Reply #149: When people grow up expecting them...

[Orsino]

...even dreaming of them, they aren't abuse. Many, many people find fulfillment in these relationships--or they fake it so well that even they may not be aware of a problem. There needs to be an escape hatch, however, for those who don't choose to participate.

The case the OP cites sounds like chicken sadness wrapped in dominance duck, stuffed into a denial turkey.