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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Mar-28-06 06:13 PM
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10. Believe me, I understand self-hatred. As a kid, I was literally TBLBITW
("The Best Little Boy in the World" by John Reid in case you haven't read it). His parents expected him to be "golden" and he was. He was well mannered, smart, quick and attractive while living a nightmarish secret life of denial and severe insecurity.

Self acceptance is serious business. I came to my senses at age 25. 10 years later my partner, aged 39, finally admitted it to himself. He had been married for 18 years. But we both, finally, came to our senses and found each other. How horribly sad that these people never find the strength to embrace themselves and accept that their sexuality is neither good nor bad-it simply IS. No shock-therapy or torture or psychoanalysis would have made a damn difference to me. I'm homosexual. It was simply admitting it, accepting it, and getting on with life. I'm sorry these guys don't trust themselves enough to try.
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  -Matthew Sheppard, the ultimate exgay? dsc  Mar-28-06 04:48 PM   #0 
  - That's the thing these people hate themselves and that will  MadMaddie   Mar-28-06 04:52 PM   #1 
  - Nicely said - Thank you. nt  TAPat   Mar-28-06 04:54 PM   #2 
  - Some years ago I visited a long-time friend...  InvisibleTouch   Mar-28-06 05:02 PM   #3 
  - I am sorry to hear that  dsc   Mar-28-06 05:04 PM   #4 
     - Very sad indeed.  InvisibleTouch   Mar-28-06 05:18 PM   #6 
        - I am close to six years sober  dsc   Mar-28-06 05:30 PM   #8 
  - Great post. Remember, the squeaky wheel gets the most grease.  faygokid   Mar-28-06 05:08 PM   #5 
  - Well said.  MuseRider   Mar-28-06 05:30 PM   #7 
  - thanks  dsc   Mar-28-06 05:31 PM   #9 
  - Believe me, I understand self-hatred. As a kid, I was literally TBLBITW  Rowdyboy   Mar-28-06 06:13 PM   #10 
  - it is sad  dsc   Mar-28-06 06:53 PM   #13 
     - You will be loved.  hunter   Mar-28-06 08:20 PM   #17 
     - If the intelligence and wit you show on-line are any indication of your  Rowdyboy   Mar-29-06 11:32 AM   #21 
        - Thanks  dsc   Mar-29-06 04:16 PM   #22 
  - And yet people still contend that being gay is a choice  ComerPerro   Mar-28-06 06:15 PM   #11 
  - K&R #5  Nikki Stone1   Mar-28-06 06:57 PM   #15 
  - It's really very sad  Cats Against Frist   Mar-28-06 06:52 PM   #12 
  - Mind over matter. You don't need expensive $cientology crap to do it.  HypnoToad   Mar-28-06 06:55 PM   #14 
  - So well put: "If it were really about the sanctity of marriage  JudyM   Mar-28-06 07:58 PM   #16 
  - I think this title is exactly right  Steve_DeShazer   Mar-28-06 11:01 PM   #18 
  - That is horrible  dsc   Mar-29-06 04:53 AM   #19 
  - Fundamentalists, the ultimate bullies?  BuffyTheFundieSlayer   Mar-29-06 04:58 AM   #20 
 

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