Reply #184: this is the sad thing about this

[indigo32]

Kids get hurt too often.

just yesterday I was talking with my partner about her nephew. He asked his aunt for a ride to get his ear pierced. After confirming with him that this was discussed with his parents (and he had had it pierced in the past, I was with when she took him last time... helped confirm that it was positioned correctly ect...), she agreed and they were on their way. So halfway there she gets a call from his mother, she gave the phone to him, and could her her saying NO 'it's so gay! it's so gay!' (never mind that that idiocy is about 20-25 years out of date). This boy is 15 and very possibly gay, though not necessarilly, and getting messages from his parents that are almost as nasty as my partner absorbed growing up, and she is never going to overcome those messages, she is forever damaged by them. I can only hope things have changed enough for him, I think they have at least in the sense that his siblings are supportive of him. She does what she can within the framework she operates in, but it kills me every time I hear it. I think the kids still get let down by adults in their life FAR to often.