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ljm2002 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-01-08 08:28 PM
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57. You have my sympathy... mom died of cancer of the liver and pancreas. It was 2 months from diagnosis to her passing. The thing is, we had time to say good-bye, but it did not drag on for months or years. But that doesn't make it easier, it is just wrenching to say good-bye to a parent.

Now I also want to say, you have my utmost admiration for being who you are, and being willing to get out there in print and say what you believe, in spite of the well-known proclivities of the rabid right who are always so eager to smear and attack those who do not subscribe to their view of the world. You are one brave and well-spoken woman.

So while you are dealing with the alcohol issue, don't let any voices in your psyche (we all have them, those tapes that play in our internal dialog) tell you anything bad about yourself. Right now you need encouragement and affirmation. If you notice one of those negative tapes playing in your mind, just tell it to shut the hell up, and remember, there are many people, myself included, who really truly admire you. Think about that and make up some new, positive tapes.

It does not have to be a Pollyanna exercise, you can take up self-criticism again. Later. When you're not so vulnerable. Give yourself a year -- I'm serious. It takes that long for the old habits to be replaced, and you are also dealing with a difficult personal loss.

Be well, say your good byes, give your Dad what comfort you can, and take care of yourself. It's worth it.

We all have to go some day -- we're born, we live, we die. It's the living part that counts.
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  -you guys are like my family..I found out my dad is dying of cancer today. w8liftinglady  Aug-01-08 04:11 PM   #0 
  - Hang in there Lady...  annabanana   Aug-01-08 04:12 PM   #1 
  - Get thee to a meeting, babe...  bicentennial_baby   Aug-01-08 04:13 PM   #2 
  - done,and thanks.I'm OK.  w8liftinglady   Aug-01-08 04:14 PM   #4 
  - I am so sorry about your father; I hope he can recover.  MasonJar   Aug-01-08 04:14 PM   #3 
  - Thank you,but he's dying..liver and pancreas.  w8liftinglady   Aug-01-08 04:15 PM   #7 
     - Aaaw, hon.. that's too bad.. I'm so sorry to hear that  SoCalDem   Aug-01-08 04:22 PM   #17 
     - Light to you.  Cassandra   Aug-01-08 04:29 PM   #26 
     - hospice, good idea, they can manage the pain  MissWaverly   Aug-01-08 04:43 PM   #33 
     - You have my sympathy...  ljm2002   Aug-01-08 08:28 PM   #57 
  - Try and stay strong  malaise   Aug-01-08 04:14 PM   #5 
  - Hang in there, and know our hearts and prayers are with you.  monmouth   Aug-01-08 04:14 PM   # 
  - Be well.  tekisui   Aug-01-08 04:14 PM   #6 
  - So Very Sorry  DarthDem   Aug-01-08 04:15 PM   #8 
  - sorry sorry sorry.....  spanone   Aug-01-08 04:16 PM   #9 
  - Sending good thoughts your way...for you and your Dad.  AndyA   Aug-01-08 04:17 PM   #10 
  - Oh so sorry, that's tough stuff. I lost my mom 3 weeks ago today  2KS2KHonda   Aug-01-08 04:18 PM   #11 
  - I'm sorry for your loss,too  w8liftinglady   Aug-01-08 04:19 PM   #13 
  - 2KS2KHonda, I hug you too.  roguevalley   Aug-01-08 04:29 PM   #25 
  - God Bless my friend!  mailman82   Aug-01-08 04:18 PM   #12 
  - Take care of yourself, Friend.  TomInTib   Aug-01-08 04:20 PM   #14 
  - You're 3 days healthier than you were. Keep going! You will find the strength  hisownpetard   Aug-01-08 04:20 PM   #15 
  - Take care!  peace13   Aug-01-08 04:20 PM   #16 
  - Your Dad,  bpj62   Aug-01-08 04:23 PM   #18 
  - Way to go.  Dr_eldritch   Aug-01-08 04:24 PM   #19 
  - I am so sorry. I lost my dad June 7.  MoJoWorkin   Aug-01-08 04:24 PM   #20 
  - I'm sorry  easttexaslefty   Aug-01-08 04:26 PM   #21 
  - I hug you. I just hug you, honey. I wish you only hope here. When  roguevalley   Aug-01-08 04:27 PM   #22 
  - I'm so very sorry, w8liftinglady.  babylonsister   Aug-01-08 04:28 PM   #23 
  - My deepest condolences  proud patriot   Aug-01-08 04:29 PM   #24 
