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JSK Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-14-08 07:04 PM
Response to Reply #32
41. This is not about the women's movement
or whether or not women should work!! I am not telling anybody what to do!

It is about what it was like for you, the mom, to leave your kids in the care of someone else.
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  -Question for Moms here: JSK  Sep-14-08 06:16 PM   #0 
  - Yep ...  defendandprotect   Sep-14-08 06:16 PM   #1 
  - Look, there is a treasure trove of ammo to go after her with  PeaceNikki   Sep-14-08 06:18 PM   #2 
  - Thanks for a sane voice.  emilyg   Sep-14-08 06:21 PM   #4 
  - Right; forget it.  elleng   Sep-14-08 06:23 PM   #8 
  - I am not going after "her"  JSK   Sep-14-08 06:24 PM   #9 
  - What about dads? Obama has young children, too.  PeaceNikki   Sep-14-08 06:24 PM   #11 
  - They appear to be lovely, well adjusted, happy little girls. There's no comparison.  tblue   Sep-14-08 06:28 PM   #20 
  - michelle's mom watches them so they are very well  marlakay   Sep-14-08 06:39 PM   #33 
  - Especially when they were nursing  willing dwarf   Sep-14-08 06:29 PM   #22 
     - So Father's don't have a link to their offspring? Only the Moms do?  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 06:37 PM   #28 
        - I'm just saying how it was for me.  willing dwarf   Sep-14-08 09:49 PM   #81 
           - I guess you also think mothering is instinctual?  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 10:01 PM   #85 
              - Instinct, Hormones, one's own childhood experience  willing dwarf   Sep-14-08 10:12 PM   #87 
  - True. But if I knew a man had 5 kids, and one was preg and the other was a criminal,  tblue   Sep-14-08 06:25 PM   #12 
  - maybe it's not a public strategy, but it's a legitimate vent and point for analysis  zazen   Sep-14-08 06:25 PM   #14 
  - Great post! My dh and I lived as the working poor so I could stay home with our child.  TheGoldenRule   Sep-14-08 09:29 PM   #76 
  - people in the AK legislature report Palin as MIA  wordpix   Sep-14-08 10:36 PM   #93 
  - Yes  LiberalEsto   Sep-14-08 06:21 PM   #3 
  - hard to do  Maureen54   Sep-14-08 06:22 PM   #5 
  - I went to work to get a rest!  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 06:22 PM   #6 
  - Oh yes. Honest to goodness, work is easier by far than caring for  JerseygirlCT   Sep-15-08 07:40 PM   #114 
  - speaking as a mom,  barbtries   Sep-14-08 06:23 PM   # 
  - They have electric, portable, breast pumps now...  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 06:25 PM   #16 
  - Hey we all had these challenges and dealt with them  JSK   Sep-14-08 06:27 PM   #18 
     - No one said it would be easy... it isn't but many work now.  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 06:33 PM   #25 
  - I went back to work at eight weeks and I still nursed.  JeanGrey   Sep-14-08 06:28 PM   #21 
     - actually now that you mention it  barbtries   Sep-14-08 07:23 PM   #45 
        - Why not? I nursed when I dropped him off, again at lunch, ad  JeanGrey   Sep-15-08 01:50 AM   #99 
        - Why not? I would think it would be easy. She isn't making  JeanGrey   Sep-15-08 08:57 AM   #107 
  - Of course. But even if it hadn't bothered me, it's not even slightly developmentally appropriate.  LeftyMom   Sep-14-08 06:23 PM   #7 
  - Bull Shit!  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 06:24 PM   #10 
  - It's vomit-inducing that infants need to form a bond with their primary caregiver?  LeftyMom   Sep-14-08 08:20 PM   #64 
     - No.... your premise that mothers should not venture away from their babies for 6 months! Ludicrous!  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 09:07 PM   #67 
        - I never even said that the primary caregiver has to be the mother, though it generally is  LeftyMom   Sep-14-08 09:11 PM   #69 
