Reply #9: A) You handled it fine. B) Keep handling it fine by respecting his confidence in you.

[BlueIris]

Don't tell anyone else without his express permission. Jesus. That's a no brainer.

I think the best thing you did was tell him to get professional help. In my opinion, he needs gay-friendly therapy to deal with the sexual assault itself and the horrendous self-worth issues implied by his statements that he 'shouldn't have been bothered' by being raped, simply because he's had many one-night stands. If you get an appropriate segue, you might want to tell him to seek out counseling services more substantial than what his university offers. (A university student health center really shouldn't be handling a sexual assault survivor with your friend's mental health problems anyway.)

There are lots of GLBT rights and support groups that can provide you with references for gay or gay-friendly medical providers, but you'd have to reach out to GLBT folks in your area to find the right ones for your friend and you.