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chicaloca Donating Member (704 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-18-05 05:25 PM
Response to Reply #18
50. um...
Being called a "bitch" or "whore" is a lot more hurtful to one's self-esteem than somebody yelling "WTF are you doing". I just got into a huge argument with one of my guy friends over this, because he told me that people say nasty things to him when he's doing activist leafletting on the street and he's "learned" to not let it bother him. As far as I'm concerned, anybody who can say "don't worry about it" hasn't faced the number and level of verbal and physical assaults that women face. It's a little different when you're being insulted for how you were born than for what you're doing, and it's really hurtful to hear people who don't know what it's like tell us not to worry about it.
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  -Ugh. Can I please rant. Please? Re: catcalls, clothing, etc Heddi  Jul-14-05 08:43 PM   #0 
  - Rocks.  chicaloca   Jul-14-05 09:11 PM   #1 
  - A few years ago I had a moment of enlightenment  Lydia Leftcoast   Jul-14-05 09:28 PM   #2 
  - absolutely  chicaloca   Jul-14-05 09:58 PM   #4 
  - It's like they are so desperately afraid of being thought GAY,  smirkymonkey   Jul-14-05 11:54 PM   #10 
  - Exactly  jmm   Jul-14-05 10:02 PM   #6 
  - Whoa!  ccbombs   Jul-14-05 10:11 PM   #8 
     - I can get flustered the first time I experience something but  jmm   Jul-15-05 11:13 AM   #13 
  - Right on many points,  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 12:57 PM   #18 
  - An educational opportunity  lukasahero   Jul-15-05 01:07 PM   #19 
  - My husband was almost sexually assaulted by a man  Logansquare   Jul-15-05 05:29 PM   #40 
  - Thanks for your eloquence  MountainLaurel   Jul-15-05 07:19 PM   #47 
     - :)  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 09:22 PM   #48 
  - It's not just about tactlessness... these kind of threats are dangerous...  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 02:14 PM   #22 
  - Right you both are....  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 04:13 PM   #32 
     - It's not about letting it "eat you up"... it's about understanding the...  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 04:52 PM   #37 
     - I didn't  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 05:25 PM   #39 
        - I truly do not know what your issue is... but you responded to ME...  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 05:30 PM   #41 
           - I don't want to argue  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 05:41 PM   #42 
              - Why on earth should I compliment you?  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 05:45 PM   #43 
                 - I doubt you even read my posts  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 05:48 PM   #44 
                    - And I can turn it right around and say you treat me like shit...  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 05:50 PM   #45 
                       - alright...  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 06:04 PM   #46 
     - *sigh*  chicaloca   Jul-18-05 05:49 PM   #51 
        - I think this post is spot on  Kipepeo   Jul-19-05 12:25 PM   #54 
  - um...  chicaloca   Jul-18-05 05:25 PM   #50 
     - exactly, chicaloca!  cedahlia   Jul-18-05 08:27 PM   #52 
  - That's exactly it, Lydia  Logansquare   Jul-15-05 02:14 PM   #21 
  - God that sucks! Those little shits....  ccbombs   Jul-14-05 09:57 PM   #3 
  - LOL!  chicaloca   Jul-14-05 09:59 PM   #5 
  - Oh you're too kind!!  ccbombs   Jul-14-05 10:08 PM   #7 
  - LOL  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 11:04 AM   #12 
  - But, but, but--we're just APPRECIATING you ladies  Logansquare   Jul-15-05 02:17 PM   #23 
     - LOL  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 03:01 PM   #25 
     - hey now!  Wetzelbill   Jul-15-05 04:16 PM   #33 
  - Deleted sub-thread  Name removed   Jul-14-05 11:28 PM   #9 
  - Oh I like this new thing... I've never seen a whole deleted sub-thread...  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 12:02 PM   #15 
     - Wha happened?  Heddi   Jul-15-05 12:12 PM   #16 
  - Just reading that makes me angry... and reminds me of many similar  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 10:57 AM   #11 
  - No, this has never happened before  Heddi   Jul-15-05 11:58 AM   #14 
     - Wonder if those kids are from your community at all  ccbombs   Jul-15-05 12:16 PM   #17 
        - I don't know if they were from a more affluent part of town  Heddi   Jul-15-05 01:35 PM   #20 
        - Bring a pellet gun, too  Logansquare   Jul-15-05 02:19 PM   #24 
        - Come to think of it...  Lydia Leftcoast   Jul-15-05 04:37 PM   #34 
  - Since my other post was deleted as part of a subthread delete..  Ripley   Jul-15-05 03:13 PM   #26 
  - I couldn't agree more...  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 03:30 PM   #29 
  - What the hell will it take?  Ripley   Jul-15-05 03:48 PM   #31 
  - I hope my post wasn't misunderstood  Lydia Leftcoast   Jul-15-05 04:43 PM   #35 
     - Nah, your post was fine  ccbombs   Jul-15-05 04:47 PM   #36 
     - Oh, no, no, no!  Ripley   Jul-15-05 04:53 PM   #38 
     - LydiaLeftCoast. will you tell me where the "real adult men"  anitar1   Jul-19-05 03:30 AM   #53 
  - happened to a friend of mine when she was out jogging in our neighborhood  progmom   Jul-15-05 03:18 PM   #27 
  - I thought about this earlier  Heddi   Jul-15-05 03:27 PM   #28 
     - LOL!  Misunderestimator   Jul-15-05 03:31 PM   #30 
  - Ugh!  cedahlia   Jul-18-05 04:02 PM   #49 
  - I hate the tit shit.  undergroundpanther   Jul-22-05 02:56 AM   #55 
  - I have been harassed by strangers in this way too  Nikia   Jul-22-05 05:02 PM   #56 

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