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Mon Oct-20-08 01:13 PM
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From reading your other responses, it's easy to see that you are doing all the right things for your son. You're teaching him not only tolerance, but acceptance of diversity in all of its forms, not just the popularly discussed ones. Getting healthy-- whatever that looks like for you-- is the only other things you can do for him. It sounds like you're doing that. Good luck and hugs to you!  |
| -My son broke my heart today. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 11:34 AM |
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I am so sorry to hear that. |
DesertedRose |
Oct-20-08 11:36 AM |
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Thanks,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 11:37 AM |
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Ouch- I can't imagine how that must hurt |
Marrah_G |
Oct-20-08 11:37 AM |
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We talked. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 11:38 AM |
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He is reacting to what he knows to be public prejudice against |
amitten |
Oct-20-08 11:45 AM |
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Tell him "tough!" It's time for him to learn about humility, and familial loyalty. |
Progs Rock |
Oct-20-08 11:38 AM |
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Those are both issues... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 11:39 AM |
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right |
bigtree |
Oct-20-08 11:40 AM |
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Not being a parent, I can't say I've had a similar experience. . . |
ET Awful |
Oct-20-08 11:40 AM |
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I'm sorry that how your son feels. But that's his opinion today. |
no_hypocrisy |
Oct-20-08 11:40 AM |
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Yes,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:27 PM |
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And the apple usually doesn't fall far from the tree. |
no_hypocrisy |
Oct-20-08 12:37 PM |
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Honor his wishes. |
Horse with no Name |
Oct-20-08 11:41 AM |
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Sorry, but that is the worst thing to do. |
TexasObserver |
Oct-21-08 07:38 AM |
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We're talking about peer pressure vs. parental pressure |
Horse with no Name |
Oct-21-08 02:40 PM |
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I know the feeling. |
wtmusic |
Oct-20-08 11:42 AM |
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Dude |
DaveTheWave |
Oct-20-08 11:42 AM |
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When I was a kid in Catholic School in the 60s... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:29 PM |
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Hm... I wouldn't be too hurt. |
SmokingJacket |
Oct-20-08 11:42 AM |
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I think that your son might be a victim of advertising. |
mediaman007 |
Oct-20-08 11:43 AM |
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Deleted sub-thread |
Name removed |
Oct-20-08 11:43 AM |
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I guess you have to respect his wishes.. |
Xenotime |
Oct-20-08 11:43 AM |
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I would disagree. |
wtmusic |
Oct-20-08 12:05 PM |
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I don't have children, but my nieces and nephew (their parents |
jjanpundt |
Oct-20-08 11:43 AM |
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Acceptance and diversity are themes of our family. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:42 PM |
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Great mix! One of the phrases my sister used for her kids was |
jjanpundt |
Oct-20-08 02:19 PM |
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My now 11-yo daughter got on me about my weight a year ago. |
stopbush |
Oct-20-08 11:45 AM |
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Yes, it makes me more serious about something I know I have to do. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:45 PM |
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I used to be 100 lbs heavier until I quit Diet Drinks and the mass-produced US diet |
El Pinko |
Oct-20-08 11:45 AM |
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I know you mean well |
Marrah_G |
Oct-20-08 11:59 AM |
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Are you looking for input or pity? |
stopbush |
Oct-20-08 12:08 PM |
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~ I ~ am not looking for anything. |
Marrah_G |
Oct-20-08 12:21 PM |
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While your son MAY have added an insult, |
stopbush |
Oct-20-08 12:32 PM |
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I am not the OP- niether of my sons has anything to do with this thread......... |
Marrah_G |
Oct-20-08 12:38 PM |
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The question was about hving such feelings in relation to one's kids. |
El Pinko |
Oct-20-08 12:34 PM |
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I was simply pointing out the timing probably added to his hurting ~right now~ |
Marrah_G |
Oct-20-08 12:38 PM |
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Maybe. If so, I'm sorry. |
El Pinko |
Oct-20-08 12:44 PM |
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Sometimes. |
Marrah_G |
Oct-20-08 12:47 PM |
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Really? |
JulieRB |
Oct-20-08 01:04 PM |
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That really makes absolutely no sense. |
El Pinko |
Oct-21-08 06:14 AM |
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I don't think if he was worried about his pain he would have posted this. |
Fire_Medic_Dave |
Oct-20-08 07:42 PM |
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probably NEVER |
Scout |
Oct-20-08 01:24 PM |
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You may be right and you may be wrong. |
El Pinko |
Oct-20-08 12:32 PM |
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"You may be right and you may be wrong." |
King Coal |
Oct-20-08 01:06 PM |
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I take your thread as it was intended. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:55 PM |
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Thanks, and more power to you, no matter what the scale says. |
El Pinko |
Oct-20-08 01:03 PM |
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Oh no! I'm so sorry. |
