Reply #19: back yet again to

[Bluerthanblue]

the desire to control the uncontrolable.
How many people in this country are one paycheck away from homelessness? One illness away from bancrupcy? One breath away from death? One mis-step away from being paralized for life, or murdered, or diagnosed with cancer, or a car accident, or any of lifes less 'comfortable' or 'pleasant' or 'positive' realities?
And while we can attempt to minimize our 'risk'- we can and will NEVER be able to control 'fate'- not even with "God" or money, or guns or being the dictator of the world- 'trouble WILL find us' as Dave Bromberg sang- "Don't go looking for trouble, trouble will find you, deaf, dumb and blind you.. let me remind you... there's trouble in your own backyard".

"Accept the things that I cannot control.." that is something learned most profoundly by painful, experience trying to prove it is not something we will all need to do.

Blame the victim, then it doesn't 'hurt you' where your compassionate self lives.- avoid pain at all costs. Even when that avoidance adds to the pain of the victim, which, one day WILL be you.

I'm learning, and it hurts. Like hell.