Reply #54: I have little doubt they were * lovers before their child died

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My point is, you shouldn't expect a grieving parent to think clearly and have an epiphany during their weakest moments.

"who will be the advocate of these dead children? who will demand justice on their behalf? who will demand answers? who will be the one to cry out that this didn't have to happen--that it never should have happened--and that it must never happen to another child again? (me? me and you? a select group? it is the voice of their parent that would be heard more clearly, more passionately, more strongly. and it is tragic that, so often, those voices remain as silent as their children.) "

Yes, it is tragic and the parents voice should be heard, but I won't hold it against them if their grief has made that impossible. I get your point, but I don't think the parents silence is the key issue, nor are they the ones we need to go after.

So basically, I understand your points; they're not unreasonable and you're not a "wicked" person. But dwelling on the inaction of a grieving parent is IMO unnecessary and inappropriate.