I am so conflicted

[Grateful for Hope]

Last Friday, my step-father committed suicide. He shot himself in bed under his chin.

He was 74, and in the midst of grief that he had carried for four years since my Mom died. His grief apparently translated into imaginary painful symptoms which he felt he could no longer tolerate.

His name was Donald, and he was a very gentle and intelligent man. And, I loved him. He was also very headstrong, and, as far back as I can remember about him (I was a teenager when he came into my life, and now I am in my fifties), no one could ever talk him out of anything when he had made up his mind.

During the last year of my mother's life, she required a lot of emotional support (don't want to go into detail), and Donald was very there for her.

I recently discovered on the internet, that, after my mom died, Donald paid for a newpaper blurb in the state they moved from (NY) so that my mom's old friends would know she had died. He really loved her.

I am feeling very badly about myself because, aside from Donald treating my Mom so well, he was not very nice to her children. And, this was exacerbated because they had a baby between them (Andy), and, as a teen-ager living in that household, I knew that (1) It was not good to think that my father ever existed (we were told never to talk about my Dad by our Mom); and, (2) we saw the differential treatment (my baby sister was 7 and was never accepted by Donald) that was paid to the new baby.

Why I am feeling badly about myself, is that, while I know that Donald was basically a good man, he did not ever accept my mother's children, and, since my Mom died first, he made sure that the condo that they both lived in would only go to his son. And, this has made me very angry.

Interestingly, that condo was bought by the sale of a house that my father built.

So, the conflict comes from the fact that I did some research, and I saw that Donald removed my Mom after she died from the deed of that condo, and added his sister. And, there was no will when she died to assure that all his wife's children would be heirs. The only heir here is his son because his sister will make sure of this.

Ok, so here is what has happened in a nutshell. Back in the late fifties, my dad built a house. He worked very hard to add patios, gardens, etc. to this home.

He died in 1964, and, he left my mom significant life insurance (he was only 42).

I think my mom applied a lot of that money to pay off the house.

Then, two years later, she and Donald agree to marry (she is pregnant). He moves in with us, and the rest is history.

What I want to ask is twofold (to anyone who has some psychic ability): (1) Would my Mom want the property to go to all five of her children?
(2) Will Donald's sister think about what is right and do what her heart dictates (she is a wonderful person)?

Thanks in advance to all here.

Also, I think that Donald is now with my Mom, but, if this is not the case, please pray that he is now in a good place. As I said, he was, inside, a very good man.

Thank you all.