           - Yes, I agree. Babies need to bond but they don't have to bond with just one person.  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 09:39 PM   #79 
              - They really do need one primary caregiver in infancy for healthy attachments  LeftyMom   Sep-14-08 09:45 PM   #80 
                 - Babysitters and daycare teachers do not "pass" the babies around like the remote.  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 10:04 PM   #86 
                    - Okay, I think we're talking past each other.  LeftyMom   Sep-14-08 10:21 PM   #89 
                    - I think you're the one not understanding.  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 11:29 PM   #95 
                    - Yikes.  Midlodemocrat   Sep-15-08 09:00 AM   #108 
  - So you are condeming every mother that went back to work  JeanGrey   Sep-14-08 06:28 PM   #19 
     - A mom of a baby with special needs who goes back to work after 3 days -- it's not typical.  tblue   Sep-14-08 06:30 PM   #23 
     - I don't condemn ANY working mothers. Period.  JeanGrey   Sep-14-08 06:39 PM   #31 
        - One of the only voices of reason,  Fire_Medic_Dave   Sep-14-08 07:07 PM   #42 
        - What? Huh?  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 07:30 PM   #48 
           - Are you trying to ask a question?  Fire_Medic_Dave   Sep-14-08 07:32 PM   #49 
              - I asked two.  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 07:34 PM   #50 
                 - That....  Fire_Medic_Dave   Sep-14-08 07:34 PM   #51 
                 - You seem like you may be one also.  Fire_Medic_Dave   Sep-14-08 07:37 PM   #53 
                    - I agree and have been posting that all day !  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 09:03 PM   #66 
                    - They are. Even the SNL skit will help her  JeanGrey   Sep-15-08 01:51 AM   #100 
        - OK.  tblue   Sep-14-08 10:18 PM   #88 
     - No, I'm saying it's in the infant's best interest to stay with it's primary caregiver.  LeftyMom   Sep-14-08 08:19 PM   #63 
     - Well this is America. And studies have shown that babies  JeanGrey   Sep-15-08 01:52 AM   #101 
     - It is hideous, isn't it?  BlueIris   Sep-15-08 04:33 PM   #111 
  - Same here  willing dwarf   Sep-14-08 06:25 PM   #13 
  - I was so-o-o-o-o lucky.  annabanana   Sep-14-08 06:25 PM   #15 
  - Of course. But I had to leave them just the same.  JeanGrey   Sep-14-08 06:26 PM   #17 
  - Not me. I looked forward to the peace and quiet.  Kahuna   Sep-14-08 06:31 PM   #24 
  - I couldn't do it, but I don't expect a presidential candidate to be like me.  SmokingJacket   Sep-14-08 06:35 PM   #26 
  - I don't want to point fingers here,  elleng   Sep-14-08 06:35 PM   #27 
  - The women's movement is about allowing women choice  PeaceNikki   Sep-14-08 06:39 PM   #32 
  - You are damn right it is. And it plays into their hands.  JeanGrey   Sep-14-08 06:40 PM   #34 
  - This is not about the women's movement  JSK   Sep-14-08 07:04 PM   #41 
  - Who said 'working mothers don't care enough.?  roody   Sep-14-08 06:48 PM   #36 
  - We have,  elleng   Sep-14-08 07:00 PM   #39 
  - Hey, I was a working mother!  JSK   Sep-14-08 06:58 PM   #38 
     - I don't think that was for you.....  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 07:02 PM   #40 
  - I stayed home until mine were 4 & 6 yrs old  marlakay   Sep-14-08 06:38 PM   #29 
  - I rarely left them  MassLiberal   Sep-14-08 06:38 PM   #30 
  - I had to leave my first baby to go to work.  LWolf   Sep-14-08 06:46 PM   #35 
  - You should have found a different babysitter then!  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 06:52 PM   #37 
  - Trust your instincts!!!  elleng   Sep-14-08 07:13 PM   #43 
  - Happily,  LWolf   Sep-14-08 07:42 PM   #56 
  - Thus speaks ignorance.  LWolf   Sep-14-08 07:35 PM   #52 
     - I'm sorry LWolf...  demmiblue   Sep-14-08 07:44 PM   #57 
     - Thank you.  LWolf   Sep-14-08 07:47 PM   #60 
