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Tue Nov-25-08 06:17 PM
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| 20. Some elderly people already have a home health care aide, but could use a housemate |
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to be there when the home health care aide isn't around, not to do what the aide would do but to help them in other ways and just be there if needed so the person isn't completely alone.
Not all elderly people can live with their adult children. Not all HAVE children. Not all want to move out of their homes and into a nursing home, and some aren't in such bad shape that they have to. They can do fine with just having another adult around to help.
Some of them are willing to give a person free room and board to do this.
Some of them advertise for such a person.
I would suggest this young woman look for such a situation. She might be surprised at what she finds.
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| -Women staying in unproductive relationships from lack of choices! |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 05:36 PM |
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Well, I'm all for welfare, food, housing, clothing, medical care, free, for anyone. |
bemildred |
Nov-25-08 05:41 PM |
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If her boyfriend isn't paying any bills, why doesn't she just live on her own? |
MercutioATC |
Nov-25-08 05:43 PM |
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she has other choices... |
msongs |
Nov-25-08 05:46 PM |
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Some elderly people already have a home health care aide, but could use a housemate |
BerryBush |
Nov-25-08 06:17 PM |
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No offense, but have you considered the possibility that she likes her boyfriend? |
TheWraith |
Nov-25-08 05:48 PM |
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have you considered... |
awoke_in_2003 |
Nov-25-08 08:49 PM |
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Thank you for "getting it"!!! |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 09:03 PM |
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Not normally a violent person |
awoke_in_2003 |
Nov-25-08 09:12 PM |
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I understand completely! I don't like to think of violence being the way to solve anything, either! |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 09:18 PM |
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Some middle class white males... |
awoke_in_2003 |
Nov-25-08 09:30 PM |
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If this is the woman's situation, she should call a woman's shelter for advice. n/t |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:07 AM |
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I'm a woman, and I would be appalled if the men in my family acted on my behalf without my consent. |
Heidi |
Nov-26-08 07:17 AM |
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there is another way-disappear |
KakistocracyHater |
Nov-25-08 11:56 PM |
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You're expecting people to read your mind because you've been selective |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:06 AM |
#125 |
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You're assuming a lot of things not in evidence. |
TheWraith |
Nov-25-08 11:10 PM |
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I absolutely agree with you |
wildflower |
Nov-25-08 05:51 PM |
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You're the first one on this thread who *does* understand. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 05:53 PM |
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perhaps because your post makes not a lot of sense? |
Warren Stupidity |
Nov-25-08 06:00 PM |
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maybe most of us are on ignore? |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 11:23 PM |
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I wonder if getting women's groups involved would help? |
wildflower |
Nov-25-08 06:13 PM |
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Congratulations on being a jerk. |
TheWraith |
Nov-25-08 11:12 PM |
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I agree, more low income housing is needed, health care, etc. |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 05:57 PM |
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I'm missing the part where her boyfriend, who pays no bills, |
Warren Stupidity |
Nov-25-08 05:57 PM |
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Her employers need to pay a living wage |
LiberalEsto |
Nov-25-08 06:00 PM |
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So, we can wait for that..... or start getting low-income housing for ALL now?? |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 06:01 PM |
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The minimum wage could be increased more quickly than building a lot more |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 06:04 PM |
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All the elderly and disabled people thank you. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:46 PM |
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Your friend isn't elderly. Is she disabled? |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 08:03 PM |
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I included people like me in the OP.... but you've made it clear you're not available to |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:09 PM |
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Your OP highlighted your friend's situation -- a friend who appears to have |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 08:16 PM |
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Man, your local library is open late |
haruka3_2000 |
Nov-25-08 09:36 PM |
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I have that post at 7:09 mountain time |
hfojvt |
Nov-26-08 12:46 AM |
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Indeed they do. |
surrealAmerican |
Nov-25-08 06:57 PM |
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This young woman has other choices. She could live with a girlfriend, |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 06:03 PM |
