Reply #62: I don't like her husband, but there's no call for criticizing her for being honest

[benEzra]

about a dark time in her life.

"I was going through this really depressed period where I felt like I was 80 years old, there was nothing I could ever do again and life was over for me. I was of no use to anybody. It wasn't as though I was suicidal, but I was at the point where I thought, Couldn't I please just have cancer and die?"

She was looking back at her emotional reaction (depression) to a debilitating disease. But I'm SURE every single one of her critics would have responded with perfect rationality and well-thought-out self-talk if they were ever so diagnosed, but she, alas, has the misfortune to be both human and honest. :eyes:

At least she was honest. I have the feeling that her husband might have "polished" his recollections a bit more if it were him, and that is something I think is a problem.

FWIW, I'm dad to a special-needs kid (DiGeorge Syndrome), and my wife has some chronic health issues as well (she may share our son's 22q11.2 microdeletion, but we don't know for sure). Our son's condition isn't even terminal, but it's still damn hard. We've had dark times now and then, and I'm sure as hell not going to criticize someone else for being honest about the emotional realities of chronic illness.