        - Awe... so now you found the hug....  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 09:11 PM   #70 
           - Why wouldn't she find the hug?  demmiblue   Sep-14-08 11:49 PM   #96 
     - Wow!! So you're the only one that went though that 30 years ago? Did you not see the HUG?!  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 09:10 PM   #68 
        - A HUG FOR BREEZE54!  demmiblue   Sep-15-08 12:31 AM   #97 
  - I got so lucky the first time out  JerseygirlCT   Sep-15-08 07:42 PM   #115 
  - Yup, it was hard.....but also necessary to get the occasional break.  Shine   Sep-14-08 07:18 PM   #44 
  - Not sure what the exact ages of her kids are but  SujiwanKenobee   Sep-14-08 07:24 PM   #46 
  - extremely difficult, i was home for the first 6 months and then after that i worked  chimpsrsmarter   Sep-14-08 07:25 PM   #47 
  - I would NEVER EVER leave my special needs baby  Jennicut   Sep-14-08 07:39 PM   #54 
  - Leaving was hardest with my first one when he was younger  DesertedRose   Sep-14-08 07:39 PM   #55 
  - Palin family  Raschel   Sep-14-08 07:44 PM   #58 
  - well i didn't like it , but we had to eat  psychmommy   Sep-14-08 07:47 PM   #59 
  - So as a single father  TransitJohn   Sep-14-08 07:51 PM   #61 
  - Of course it does....  Breeze54   Sep-14-08 09:13 PM   #71 
  - This ridiculous fight between "working"moms and "stay at home" moms has got to STOP.  Sam Ervin jret   Sep-14-08 07:56 PM   #62 
  - I agree, ENOUGH. Men should be AS responsible for their children as women.  PelosiFan   Sep-14-08 08:22 PM   #65 
     - Actually what we need is an overall cultural change and the laws  JerseygirlCT   Sep-15-08 07:45 PM   #116 
  - Great, bring back the mommy wars  lukasahero   Sep-14-08 09:17 PM   #72 
  - Not to praise anyone currently running, but . . .some people make sacrifices to serve their country.  RGBolen   Sep-14-08 09:19 PM   #73 
  - You mean serve THEMSELVES because all I see is CORRUPTION from Palin & most politicians.  TheGoldenRule   Sep-14-08 09:21 PM   #75 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Sep-14-08 09:20 PM   #74 
  - I'm a STRONG woman, and I AGREE with you  DemoRabbit   Sep-14-08 09:53 PM   #82 
  - Yep what I said is Palin is a BAD MOM. Looks like someone complained about my post.  TheGoldenRule   Sep-15-08 04:04 PM   #110 
  - I know you don't care but  SmileyRose   Sep-14-08 10:23 PM   #90 
     - but the palins do have options. her husband supposedly works for an oil corp AND owns  Hannah Bell   Sep-15-08 02:35 AM   #104 
  - yes! i remember going to a school reunion when my daughter was  orleans   Sep-14-08 09:32 PM   #77 
  - So even if Sarah Palin is a shitty mother, does that disqualify her from being vice president?  bezdomny   Sep-14-08 09:34 PM   #78 
  - And who are we to say she is a 'shitty mother'??  JeanGrey   Sep-15-08 08:54 AM   #105 
     - Err... then why don't you read past the subject line.  bezdomny   Sep-15-08 07:29 PM   #112 
  - Yeah, it was hard until they were almost two, so I rarely left them.  Ilsa   Sep-14-08 09:56 PM   #83 
  - Easy. never did, but for a short period when I worked nights.  lonestarnot   Sep-14-08 09:56 PM   #84 
  - Yep  HereKittyKitty   Sep-14-08 10:23 PM   #91 
  - I was constantly worried about mine while I was at work, even working part time  wordpix   Sep-14-08 10:28 PM   #92 
  - Well, my kid is 4-and-a-half  TXDemGal   Sep-14-08 11:20 PM   #94 
  - To each their own.  OHDEM   Sep-15-08 12:48 AM   #98 
  - Don't attack me!  Tulum_Moon   Sep-15-08 02:15 AM   #103 
  - Mine nursed all the time. They weren't weaned totally until they were two.  Oregonian   Sep-15-08 01:58 AM   #102 
  - from a Dad...  ProdigalJunkMail   Sep-15-08 08:57 AM   #106 
  - I nursed mine, so I didn't leave them much at all in the beginning.  Midlodemocrat   Sep-15-08 09:02 AM   #109 
  - It was really hard.  JerseygirlCT   Sep-15-08 07:37 PM   #113 
  - Oh, yeah, for sure  RevolutionStartsNow   Sep-15-08 08:17 PM   #117 
 

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