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Winner! She could live with a girlfriend! |
fed_up_mother |
Nov-25-08 06:29 PM |
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Yep, my mother does that |
Lorien |
Nov-26-08 12:45 AM |
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Why is she sticking with a leech boyfriend that doesn't pay any bills? |
tjwash |
Nov-25-08 06:05 PM |
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Yeah, I'm not grasping the issue |
TheKentuckian |
Nov-25-08 06:07 PM |
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"people need a variety of support systems to get their feet underneath them" |
lumberjack_jeff |
Nov-25-08 06:11 PM |
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I have to agree |
eilen |
Nov-25-08 07:05 PM |
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The ability to earn a living wage would solve so many problems for so many. |
Gwendolyn |
Nov-25-08 06:09 PM |
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Nobody should be forced to live with someone they want to leave |
oktoberain |
Nov-25-08 06:13 PM |
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Thank you, oktoberbrain |
wildflower |
Nov-25-08 06:23 PM |
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"The lack of affordable housing in America is a social evil that desperately needs to be remedied." |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 06:26 PM |
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It is of importance, and it isn't new. |
Gwendolyn |
Nov-25-08 06:32 PM |
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So, what are we going to do about it? Accept it? |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 06:47 PM |
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dupe n/t |
Gwendolyn |
Nov-25-08 07:48 PM |
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Well, considering that more and more families are going to find themselves on the street |
Gwendolyn |
Nov-25-08 07:48 PM |
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As someone who sees a desperate need for low-income housing and better wages |
fed_up_mother |
Nov-25-08 06:34 PM |
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I'm sure that never occurred to her. Because, of course, she must be stooopid. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 06:49 PM |
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If she really considered it, then she wouldn't say she only has two choices. |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 07:03 PM |
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I see no reason to support the lousy boyfriend who won't get a job |
fed_up_mother |
Nov-25-08 07:38 PM |
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And my mother rented out rooms in her big house for a time, |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 08:03 PM |
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Unlike many here, I don't dictate to people. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:11 PM |
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Why Are You Being So Nasty To People Who Are Sincere? |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME |
Nov-25-08 09:37 PM |
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because that's what she does |
pitohui |
Nov-25-08 09:46 PM |
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That's a good book to read. |
Confound W |
Nov-25-08 11:48 PM |
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Regular housing would be more affordable if there were higher wages. |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 06:59 PM |
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Do "progressives" differ on whether elderly and disabled people should have housing? |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:05 PM |
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The elderly and disabled often are often unable to work in order |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 07:11 PM |
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And how do you know that?? Do you know her? |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:12 PM |
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I know that without knowing her. You say she only has two choices. |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 07:17 PM |
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It must be great to be so certain. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:36 PM |
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I do support low-income family for people who need it, but I'd prefer that |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 07:52 PM |
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thanks for reminding me that you consider me illogical. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:13 PM |
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The Poster Called You No Names. |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME |
Nov-25-08 09:39 PM |
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good lord, someone suggests something and you accuse them of not being supportive. |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 11:27 PM |
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Maybe if you would give us more information |
Dorian Gray |
Nov-25-08 09:52 PM |
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It's still easier for young people to be more fluid in their choices. |
Gwendolyn |
Nov-25-08 07:13 PM |
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You took the words out of my mouth, bobbolink! A lot of people probably wonder why |
KCabotDullesMarxIII |
Nov-25-08 07:19 PM |
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i was going to respond to someone who believes this woman has lots of choices |
noiretblu |
Nov-25-08 07:21 PM |
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Especially the know-it-alls who've never been there... just like the RWers who are so CERTAIN |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:43 PM |
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Oh please. I've chosen the roommate option. So has my daughter, so have |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 08:12 PM |
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I've done the roommate option too. |
