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stumblnrose Donating Member (405 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-13-11 01:47 AM
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My Daughter Acts Ashamed of My Disability
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This has really been irking me. i became disabled four years ago thanks to big pharma. I have problems with my eyes, my throat and lungs. My daughter is 14 and is irked any time i show signs of my symptoms be it coughing, choking, mild PTSD rages. When I ask her for a glass of water when I am choking she gives me a dirty look and takes her time about it while i turn purple. I do not spend much time with her as her mother abandoned me four months after I got out of the hospital. She never visited me when i was in the hospital in a coma because it was "too scary" and she tells me it is her job as a teenager to be a pisser. I tell her that it is her job to help a family member who has special needs. I ask her mother to put in a word on my behalf but she tells me that this is strictly between me and my daughter. Anyone have any advice as I am at wit's end and am also sick of being treated poorly by my own flesh and blood.
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  -My Daughter Acts Ashamed of My Disability stumblnrose  May-13-11 01:47 AM   #0 
  - Unfortunately many teens at that age don't appreciate their family  bluestateguy   May-13-11 01:55 AM   #1 
  - How many would appreciate being around for "PTSD rages"?  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:06 AM   #7 
  - what is a ''mild PTSD rage''?  yurbud   May-13-11 01:56 AM   #2 
  - Stop paying for her food and shelter?  Ramulux   May-13-11 01:57 AM   #3 
  - Her "issue" is probably that her father goes into unpredictable rages.  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:04 AM   #5 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   May-13-11 02:19 AM   #17 
     - yes ramlux is unhinged  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:36 AM   #26 
        - Deleted message  Name removed   May-13-11 02:42 AM   #29 
           - may god grant you all the blessings of the universe  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:47 AM   #31 
  - Sorry, but there's no such thing as a mild rage.  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:00 AM   #4 
  - judge not lest ye...  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:06 AM   #8 
     - I didn't put any label on anything -- YOU DID.  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:09 AM   #10 
     - I still deal with PTSD after big pharma injury i do not know if it will  lunasun   May-13-11 02:19 AM   #18 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   May-13-11 02:21 AM   #20 
     - Have you considered posting that to the guy who started the thread?  FBaggins   May-13-11 05:54 AM   #39 
  - Not sure if telling her it is her job to take care of you will work very well.  dkf   May-13-11 02:06 AM   #6 
  - stop this crap all of you  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:09 AM   #11 
     - We got the idea from your own OP, where you said  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:13 AM   #14 
     - Deleted sub-thread  Name removed   May-13-11 02:28 AM   #23 
     - Deleted message  Name removed   May-13-11 02:23 AM   #21 
     - She seems to not feel sympathy for your situation...indeed she seems more distant and removed.  dkf   May-13-11 02:50 AM   #32 
  - It's not your daughter's job to take care of you.  EFerrari   May-13-11 02:09 AM   #9 
  - Exactly. n/t  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:09 AM   #12 
     - Deleted sub-thread  Name removed   May-13-11 02:11 AM   #13 
  - learning from her mother perhaps  lunasun   May-13-11 02:13 AM   #15 
  - thank you lunasun  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:20 AM   #19 
     - you have to stay distant even though it hurts I know  lunasun   May-13-11 02:33 AM   #25 
        - lunasun you are a mensch  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:39 AM   #27 
  - Say please and thank you when she helps you  The Second Stone   May-13-11 02:16 AM   #16 
  - Yes. My teenagers willingly helped adults when they needed it,  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:46 AM   #30 
     - umm pnwmom  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:59 AM   #35 
        - My apologies if my reaction to the word "rage" added to your pain.  pnwmom   May-13-11 03:57 AM   #36 
           - ignorance of ptsd and circumstance  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:14 PM   #41 
              - You can't control your PTSD episodes -- but you CAN control  pnwmom   May-13-11 02:27 PM   #42 
                 - yeah  stumblnrose   May-13-11 08:20 PM   #43 
  - being a 14 year old girl is pretty hard too. especially with a split family and a  NC_Nurse   May-13-11 02:27 AM   #22 
  - Nurses are the best  stumblnrose   May-13-11 02:29 AM   #24 
  - 14-year olds are ashamed of having parents, so you have that working against you too.  laconicsax   May-13-11 02:40 AM   #28 
  - Don't feel hurt. The problem is not your disability. It's your daughter's age.  JDPriestly   May-13-11 02:54 AM   #33 
  - Yes, that's classic adolescent behavior.  pnwmom   May-13-11 03:59 AM   #37 
  - Yep...combined with what sounds like a very challenging family life.  FBaggins   May-13-11 06:05 AM   #40 
  - Yeah. I agree with this poster.  mattfromnossa   Aug-31-11 06:28 PM   #44 
  - Wait  notesdev   May-13-11 02:56 AM   #34 
  - Very few teenagers can cope  Demeter   May-13-11 04:55 AM   #38 

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