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Harry Monroe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-22-08 08:31 PM
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60. My wife and I were married by a justice of the peace
I am Catholic and my wife is a once divorced Episcopalian. I did not want to go through the bullshit of a Catholic wedding with counseling. We choose our own music and had 2 friends read religious scriptures between the vows. We also held the guest to 100 people, since my wife and I paid for the whole thing. We kept the guest list away from our parents. We had the reception right afterward at the same reception hall; bought our own liquor and hired a DJ for music. Never ever did we regret not having a religious ceremony. All the religion we needed in the wedding ceremony was contained in our two religious scriptures we chose ourselves.
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  -Anyone up for a little Marriage 101? Pacifist Patriot  Dec-22-08 09:02 AM   #0 
  - Nice. K&R  PeaceNikki   Dec-22-08 09:03 AM   #1 
  - I'm with you! k&r  polichick   Dec-22-08 09:11 AM   #2 
  - K & R, with a few suggested changes  TechBear_Seattle   Dec-22-08 09:14 AM   #3 
  - Excellent point! It is $93.50 here.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 09:20 AM   #5 
     - OMG -- it was either $25 or $27 for us -- I acn't remmeber  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 10:12 AM   #8 
        - $25 for me in Massachusetts 15 years ago.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 10:20 AM   #10 
  - Excellent stuff.  Vickers   Dec-22-08 09:14 AM   #4 
  - Now that is a post I can get behind!  WakeMeUp   Dec-22-08 09:35 AM   #6 
  - k&r -- the OP is clergy, btw  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 10:05 AM   #7 
  - Curious- how does a marraige differ from a civil union or domestic partnership  depakid   Dec-22-08 10:13 AM   #9 
  - They DON'T get teh same set of rights -- that has been posted thousands of times on here  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 10:24 AM   #11 
  - This is, to me, a muddy semantic area but has implications for social normatives.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 10:24 AM   #12 
  - May I plagarize your post in the future?  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 10:27 AM   #14 
  - Whichever ones you want. Feel free.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 10:30 AM   #15 
  - I think the actual answer  edwardlindy   Dec-22-08 11:43 AM   #23 
     - The UK still has civil marriages. They're just not available to gay couples.  Harvey Korman   Dec-22-08 11:52 AM   #29 
        - We don't actually it that - that's more what is written  edwardlindy   Dec-22-08 12:13 PM   #37 
           - I see.  Harvey Korman   Dec-22-08 12:17 PM   #39 
              - I forgot to mention  edwardlindy   Dec-22-08 12:45 PM   #44 
                 - Your friends must have been really broke.  hay rick   Dec-22-08 11:35 PM   #62 
                    - I'd meant to reply but forgot.......doh  edwardlindy   Dec-24-08 07:38 AM   #67 
                       - I work in New Jersey  hay rick   Dec-24-08 04:05 PM   #69 
  - Thousands of legal precedences  ieoeja   Dec-22-08 10:25 AM   #13 
  - The law simply doesn't work this way.  Romulox   Dec-22-08 11:52 AM   #28 
  - Civil unions are illegal for gay people in most states. Even where allowed, they don't provide the  yardwork   Dec-22-08 11:24 AM   #20 
  - "Marriage for everyone" - works for me. nt  tbyg52   Dec-22-08 10:35 AM   #16 
  - In many sane countries  nichomachus   Dec-22-08 11:08 AM   #17 
  - I know in France and Italy you have to be married first  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 11:10 AM   #18 
  - Well, as a member of the clergy I actually quite enjoy being the person who...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 11:22 AM   #19 
     - You can declare them "spaghetti" for all I care  nichomachus   Dec-22-08 11:29 AM   #21 
        - Why are you attacking the poster -- she is a HUGE GLBT ally  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 11:35 AM   #22 
        - But you're missing the point  nichomachus   Dec-22-08 11:47 AM   #24 
           - Just as Pacifist Patriot is a friend of mine  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 11:50 AM   #25 
           - And isn't nice you had the option to choose whom you wished to do it?  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 12:07 PM   #35 
              - Not really  nichomachus   Dec-22-08 12:33 PM   #40 
                 - Fair enough. We'll have to agree to disagree. Provided any clergy...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 12:39 PM   #41 
        - No need to be so combative. If you didn't want me to be the one to...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 12:04 PM   #32 
  - This is why I'm all for not allowing ministers to be officients  ayeshahaqqiqa   Dec-22-08 11:51 AM   #26 
  - I'm all for freedom of choice and allowing the couple to decide whether they want...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 12:06 PM   #34 
     - As another member of the clergy  HillWilliam   Dec-23-08 07:48 AM   #64 
  - Great post!  Jamastiene   Dec-22-08 11:51 AM   #27 
  - If religion were the key ingredient to marriage with "God in the mix" and all  kenny blankenship   Dec-22-08 11:59 AM   #30 
  - Missed Point: Evidence that marriage is a civil issue - Just look at Divorce.  Ioo   Dec-22-08 12:04 PM   #31 
  - great post  Bill McBlueState   Dec-22-08 12:06 PM   #33 
  - It was for the perceived benefit of society  treestar   Dec-22-08 12:08 PM   #36 
  - My wife and I tried to put off marriage.  Mugweed   Dec-22-08 12:13 PM   #38 
  - Thank you.  DarkTirade   Dec-22-08 12:39 PM   #42 
  - I agree the term "gay marriage" is ridiculous. I pledge to stop using it.  NoSheep   Dec-22-08 12:42 PM   #43 
  - I use "marriage equality" b/c I think it frames the real issue nicely and isn't too wordy.  beac   Dec-22-08 05:13 PM   #52 
     - I agree with you. I am going to alter my language. Thanks!  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 07:45 PM   #57 
     - And thank you for the book recommendation.  beac   Dec-23-08 12:36 PM   #66 
     - good term: "marriage equality"  NoSheep   Dec-23-08 11:06 AM   #65 
  - Kick...  Jankyn   Dec-22-08 12:47 PM   #45 
  - kick  LostinVA   Dec-22-08 01:32 PM   #46 
  - kick  Mari333   Dec-22-08 03:39 PM   #47 
  - Kick with comments of 5,6,7...  uppityperson   Dec-22-08 03:43 PM   #48 
  - Good points  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 04:23 PM   #49 
  - It depends on what is meant by "ceremony", since there need not be one.  uppityperson   Dec-22-08 06:10 PM   #55 
     - Another good point. Personally I use the word ceremony in the broadest sense.  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 07:39 PM   #56 
  - Oh, you're last question is one that fascinates me because I have 10 days to...  Pacifist Patriot   Dec-22-08 04:45 PM   #51 
  - Married couples enjoy benifits that the rest of us do not.  TWiley   Dec-22-08 04:30 PM   #50 
  - Excellent post  haruka3_2000   Dec-22-08 05:15 PM   #53 
  - A hearty K&R!  beac   Dec-22-08 05:17 PM   #54 
  - well said. cuts right thru' the bullshit.  iconicgnom   Dec-22-08 08:13 PM   #58 
  - Equal means equal  Patsy Stone   Dec-22-08 08:25 PM   #59 
  - My wife and I were married by a justice of the peace  NotGonnaTakeIt   Dec-22-08 08:31 PM   #60 
  - great posting & thoughts behind it  tomm2thumbs   Dec-22-08 09:22 PM   #61 
  - Informative and constructive post.  hay rick   Dec-22-08 11:36 PM   #63 
  - Who can officiate  dmesg   Dec-24-08 08:04 AM   #68 
 

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