PelosiFan |
Oct-20-08 11:45 AM |
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I'm so sorry! :( |
my3boyz |
Oct-20-08 11:46 AM |
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The problem is the teasing. |
peace13 |
Oct-20-08 11:47 AM |
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Geez, and I thought that you were going to say that your son was voting for McCain |
Beacool |
Oct-20-08 11:51 AM |
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If my son were of voting age and voted... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:52 PM |
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Oh, it wouldn't be THAT bad. |
Beacool |
Oct-20-08 01:15 PM |
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Sounds like a good time to talk to him |
ColoradoMagician |
Oct-20-08 11:51 AM |
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Thanks. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:54 PM |
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I am so sorry for you. Keep your spirits up. He loves you, but kids' peers are brutal. |
LittleApple81 |
Oct-20-08 11:51 AM |
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I'm sorry this happened :( May I offer some suggestions? |
progressivebydesign |
Oct-20-08 11:55 AM |
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My little ones have said stuff from time to time... |
Journalgrrl |
Oct-20-08 11:56 AM |
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I think it's great |
Tangerine LaBamba |
Oct-20-08 11:57 AM |
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you said many wise things, IMHO |
renate |
Oct-20-08 04:23 PM |
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Kids can be funny that way. |
Turbineguy |
Oct-20-08 12:07 PM |
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that's so sad :( |
GTRMAN |
Oct-20-08 12:10 PM |
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I really don't have any words of wisdom. |
racaulk |
Oct-20-08 12:10 PM |
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I'm sorry. As a person who has struggled with weight from day one, |
Vinca |
Oct-20-08 12:11 PM |
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i'm sorry and i know it hurts but your son was honest with you and that's because of you |
chimpsrsmarter |
Oct-20-08 12:12 PM |
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Speaking freely, but respectfully,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:57 PM |
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That is a tough one. I am a little overweight and unemployed. I find |
applegrove |
Oct-20-08 12:12 PM |
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what if you were an alcoholic? |
Captain Sensible |
Oct-20-08 12:13 PM |
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You don't think there are alcoholics that have kids who are ashamed of them and feel hurt about it? |
JVS |
Oct-20-08 12:34 PM |
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Actually, I AM an Alcoholic. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:59 PM |
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You bet |
wtmusic |
Oct-20-08 01:00 PM |
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How smug and nasty you are. |
El Pinko |
Oct-20-08 01:00 PM |
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The irony of that comment paired with that book is amazing |
Sabriel |
Oct-20-08 12:14 PM |
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My plan is... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 12:26 PM |
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Good Idea |
NikolaC |
Oct-20-08 02:28 PM |
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I could stand to lose a few pounds |
Horse with no Name |
Oct-20-08 12:14 PM |
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considering i remember a kid saying this about my tiny 110 pound mom it ain't about you |
pitohui |
Oct-20-08 12:28 PM |
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Biggest |
Dorian Gray |
Oct-21-08 07:03 AM |
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Kids at that age become extremely self focused |
rufus dog |
Oct-20-08 12:31 PM |
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Funny that you should say that. |
sakura |
Oct-20-08 01:18 PM |
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ain't that the truth. |
michele77 |
Oct-20-08 01:42 PM |
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Perhaps it's time for him to meet some special needs kids. |
kiranon |
Oct-20-08 12:32 PM |
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Tell your son that you made a commitment to do it, and that whether he likes it or not you must... |
JVS |
Oct-20-08 12:32 PM |
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Weight is a hard thing |
marlakay |
Oct-20-08 12:39 PM |
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Hugs!! I'm so sorry. My son is 8 |
indie_voter |
Oct-20-08 12:41 PM |
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I'm in the same boat, almost... |
sakura |
Oct-20-08 12:42 PM |
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WOW! Thanks, sakura! |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 01:02 PM |
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Good luck to you. |
sakura |
Oct-20-08 01:13 PM |
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I have to second this post |
Dorian Gray |
Oct-21-08 07:05 AM |
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Please be aware, though, that one cause of being overweight is insulin resistance, a genetic problem |
bean fidhleir |
Oct-20-08 01:39 PM |
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Thanks. |
sakura |
Oct-20-08 02:18 PM |
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Anti-depressants have a horrible rep for causing weight gain. |
bean fidhleir |
Oct-20-08 02:53 PM |
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I will definitely look into it. |
sakura |
Oct-20-08 03:45 PM |
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there is always something that a kid that age will feel conscious about. |
mopinko |
Oct-20-08 12:42 PM |
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This is also very true |
Dorian Gray |
Oct-21-08 07:09 AM |
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all kids go through that. I did with my parents, I'm sure my kids will too. |
IndianaJones |
Oct-20-08 12:43 PM |
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Please don't be angry. He is a child. Go in and read to the class. |
jesus_of_suburbia |
Oct-20-08 12:46 PM |
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It could be worse |
MartyL |
Oct-20-08 12:49 PM |
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You and your spouse have socialized your son very well. Congratulations! |
bean fidhleir |