Withywindle |
Nov-25-08 10:51 PM |
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Has your friend even applied for low income housing? |
lizzy |
Nov-25-08 08:26 PM |
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Ummmm, Looks Like Someone Was Completely Incompetent In Selecting A Roommate. |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME |
Nov-25-08 09:43 PM |
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You have no idea who of us has been there. Shame on you for your assumptions and accusations. |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 11:28 PM |
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The problem is that the OP gives no reasons as to why this woman |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 07:57 PM |
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This young woman isn't being forced to do anything; she has lots of options. |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 07:09 PM |
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Exactly. To suggest that a woman needs a boyfriend or daddy to survive is |
Lorien |
Nov-26-08 12:52 AM |
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There have been a steady increase in McMansions being built |
intheflow |
Nov-25-08 08:54 PM |
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I've thought of that here. For example, what is going to happen to |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:12 AM |
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kick..! |
KoKo01 |
Nov-25-08 06:33 PM |
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What's a "productive" relationship? |
leftstreet |
Nov-25-08 06:37 PM |
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Here's how some young people are making do. |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 06:53 PM |
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An option like that may not be opened to the woman. |
Confound W |
Nov-25-08 11:34 PM |
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What do you mean? There are houses full of women looking for other |
Lorien |
Nov-26-08 12:59 AM |
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Wait a minute... I don't understand something |
lumberjack_jeff |
Nov-25-08 07:05 PM |
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May be the boyfriend's apartment. |
Lars39 |
Nov-25-08 07:23 PM |
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Exactly! |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:37 PM |
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so why didn't you say that to begin with |
WolverineDG |
Nov-25-08 07:55 PM |
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Yes, it's all bullshit to you, because you don't see any need for compassion. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:14 PM |
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I would laugh, but you are too much. Pot-kettle. I pity you |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 11:29 PM |
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If it is his apartment, then he is paying the bills (rent? taxes on |
lizzy |
Nov-25-08 08:21 PM |
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Don't bother |
WolverineDG |
Nov-25-08 08:39 PM |
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Don't expect any tales from the pos(t)er to ever make sense. NT |
mondo joe |
Nov-25-08 10:59 PM |
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It is hard being 20 in this world |
wellstone dem |
Nov-25-08 07:22 PM |
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All good advice. Your daughter is lucky to have you. n/t |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 08:01 PM |
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For all of you "progressives" |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 07:49 PM |
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Homelessness is a terrible, frightening position to be in. |
Gwendolyn |
Nov-25-08 08:35 PM |
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Why didn't you just post an OP stating we need more affordable housing? |
leftstreet |
Nov-25-08 11:16 PM |
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If BF isn't paying the bills |
WolverineDG |
Nov-25-08 07:53 PM |
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Agreed |
tammywammy |
Nov-25-08 08:00 PM |
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she has some choices |
dugaresa |
Nov-25-08 08:09 PM |
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"first she kicks out the deadbeat boyfriend" GREAT IDEA!! WHY DIDNT SHE THINK OF THAT??? |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:16 PM |
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If it's HIS apartment, WHO IS PAYING THE RENT??? |
WolverineDG |
Nov-25-08 08:42 PM |
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If the apartment is his, she'll have to leave. |
Lars39 |
Nov-25-08 08:16 PM |
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Thank you. I thought there was more awareness here than there obviously is. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:21 PM |
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Not to mention a lot of landlords are checking credit scores. |
Lars39 |
Nov-25-08 08:27 PM |
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Yes, all of that. It's so painful for these young women. |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:54 PM |
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She could live with her parents until she saves up the deposits. |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:17 AM |
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If the boyfriend doesn't pay the bills, why does she have to live |
lizzy |
Nov-25-08 08:20 PM |
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There should be... |
dajoki |
Nov-25-08 08:20 PM |
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dajoki, you are a wonderful father and grandfather, so it's very difficult to understand what these |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 08:26 PM |
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No I don't get it... |
dajoki |
Nov-25-08 09:06 PM |
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While you make good points about lack of afforable housing and poor wages, you lost me on your |
PeaceNikki |
Nov-25-08 08:34 PM |
