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MerryBlooms Donating Member (940 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-30-10 05:46 PM
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7. I know I didn't really start healing until I got angry
It took me 5 years and a really good therapist. Once I gave myself permission to be angry and it was ok to be angry, I felt loads better. I was raised that 'good' girls don't get angry and I've spent most of my life denying anger. After making that breakthrough, I feel like an elephant has been lifted off my shoulders. I was surprised by how cleansing getting angry can be. I'm still working on the guilt I have associated with anger, but I am much better at cutting myself slack when I do feel angry - anger doesn't mean I'm bad anymore. I have a feeling of peace that I never had before.

btw, I don't really think there's a 'normal' for grieving. I know my grieving for my husband was different from the grief for my mom and others. I believe grief is personal and unique to us all.

My best to you during these difficult times and may peace of mind and love envelope you.

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  -Does anger have to be part of the grieving process? theNotoriousP.I.G.  May-29-10 08:49 AM   #0 
  - Anger is one of the acknowledged stages of grief, but I think  livetohike   May-29-10 01:56 PM   #1 
  - That makes sense  theNotoriousP.I.G.   May-29-10 02:31 PM   #2 
     - You're welcome  livetohike   May-29-10 02:36 PM   #3 
  - I don't know what's normal and what's not ...  auntAgonist   May-29-10 02:44 PM   #4 
  - aA  theNotoriousP.I.G.   May-30-10 02:14 PM   #5 
  - ohhhhh . . .  DollyM   May-30-10 05:03 PM   #6 
     - oh Dolly, I'm SO sorry. My best wishes to your Mother...  auntAgonist   May-30-10 06:27 PM   #8 
     - Oh no.  RevCheesehead   Jun-02-10 12:10 PM   #12 
  - I know I didn't really start healing until I got angry  MerryBlooms   May-30-10 05:46 PM   #7 
  - It is such an individual thing isn't it? Welcome to our  auntAgonist   May-30-10 06:28 PM   #9 
     - Thank you for the warm welcome  MerryBlooms   May-30-10 06:53 PM   #10 
        - I am so glad you've found our group!  RevCheesehead   Jun-02-10 12:13 PM   #13 
  - That's a very interesting question.  RevCheesehead   Jun-02-10 12:06 PM   #11 

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