Oct-20-08 12:52 PM |
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Ok, get over it. |
kokono |
Oct-20-08 12:55 PM |
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"Get over it." "Are you his real dad?" "His future trumps yours." |
OmelasExpat |
Oct-20-08 01:04 PM |
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No...on so many levels. |
wtmusic |
Oct-20-08 01:04 PM |
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He is my adopted son,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 01:22 PM |
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Thanks MarianJack, |
kokono |
Oct-20-08 02:07 PM |
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If you think calling people fat is "new insight" then you're a scumbag or one lonely asshole. |
readmoreoften |
Oct-20-08 07:34 PM |
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Just to make it clear. I didn't call anyone anything. |
kokono |
Oct-21-08 01:30 AM |
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deleted dupe |
kokono |
Oct-21-08 01:32 AM |
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I am so sorry |
ismnotwasm |
Oct-20-08 01:08 PM |
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Overweight prejudice is a known fact - in the schools and out |
RiverStone |
Oct-20-08 01:27 PM |
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He intended no harm,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 01:36 PM |
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I Am So Sorry.... |
mellowfellowO |
Oct-20-08 01:37 PM |
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Lessons from this. |
Satbod Elder |
Oct-20-08 01:37 PM |
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Excellent points! |
missb |
Oct-20-08 01:51 PM |
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All are lessons... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 04:10 PM |
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Not quite the same, but similar... |
Papagoose |
Oct-20-08 01:39 PM |
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There are lots of little hurts with kids... brace yourself. |
Liberal_in_LA |
Oct-20-08 01:43 PM |
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The common thread here |
Iwillnevergiveup |
Oct-20-08 01:44 PM |
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As a former educator,.. |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 04:19 PM |
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As a parent and teacher, I am sorry for how this... |
YvonneCa |
Oct-20-08 02:29 PM |
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I love him all of the time,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 04:20 PM |
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I can ... |
YvonneCa |
Oct-20-08 08:01 PM |
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I think it's super that you're reading to the class! |
InvisibleTouch |
Oct-20-08 03:26 PM |
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In all honesty,... |
MarianJack |
Oct-20-08 06:56 PM |
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Is there a parent who hasn't had an experience like this one? |
sfexpat2000 |
Oct-20-08 03:28 PM |
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Isn't that the truth. From the time kids begin going to school, they are conscious of what their |
8_year_nightmare |
Oct-20-08 04:39 PM |
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My son flinched when I touched his 7th grade arm in a music store. |
sfexpat2000 |
Oct-20-08 04:44 PM |
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Oh, boy. |
DarbyUSMC |
Oct-20-08 03:38 PM |
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Kids are brutally honest, and that's what I love about them. My sons have said |
burythehatchet |
Oct-20-08 03:39 PM |
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wow that hurt and I feel for you |
grantcart |
Oct-20-08 04:26 PM |
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Brutal honesty of kids... |
MALEVOLENT MARINE |
Oct-20-08 04:46 PM |
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My son didn't like me going to school. I did, anyway, in elementary. |
MissMarple |
Oct-20-08 07:18 PM |
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So that's what happened! |
lonestarnot |
Oct-20-08 07:22 PM |
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Ow. It kinda makes it worse that he doesn't even know how hurtful that is. :( |
BlooInBloo |
Oct-20-08 07:22 PM |
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I have a five year old who sometimes points out my flaws |
Geek_Girl |
Oct-20-08 07:35 PM |
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kids at aged 8 are self-conscious about their parents showing up at school |
carlyhippy |
Oct-20-08 07:38 PM |
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Don't take this the wrong way, but... |
Canuckistanian |
Oct-20-08 07:41 PM |
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Yes...it happens with some of our more "questioning outspoken children." |
KoKo01 |
Oct-20-08 07:42 PM |
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Kids can be so cruel, he's trying to save himself some torture. |
MrSlayer |
Oct-21-08 01:40 AM |
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a word of advice,,, |
w8liftinglady |
Oct-21-08 02:11 AM |
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I know it hurts, but it will not always be that way |
GA Democrat |
Oct-21-08 02:13 AM |
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Kids were put on the planet to drive us nuts. |
cornermouse |
Oct-21-08 06:32 AM |
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just wait until he's in jr high |
medeak |
Oct-21-08 07:08 AM |
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Hi, a different perspective is what a wonderful teaching moment |
erinlough |
Oct-21-08 07:10 AM |
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You're the parent. He is the child. Time to take on the issue directly. |
TexasObserver |
Oct-21-08 07:33 AM |
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Support |
Freedomofmind |
Oct-21-08 08:17 AM |
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As you know, kids will find ANYTHING to pick on |
Patiod |
Oct-21-08 08:25 AM |
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No, but I have been losing weight by exercising. |
noonwitch |
Oct-21-08 08:27 AM |
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Sorry to hear this. But I remember being embarrassed by my parents when I was a bit older |
TheGoldenRule |
Oct-21-08 08:41 AM |
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All I can say is that you have done something right in raising your son. You have taught your son |
IsItJustMe |
Oct-21-08 08:46 AM |
#145 |
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