Reply #73: The vast majority of this stuff takes place out of sight and mind

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For structural reasons. That is to say, this kind of "public sex" is highly coded and designed precisely to avoid contact with the unwilling. The notion that children are constantly in danger of being exposed to it is a farce, and a symptom of what I'll call the gay libel (after the Jewish blood libel - the Jews were accused of harming children as well, you see), since these activities generally take place far from anywhere that children could or would reasonably go. Are there exceptions? Of course. What's utterly suspect in my estimation is the elevation of the more "violating" kind of activity to the level of a norm, as if anonymous bathroom sex is taking place in the local Chuck E Cheese regularly. It's nonsense. Moreover, the advances are usually just that: advances. People are free to reject them, as women have always done. The gay bathroom come on is generally much milder than the douchebag who starts grinding a woman at a dance club, and yet women have developed ways short of calling the police or assaulting the advancer to deal with that. That men completely freak out over advances much milder is another symptom of homophobia.

Let me be clear: I am not talking about the specifics in this case. But I should add that the "peeping" aspect of it is fairly easily dealt with by a simple "Hey fuckwad. There's someone in here." That the majority of straight DU wails and moans as if it is tantamount to rape itself says all you need to know about the current state of homophobia.