive term and  uppityperson   Mar-20-09 12:36 PM   #54 
     - Your comment is very rude and does not deserve a response but I will say..  peace13   Mar-20-09 03:48 PM   #73 
  - In some places, it's a localism  graywarrior   Mar-20-09 10:33 AM   #8 
  - It is a regionalism in New England.  Gormy Cuss   Mar-20-09 11:44 AM   #36 
     - It's spelled different in NE  graywarrior   Mar-20-09 11:46 AM   #38 
        - Yep.  Gormy Cuss   Mar-20-09 11:48 AM   #39 
           - We're so proud  graywarrior   Mar-20-09 11:53 AM   #41 
  - no, because I have often worked with folks with special needs  tigereye   Mar-20-09 10:34 AM   #9 
  - I can say with 100% certainty I have NEVER seen that word used derogatorily here  Peacetrain   Mar-20-09 10:34 AM   #10 
  - Does "fucktard" count?  TahitiNut   Mar-20-09 10:48 AM   #17 
  - That does count in my book..  Peacetrain   Mar-20-09 10:54 AM   #24 
     - It's interesting. I never really thought about it that way. It shows my own  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:35 AM   #32 
     - Change 1 letter (the a to a u) and its all good  Taverner   Mar-20-09 11:45 AM   #37 
  - 1,830 uses of the term 'freeptard' on DU:  Freddie Stubbs   Mar-20-09 11:04 AM   #26 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Mar-20-09 12:37 PM   #56 
  - Most people in this country would probably just pass it over.  arcadian   Mar-20-09 10:34 AM   #11 
  - I confess...  muffin1   Mar-20-09 10:35 AM   #12 
  - There are a few posters over in the Sports Forum that love to throw  madinmaryland   Mar-20-09 10:36 AM   #13 
  - Red Sox Fans? nt  Lost in CT   Mar-20-09 02:17 PM   #68 
  - I only use it as a descriptive, as in referencing my developmentally  RaleighNCDUer   Mar-20-09 10:37 AM   #14 
  - The aglomeration of your dexterity tends to instigate me  Betsy Ross   Mar-20-09 10:43 AM   #15 
  - "...people with retardation ;;;" Is your asterisk * key broken? Can  Obamanaut   Mar-20-09 10:48 AM   #16 
  - When I worked for the center that provided for people with disabilities,  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:40 AM   #35 
     - Yeah, I "get it." I am also aware of terms such as educable mentally  Obamanaut   Mar-20-09 12:01 PM   #45 
        - Please. I was just telling you what I learned from people who themselves  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 12:25 PM   #50 
           - OK. I apologize for my tone. At one time I worked with what used  Obamanaut   Mar-20-09 01:08 PM   #57 
  - It slips sometimes  Believing Is Art   Mar-20-09 10:48 AM   #18 
  - I like retardo  ORDagnabbit   Mar-20-09 10:50 AM   #19 
  - I am disabled  Fovea   Mar-20-09 10:50 AM   #20 
  - I like your answer. Miz O "has issues" (as she likes to say) due to  Obamanaut   Mar-20-09 11:07 AM   #27 
  - " Pres. Obama is getting slammed because of our collective guilt."  nomorenomore08   Mar-20-09 03:02 PM   #72 
     - It sounds to me, from your last sentence, that you have a world of pain you do not want to  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 06:43 PM   #87 
        - Nah, not a world of pain. Perhaps a small nation-state.  nomorenomore08   Mar-20-09 08:32 PM   #88 
           - And I agree about Obama. I love him and want to see him succeed.  CTyankee   Mar-21-09 10:23 AM   #90 
  - Depends on the situation.  dem629   Mar-20-09 10:51 AM   #21 
  - When I've used "retard" in the past, it certainly wasn't intended as an  Schema Thing   Mar-20-09 10:52 AM   #22 
  - I Find Retard To Be Offensive, But Not Retarded. I'll Use Retarded Freely.  OPERATIONMINDCRIME   Mar-20-09 10:53 AM   #23 
  - Unfortunately, the example you used is not really helpful.  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:48 AM   #40 
     - Let Me Assure You Of Something:  OPERATIONMINDCRIME   Mar-20-09 11:54 AM   #42 
        - Uh, would you use that statement in, say, a letter to the editor pointing out why Republicans are  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 12:20 PM   #49 
           - I Wouldn't Use 'Dumb' Or 'Stupid' Either.  OPERATIONMINDCRIME   Mar-20-09 04:28 PM   #75 
              - Well, we are talking about our language. If you are hesitant about using it in a public forum,then  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 06:20 PM   #85 
