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RavensChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-10-11 12:03 AM
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7. Oh, dear God.
Edited on Sat Sep-10-11 12:14 AM by RavensChick
Sis,

I am so, so, so sorry to hear that! Something told me to come here the other day because I was thinking about you last week. When I read this my mouth dropped in utter shock. I'm responding tonight because it's been a very hectic week at work and the DC area & damn near all the Mid-Atlantic was waterlogged (which is why I really don't like hurricane season) for the most part all week, so for me to get back here and offer some comfort to you was high on my list before I turn in for the night.

First and foremost, I want you to know that you're certainly not alone. I can't begin to tell how many times men say one thing and wind up doing something else, and I always fall for it, but not anymore. That's why I haven't gotten married for numerous reasons, but the main thing I look for (like you and gazillions of other women) is trust, which is number one on my list of expectations. Besides, I have a rule--the first time he lies to me, we're done, period! No exceptions and no second chances! That thankfully has kept me from being heartbroken and angry as hell AFTER the ceremony and the expense of the reception, the dress, having family and friends gather, etc.. Anyway, when I do get married eventually, ALL the cards will be laid out on the table so I'll know what to expect from him and vice versa. One wrong card and I'll tell him to hit the road, Jack!

Anyway, for Andy to put you through this shit in almost a year is, believe it or not, a mixed blessing because you know a lot more about him now than before, so now you can recover, regroup and rejoice. Please take as much time as you need. Explore any and all options put in your pathway and eventually you will be in love again, but never, ever forget your First Love--God Himself. Stay in the faith and you'll be better as you come up on the rough side of the mountain. I'm a believer too, and Lord knows I've done a lot of stuff I'm not proud of by any means, but at the end of the day, I remember Who is really in charge and I sleep better knowing that.

So, take it from me--it's his loss and not yours. You did everything right and he messed up in such a way that eventually he's got to hit rock bottom before he realizes why all hell is breaking loose in his life. As for the broad he's probably with, guess what? She's got the problem and not you!

Be strong, be faithful, be blessed, be encouraged and above all, be who God created you to be!! I love you and I'm in much prayer for you. Peace.

Shelly

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

P.S. Raven sends his love to his Auntie Cheese! :-)
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