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Maat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-26-09 06:37 PM
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42. As a proud member of my local PFLAG ..
Edited on Mon Jan-26-09 06:44 PM by Maat
Parents, Family, Friends of Lesbians and Gays ... at ... I strongly urge you to go and get in touch with your closest PFLAG. Ellen Degeneres' mom is on the national board. PFLAGers will welcome you with open arms, and your daughter, and help you deal with it all.

I'm here to support you, Mom.

And, in my opinion, you didn't screw up. There are things that you could add to the discussion, and Lost delineated them; but, she is going to understand that people aren't perfect, and that Mom is doing her best and will do her best. PFLAG actually has information on the site about how to deal with this situation. It is well-thought-out.

On edit:
I really like the idea of going to the national site, looking up information, and maybe then pursuing an online chapter if there isn't a local one.

Congrats on a wonderful daughter!

Please PM me if you need some people to talk to (people that I HIGHLY respect); I will give you their phone numbers.

FINALLY (and then I'll stop babbling), we Californians are going to right the wrong out here - see my sigline - we are trying!

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  -Need a little advice, or to know if I did ok. Please read, it's important to me. Mother Of Four  Jan-26-09 01:52 PM   #0 
  - You did OK ...  meegbear   Jan-26-09 01:56 PM   #1 
  - on an unrelated note... i love this  La Lioness Priyanka   Jan-26-09 07:35 PM   #55 
  - You're wonderful  Tangerine LaBamba   Jan-26-09 01:56 PM   #2 
  - You said exactly the right things!  CaliforniaPeggy   Jan-26-09 01:57 PM   #3 
  - I wish you were my mother...  Jankyn   Jan-26-09 01:59 PM   #4 
  - I'm so sorry she said that to you-  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 05:55 PM   #28 
  - I think you did a really good job...I just hope that if it turns out that  movonne   Jan-26-09 02:01 PM   #5 
  - You were super. I think it's wonderful that you have  babylonsister   Jan-26-09 02:02 PM   #6 
  - I do think you screwed up some  LostinVA   Jan-26-09 02:03 PM   #7 
  - It is an honest OP-  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 02:08 PM   #9 
  - Shhhhhh  LostinVA   Jan-26-09 02:20 PM   #11 
  - We were making some chocolate chip oatmeal cookies this afternoon-  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 06:09 PM   #29 
     - fantastic! Youth. And sh'es right, it will not stay like that!  robinlynne   Jan-26-09 06:39 PM   #45 
     - I'm a proud mother of a gay 21 year old son  BirminghamExaminer   Jan-26-09 10:55 PM   #70 
  - You will have a lifetime to talk to your daughter about this  lunatica   Jan-26-09 02:22 PM   #12 
  - When my daughter came out, I told her that I loved her  murielm99   Jan-26-09 03:22 PM   #13 
  - There used to be a national chapter of PFLAG that "met" online  brazenlyliberal   Jan-26-09 05:33 PM   #25 
  - As a proud member of my local PFLAG ..  Maat   Jan-26-09 06:37 PM   #42 
  - I disagree. I think you did beautifully all the way around. What you said you are  robinlynne   Jan-26-09 04:08 PM   #18 
  - Thank you.  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 06:10 PM   #30 
  - I was giving her my experience of having the same thing said to me at the same age  LostinVA   Jan-26-09 06:17 PM   #33 
  - I appreciated it too-  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 06:27 PM   #38 
  - Even if you think you could have scared her - parents arent perfect.  Duende azul   Jan-26-09 08:40 PM   #61 
  - I think you allowed open dialog. That counts for a lot. Kids can sense when we are not "real".  FedUpWithIt All   Jan-26-09 09:09 PM   #66 
  - again, I do not think she screwed up some. I think she was honest. You are assuming that  robinlynne   Jan-26-09 06:37 PM   #43 
     - Eh. I remember when people used to 'honestly' discuss their worries about interracial marriage.  readmoreoften   Jan-26-09 06:49 PM   #48 
        - And we discuss those concerns with our hetero preteen daughters.  FedUpWithIt All   Jan-26-09 09:00 PM   #65 
        - oh. I don't know. My mother sat me down and talked about pregnancy and  robinlynne   Jan-26-09 10:30 PM   #68 
  - No, I think LostinVA is right  HarukaTheTrophyWife   Jan-26-09 06:22 PM   #35 
