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stuntcat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-13-07 05:22 PM
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Happy Loners?
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Do most people think loners are depressed?
I know some people are, I mean feeling lonely can be very sad, needing support and companionship. But I'm glad when it's just me & the cats or me & my headphones, I can get stuff done or walk or read or talk online.
I keep up with my family with email every day and once in a while I like being with very close friends or with my family, but when it comes to events with lots of people, like big dinner parties, it always seems like a chore that's taking up my free time.. and sometimes it brings me down, like last Tuesday I was sitting at a big table with 9 people working on a mailing and one lady got all anti-environmental, which is the last thing I need to hear, I'm already losing hope in people, encounters like that do not help. I mean I don't even think it's good for me to learn that much about people anymore!
My husband is happy playing computer games and reading, so we spend hours being quiet together, but I think our aloneness would seem depressing to other people. Our parents on both sides spend a lot more time with groups, they're more like "People People".. and they understand that we're happy, since they know us.. but I wonder if someone who didn't know us would think we're depressed & sad?
It's an essay sorry :) and this has probably been said before, I'm just asking if people think being a loner means being unhappy.

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  -Happy Loners? stuntcat  Aug-13-07 05:22 PM   #0 
  - I'm a happy loner.  deepthought42   Sep-12-07 02:44 PM   #1 
  - "Loner" does not equal "lonely."  classicfilmfan   Sep-16-07 05:58 PM   #2 
  - i can relate to that  shanti   Sep-20-07 10:52 PM   #3 
  - Not happy but content.  Q3JR4   Mar-20-08 09:59 PM   #4 
  - that is how I describe myself  Skittles   Nov-24-08 03:35 AM   #11 
  - Crowds depress the heck out of me.  bemildred   Mar-22-08 10:50 PM   #5 
  - Perfect,  elleng   Mar-23-08 12:27 AM   #6 
     - Hey.  bemildred   Nov-02-08 05:45 PM   #10 
  - Sure.  LWolf   Mar-23-08 01:22 PM   #7 
  - i enjoy being alone also.  psychmommy   Oct-11-08 01:05 PM   #8 
  - I am alone in my own mind  someonehasdementia   Oct-29-08 09:45 PM   #9 
  - "...who didn't know us would think we're depressed & sad?"  tcdq   Nov-24-08 08:49 AM   #12 
  - New member to the group.  silverweb   Dec-09-08 02:17 PM   #13 
  - Welcome.  LWolf   Jan-01-09 12:18 PM   #14 
  - As a loner  rrneck   Jan-04-09 11:52 PM   #15 
  - It's a matter of degrees I think  supernova   Jan-06-09 09:19 AM   #16 
     - I read once  rrneck   Jan-06-09 11:48 AM   #17 
  - I have absolutely no concept of loneliness  Skittles   Jan-17-09 09:29 PM   #18 
  - ...thinkin about joining but.....  chknltl   Feb-06-09 03:43 AM   #19 
  - Hello, Chk! I also have developed a false persona to deal with my  Nay   Feb-07-09 08:03 AM   #20 
  - One of my FAV pics on your post!  elleng   Mar-01-09 06:46 AM   #23 
  - Well most of us probably don't  lizerdbits   Feb-14-09 08:42 PM   #21 
  - Welcome!!!!!  elleng   Mar-01-09 06:40 AM   #22 
     - I like Helena Bonham Carter's and Tim Burton's arrangement  supernova   Mar-03-09 07:32 AM   #24 
        - Very nice if one has unlimited resources  elleng   Mar-03-09 11:16 PM   #25 
  - I'm a happy, content loner  enigmatic   Mar-15-09 10:56 PM   #26 
  - Very happy -- and hello again!  silverweb   Aug-03-09 02:06 AM   #27 
  - I'm always suspicious of people who think we're selfish because  Nay   Aug-05-09 10:08 PM   #28 
     - Thank you.  silverweb   Aug-06-09 11:56 AM   #29 
  - Moving to a place of my own next week!  elleng   Aug-08-09 10:50 PM   #30 

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