Reply #65: I have philosophical problems with that concept

[cgrindley]

so are you suggesting that of all the ways to 'evaluate' the suitability of a person for dating, only 'appearance' objectifies them? or would you agree with me in the idea that all evaluative criteria out of necessity objectify an individual and as such is utterly unavoidable. EG valuing someone for their IQ or their politics or their religion or their education is the equivalent of valuing someone for their appearance... I would actually go much further and suggest that combinations of different evaluative criteria themselves when taken collectively also comprise objectification. I consider it to be an inescapable part of the human essence.

I also must add that I think men and women are equally worthless when it comes to their 'real' reasons for forging interpersonal relationships.

Finally, you did my post a disservice by picking out one word "valued" and giving it a global meaning that it did not have in the other post. That's not cricket.