  - Only when people write "non" when they appear to have meant "noun"  Viking12   Mar-20-09 11:02 AM   #25 
  - I was deficient in usage of my proofreading skills! Actually, I was lazy!  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:54 AM   #43 
     - I appreciate that you can take a joke.  Viking12   Mar-20-09 12:08 PM   #48 
        - You, too, Viking!  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 12:30 PM   #52 
  - Never. nt  wtmusic   Mar-20-09 11:14 AM   #28 
  - For the Lurking Freepers who'll become Special Needs Advocates now...  40ozDonkey   Mar-20-09 11:34 AM   #31 
  - It's Also A Generational Thing...  KharmaTrain   Mar-20-09 11:37 AM   #33 
  - Are you comparing "retarded" to the "n" word?  Baikonour   Mar-20-09 11:38 AM   #34 
  - In the sense that it is an insult, yes. What I am saying is that if we would NOT use  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 11:59 AM   #44 
     - Agreed. Context is everything. "Retard," "gay," "socialist," etc  Echo In Light   Mar-20-09 12:05 PM   #46 
  - I frequently use 'retard' as a verb.  tangent90   Mar-20-09 12:06 PM   #47 
  - Nope  Dorian Gray   Mar-20-09 12:30 PM   #51 
  - Thank you. I've alerted on "retarded" posts and will be off DU is that term is ok to use, similar to  uppityperson   Mar-20-09 12:33 PM   #53 
  - yep.  dysfunctional press   Mar-20-09 12:37 PM   #55 
  - I stopped using those words when I left elementary school.  azmouse   Mar-20-09 01:12 PM   #58 
  - More appropriately, do you compare your own inept skills to a handicapped person's?  marshall   Mar-20-09 01:15 PM   #59 
  - As I understood it, "mentally retarded" is an acceptable term in the medical field...  cynatnite   Mar-20-09 01:18 PM   #60 
  - Being in the medical field, it isn't.  uppityperson   Mar-20-09 01:21 PM   #61 
  - Well, I don't know...  cynatnite   Mar-20-09 01:28 PM   #62 
  - Could be places I work/worked don't use it.  uppityperson   Mar-20-09 01:49 PM   #63 
  - Its changing. Even the venerable journal Mental Retardation changed its name to...  aikoaiko   Mar-21-09 10:36 AM   #93 
  - Developmentally delayed always sounded to my ear that someone would catch up...  Lost in CT   Mar-20-09 02:19 PM   #69 
  - No, very often children with developmental delays do catch up.  Quantess   Mar-20-09 04:01 PM   #74 
     - Well then you shouldn't call kids developmentally delayed that clearly are not.  Lost in CT   Mar-20-09 04:31 PM   #76 
        - Children with LD often have delays in some aspects of their development.  Quantess   Mar-20-09 05:20 PM   #81 
  - im sure there are some whod take offense to those as well  iamthebandfanman   Mar-21-09 10:39 AM   #94 
  - "mental retardation" refers to an individual with an IQ below 70.  Odin2005   Mar-20-09 02:22 PM   #70 
  - My cat is "Ricky Retardo"  Catshrink   Mar-20-09 01:49 PM   #64 
  - I was going to ask the same thing. It's amazing the stupid things they do.  madinmaryland   Mar-20-09 02:13 PM   #65 
  - retarded is a real word and has many uses besides mental illness  Lost in CT   Mar-20-09 02:15 PM   #66 
  - No, and I call people out here for doing it all the time  KamaAina   Mar-20-09 02:15 PM   #67 
  - Not anymore  Fleshdancer   Mar-20-09 02:24 PM   #71 
  - Nope.  timtom   Mar-20-09 04:33 PM   #77 
  - Let me check...  Kip Humphrey   Mar-20-09 04:40 PM   #78 
  - I used to, shamefully. But a couple of years ago there was a discussion of this here on DU that  Mike 03   Mar-20-09 05:06 PM   #79 
  - Occasionally.  MrSlayer   Mar-20-09 05:14 PM   #80 
  - I don't, but then there is a problem of what is left to use  treestar   Mar-20-09 05:24 PM   #82 
  - Bush et al are people who had every advantage that society offered them and scoffed  CTyankee   Mar-20-09 06:26 PM   #86 
  - People who do that are douchebags  omega minimo   Mar-20-09 06:02 PM   #83 
  - These are among the ugliest and most cowardly of slurs.  Orsino   Mar-20-09 06:09 PM   #84 
  - My kids sometimes do and I *hate* it  Nye Bevan   Mar-20-09 09:31 PM   #89 
  - Eventually even "moran" will be politically incorrect ....pffft  L0oniX   Mar-21-09 10:33 AM   #91 
  - No, I don.t. It's offensive. nt  Joey Liberal   Mar-21-09 10:34 AM   #92 
  - Speaking as a parent.  No.23   Mar-21-09 10:42 AM   #95 
  - Yes: I should be ashamed  tinkerbell41   Mar-21-09 10:43 AM   #96 

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