Reply #2: NO LADDER NEEDED!

[elleng]

They live together! Unfortunately, she (and her sister!) attended with us lots of cousins' weddings (in Ohio), so learned something about what some would consider 'big' weddings. (To others, not so big!)

They think I'm weird for being SO un-! (I married in folks home, and wanted reception on lawn! FOLKS' guest list {in Florida} too long, so had to have it at 'the club.' OK, folks did all the planning. OK with us.

As to 'rituals,' was thinking about pre-wedding parties, etc. Girls have been thinking and working, so Engagement Dinner will be here (DC). Rehearsal, that's another thing. Amy (bride) is my advisor. I've sent a HELLO card to future inlaws; have met them. We'll see.

Just learned that 'husb' is sociopath; explains lots of things. Time for meds! (MINE!)

ps, I'm elible for Medicare, so definitely not focused on health care (unlike so many others.)