Reply #6: A woman defends the idea: There is a choice to be made,

[PetraPooh]

either hand it over OR accept it when he steps out of the marriage for sex. I was on the receiving end of this as a woman married to a man who would have plenty of sex till the night after our marriage. It seemed very unfair and frustrating when he would then demand that I not step out for sex. I didn't till the last six months of an eleven year marriage, but having had sex only five times in eleven years with three of those time producing pregnancies; sorry, I have to side with the concept that if you want your partner to stay home for sex then you have to give it up at least once a week; like it or not, by all means it would be better to like it. BTW, there were no physical reasons why he could not comply and I was reasonably slender and attractive through out the marriage. Also he never had a "reason" to explain his lack of having sex. I think it was game and religiously based Madonna/whore syndrome, but he still hasn't said.