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Digit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-20-05 01:06 AM
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63. He is no longer in pain...
I had heard him gasping for air, so much so that it tore me apart. It has made it easier to let go.
He never smoked, never drank.
It was a short illness, but he suffered alot. Now, he is not suffering anymore.
Funny, I keep wanting to call him to tell him things, and then I realize I can't.
I still have a hard time realizing he is gone.
I am only weepy from time to time, but for now am letting what comes up...come up.
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