Reply #68: Fabulous post! Right down to the geek-friendly analogy.

[Withywindle]

As a girl geek who's had more than enough dealings with self-proclaimed "nice guys" who aren't really interested in women as PEOPLE at all, and nurse brooding resentments about how the hot supermodel chicks don't "appreciate" them properly, let's find an example of one of these in that mythos.

Ah, here we go. Anakin Skywalker!

Oh, he thought he was such a nice guy. Swept Padme right off her feet with his loyalty and courtesy. And wound up utterly fucking up her life because he was so self-absorbed and wrapped up in his own fears and Issues and pride that he couldn't be bothered to really consult with her on anything. He put her on a pedestal and protected her to death. And oh, the whining. "I'm doing this for YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUU."

Ick.