Reply #78: it's partly the other way around

[Enrique]

you write that some straights are letting perceived threats to their self-image get in the way of productive discussion or action.

That might be true, but it's also true that some advocates of the gay cause are letting their self-image as pro-gays get in the way as well. Demonstrating your correctness on the issue only goes so far, especially in a supportive forum.

This often takes the form of asserting your own pro-gay status by questioning others. This rarely does any good, and is often counterproductive, especially if false.

The last part of your post makes the assumption that advocates of the cause are righteous. This is not a correct assumption. The cause itself is righteous, but many of the advocates are not. Accusing people falsely of bigotry is not righteous.

It's not correct to say we must speak out and not worry about how we're doing it. Forgive me if this is oversimplifying what you wrote. But you don't imo appreciate the importance of TRUTH in whatever we do. Without TRUTH, any speaking and acting has little force behind it.