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Most college students live in crummy apartments with roommates. |
pnwmom |
Nov-25-08 08:36 PM |
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You might not have called people names... |
travelingtypist |
Nov-25-08 08:46 PM |
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I agree with the need for low income housing |
ismnotwasm |
Nov-25-08 08:59 PM |
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Much as I bitched the whole time I was in the military |
thecatburgler |
Nov-25-08 10:18 PM |
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Sounds like High Point, Greenbridge and Holly Park in Seattle |
eridani |
Nov-26-08 02:46 AM |
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I don't understand the big problem. |
Xenotime |
Nov-25-08 09:11 PM |
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I am stymied |
maryf |
Nov-25-08 09:24 PM |
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Thank you, maryf!! I'm so discouraged at the lack of awareness and concern... |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 09:33 PM |
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The opposite attitude to this cynical, judgemental position: |
bobbolink |
Nov-25-08 09:40 PM |
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Why take at face value something that doesn't make sense? |
mondo joe |
Nov-25-08 11:03 PM |
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Because we can't take at face value something that is clearly FALSE. |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:23 AM |
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Would've Been A Worthy OP If It Weren't For The Inherent Sexism Within It. |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME |
Nov-25-08 09:34 PM |
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the poster is a well known dweller under bridges |
pitohui |
Nov-25-08 09:42 PM |
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I Lived In My Car Through 2 Of Jersey's Harshest Winters In Decades. |
OPERATIONMINDCRIME |
Nov-25-08 09:47 PM |
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you know, that's a good way to put it |
pitohui |
Nov-25-08 09:52 PM |
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And the problem is that that kind of attitude drives potential helpers away. |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:33 AM |
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How patronizing of you. |
undeterred |
Nov-26-08 12:34 AM |
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Do you think... |
mondo joe |
Nov-26-08 12:35 AM |
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I was wondering that, actually. |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:45 AM |
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My impression has been that nothing we do or say |
JackBeck |
Nov-26-08 01:54 AM |
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Yup. Many of us have been there, been homeless or in bad situations |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 11:36 PM |
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The thread isn't about trying to help. It's a stink bomb intended as a vehicle to be |
mondo joe |
Nov-25-08 11:39 PM |
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I know. I don't understand why these are let open, why let the nastiness continue. |
uppityperson |
Nov-25-08 11:43 PM |
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What I don't understand is how the OP is able to post at all hours of the day |
JackBeck |
Nov-25-08 11:49 PM |
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Nor do I. These threads are just bait for DUers to nibble on and get slammed for their |
mondo joe |
Nov-25-08 11:51 PM |
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Precisely. |
quantessd |
Nov-26-08 12:28 AM |
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Its not about your issue |
undeterred |
Nov-26-08 12:31 AM |
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The thread is not about anything but pissing on DUers, from someone with nothing |
mondo joe |
Nov-26-08 12:34 AM |
#134 |
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Care to inform us what mondo's "issue" is? |
JackBeck |
Nov-26-08 12:34 AM |
#135 |
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You've apparently got some hostility issues. |
undeterred |
Nov-26-08 12:35 AM |
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None at all. |
JackBeck |
Nov-26-08 12:37 AM |
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You might be on to something. |
pnwmom |
Nov-26-08 12:30 AM |
#131 |
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Not to mention the apparent attitude that a woman has no power or choices independent of men |
Radical Activist |
Nov-26-08 03:51 AM |
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No, I cannot "consider this as important as stopping the war, as important as gay marriage, |
Heidi |
Nov-26-08 12:34 AM |
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Heidi, thank you. |
JackBeck |
Nov-26-08 12:36 AM |
#140 |
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Agreed. Affordable housing is a very important issue. But the story in the OP trivializes |
mondo joe |
Nov-26-08 12:39 AM |
#142 |
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Read 'Nickeled and Dimed' by Barbara Ehrenreich |
JCMach1 |
Nov-26-08 12:43 AM |
#143 |
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I'm curious to hear what your solutions are for your friend. |
JackBeck |
Nov-26-08 02:07 AM |
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There is always choice... |
Jack_DeLeon |
Nov-26-08 03:22 AM |
#152 |
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As long as you blame the guy and not the woman, that's all that really counts. |
TexasObserver |
Nov-26-08 05:40 AM |
#154 |
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Or maybe she should |
Heidi |
Nov-26-08 06:49 AM |
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Self sufficiency is a worthy goal for all young people. |
TexasObserver |
Nov-26-08 06:58 AM |
#156 |
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I couldn't agree more. |
Heidi |
Nov-26-08 07:09 AM |
#157 |
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Locking. |
Puglover |
Nov-26-08 07:31 AM |
#159 |
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