  - .  Cerridwen   Aug-01-08 04:30 PM   #27 
  - that is absolutely beautiful.  w8liftinglady   Aug-05-08 11:44 AM   #69 
  - I am so sorry, I will send good vibes your way.  devilgrrl   Aug-01-08 04:34 PM   # 
  - I am praying for you, lady.  janethussein   Aug-01-08 04:34 PM   #28 
  - My Mom  enid602   Aug-01-08 04:38 PM   #29 
  - I'm so sorry about your dad. I just found out my aunt has lung cancer...  Triana   Aug-01-08 04:39 PM   #30 
  - Sorry to hear about that. nt  cat_girl25   Aug-01-08 04:41 PM   #31 
  - I'm so sorry.  ancient_nomad   Aug-01-08 04:42 PM   #32 
  - I'm so sorry.  Bunny   Aug-01-08 04:44 PM   #34 
  - My heart is with you! I watched both my parents suffer from health problems,  DailyGrind51   Aug-01-08 05:08 PM   #35 
  - Hang in there  JFN1   Aug-01-08 05:11 PM   #36 
  - I'm so sorry...  snacker   Aug-01-08 05:11 PM   #37 
  - Oh darlin  SalmonChantedEvening   Aug-01-08 05:16 PM   #38 
  - My condolences on the dad bit. I wish him the best, and peace to all.  uppityperson   Aug-01-08 05:17 PM   #39 
  - I'm so sorry to hear that about your Dad...  Blue Belle   Aug-01-08 05:22 PM   #40 
  - I'm so sorry.  OhioBlues   Aug-01-08 05:26 PM   #41 
  - Hang in there...  demobabe   Aug-01-08 05:28 PM   #42 
  - Here, my dear.  calimary   Aug-01-08 05:30 PM   #43 
  - Really sorry to hear that. Stay strong Lady. n/t  Greybnk48   Aug-01-08 05:31 PM   #44 
  - Hang in there. You have friends here thinking of you and  Ilsa   Aug-01-08 05:31 PM   #45 
  - We've had our differences, but...  bdf   Aug-01-08 06:02 PM   #46 
  - Thank you for taking the time to write.It helps.  w8liftinglady   Aug-01-08 08:22 PM   #55 
  - Oh Sweetie, I'm so sorry.  Contrary1   Aug-01-08 06:15 PM   #47 
  - Oh I'm so very sorry.  JerseygirlCT   Aug-01-08 07:09 PM   #48 
  - good luck and the best of thoughts.  onethatcares   Aug-01-08 07:16 PM   #49 
  - Sorry sweetheart. You'll discover you're stronger than you think during  wiggs   Aug-01-08 07:22 PM   #50 
  - One day at a time...  DearAbby   Aug-01-08 07:27 PM   #51 
  - sorry to hear it, please stay strong EOM  pitohui   Aug-01-08 07:27 PM   #52 
  - one day at a time  kpete   Aug-01-08 07:38 PM   #53 
  - My condolences, w8liftinglady  notsodumbhillbilly   Aug-01-08 08:02 PM   #54 
  - Thank you all.I am sober and stronger because of your kindness.God bless.  w8liftinglady   Aug-01-08 08:23 PM   #56 
  - I'm sorry w8liftinglady. Please be gentle with yourself. Love and healing to you and your dad n/t  dadsblacksheep   Aug-01-08 08:35 PM   #58 
  - I'm sorry w8liftinglady. Please be gentle with yourself. Love and healing to you and your dad n/t  dadsblacksheep   Aug-01-08 08:35 PM   #59 
  - Hugs to you.  sellitman   Aug-02-08 12:27 AM   #60 
  - .  enigmatic   Aug-02-08 12:40 AM   #61 
  - My thoughts are with you and your family  goclark   Aug-02-08 12:49 AM   #62 
  - One day at a time.  Withywindle   Aug-02-08 12:56 AM   #63 
  - Just a note to say.."Thanks"  w8liftinglady   Aug-02-08 05:55 AM   #64 
  - as karma would have it,I had a patient dying of my dad's cancer today.  w8liftinglady   Aug-02-08 07:53 PM   #65 
  - Spend time with him if you can.  madeline_con   Aug-02-08 08:01 PM   #66 
  - Bless you and your family as you go through this.  midnight   Aug-02-08 08:51 PM   #67 
  - It's strange how karma works  w8liftinglady   Aug-05-08 11:26 AM   #68 
  - So sorry to hear this.  Maestro   Aug-05-08 11:54 AM   #70 
  - Thanks,Maestro-you've been a good friend  w8liftinglady   Aug-05-08 01:00 PM   #72 
  - For you and your father ...  flashl   Aug-05-08 11:56 AM   #71 
  - ...  w8liftinglady   Aug-05-08 01:00 PM   #73 
  - Very, very sorry, w8liftinglady.  Midlodemocrat   Aug-05-08 01:03 PM   #74 
  - guys have been my shoulder to lean on.  w8liftinglady   Aug-05-08 09:44 PM   #78 
  - Hang in there Lady!  Marrah_G   Aug-05-08 01:04 PM   #75 
  - I'm so sorry...  pinstikfartherin   Aug-05-08 01:41 PM   #76 
  - Thank you.I have full confidence in the hospice staff  w8liftinglady   Aug-05-08 02:07 PM   #77 
  - My heart goes out to you.  mmonk   Aug-05-08 09:54 PM   #79 

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