  - I remember at her age being insane about girls. But it was a phase  roguevalley   Jan-26-09 04:39 PM   #21 
     - Heh. I liked boys in my childhood. That was a phase for me.  readmoreoften   Jan-26-09 06:16 PM   #32 
  - everyone is correct, it may help her also to look at the  grannie4peace   Jan-26-09 02:07 PM   #8 
  - Good point about looking at other cultures. But there really isn't a decision to be made.  readmoreoften   Jan-26-09 06:52 PM   #49 
     - not for decisions but so she can see that different people deal with each  grannie4peace   Jan-27-09 01:28 PM   #78 
  - You were and are fabulous!  lunatica   Jan-26-09 02:16 PM   #10 
  - K&R  CaliforniaPeggy   Jan-26-09 03:27 PM   #14 
  - My daughter is two, right now.  Maine-ah   Jan-26-09 03:32 PM   #15 
  - As the mother of a gay son who came out to us when he was 16,  mnhtnbb   Jan-26-09 03:50 PM   #16 
  - She started puberty at 10-  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 06:22 PM   #36 
  - Your answers were exactly right  ayeshahaqqiqa   Jan-26-09 03:52 PM   #17 
  - You did beautiful, just beautiful, MofF.  Mnemosyne    Jan-26-09 04:13 PM   #19 
  - Wow. You are a great Mom, and I think that whatever the ultimate  BrklynLiberal   Jan-26-09 04:35 PM   #20 
  - It sounds like what you said was helpful to your daughter, but ...  surrealAmerican   Jan-26-09 04:44 PM   #22 
  - you were really great  noiretextatique   Jan-26-09 05:03 PM   #23 
  - I got goosebumps when I read your story...  pipi_k   Jan-26-09 05:15 PM   #24 
  - You done good  madokie   Jan-26-09 05:42 PM   #26 
  - The Exact Same Thing happened to me 28 years ago...  chollybocker   Jan-26-09 05:49 PM   #27 
  - The only real thing I've noticed so far  Mother Of Four   Jan-26-09 06:14 PM   #31 
  - I think you did great  proud patriot   Jan-26-09 06:17 PM   #34 
  - You handled it a whole lot better than I ever could have  slackmaster   Jan-26-09 06:26 PM   #37 
  - You did great letting your daughter know  MsTryska   Jan-26-09 06:31 PM   #39 
  - It took my sister 30 yrs to come out to me & the rest of the family.  baldguy   Jan-26-09 06:35 PM   #40 
  - My love to both of you n/t  Xipe Totec   Jan-26-09 06:36 PM   #41 
  - You are a fantastic Parent!!!!!! n/t  8 track mind   Jan-26-09 06:38 PM   #44 
  - I think you did really well. But instead of focusing on our lack of rights, you could show her all  readmoreoften   Jan-26-09 06:44 PM   #46 
  - Yeah, my mom's "concerns about other people" were really her own concerns projected  Creideiki   Jan-26-09 08:17 PM   #59 
  - You did well  dsc   Jan-26-09 06:47 PM   #47 
  - My sense is that  bluedawg12   Jan-26-09 06:54 PM   #50 
  - I think you did amazingly well. But...  Zuiderelle   Jan-26-09 06:56 PM   #51 
  - If there were more moms who were as loving, supportive, and honest with their  bertman   Jan-26-09 06:59 PM   #52 
  - I was a social worker  childslibrarian   Jan-26-09 07:27 PM   #53 
  - you did well, much better than most parents. i just wouldnt scare my child  La Lioness Priyanka   Jan-26-09 07:34 PM   #54 
  - You did very good. Your daughter's lucky to have you.  Stinky The Clown   Jan-26-09 07:41 PM   #56 
  - I think you did great.  tbyg52   Jan-26-09 07:52 PM   #57 
  - That was lovely of you!  lightningandsnow   Jan-26-09 07:57 PM   #58 
  - Really nice job, Mother Of Four!  calimary   Jan-26-09 08:26 PM   #60 
  - You are a great mom.  Aurora Borealis   Jan-26-09 08:51 PM   #62 
  - Oh...  FedUpWithIt All   Jan-26-09 08:55 PM   #63 
  - Don't beat yourself up. Sounds to me like you did fine.  JerseygirlCT   Jan-26-09 08:56 PM   #64 
  - This is where I'm supposed to write that you did the right thing?  minnesota_liberal   Jan-26-09 09:10 PM   #67 
  - I think you did as well as anyone could.  DarkTirade   Jan-26-09 10:44 PM   #69 
  - As long as she knows you love her all will be fine  Blue Dog Dominion   Jan-26-09 10:57 PM   #71 
  - BRAVO!  elleng   Jan-26-09 11:10 PM   #72 
  - OMG, I wish there were more parents like you in this world.  Jamastiene   Jan-27-09 12:05 AM   #73 
  - Hey Mom, you did a great job  JulieRB   Jan-27-09 12:14 AM   #74 
  - :)))))  BlooInBloo   Jan-27-09 12:41 AM   #75 
  - Fantastic response -- you rock, mom!  fortyfeetunder   Jan-27-09 12:57 AM   #76 
  - I be a witness!!  Karenina   Jan-27-09 03:02 PM   #79 
  - I think that you have one girl who is VERY proud of her Mom  intaglio   Jan-27-09 12:41 PM   #77 

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