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LiberalLoner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-14-11 01:11 PM
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24. +1,000. I'm sorry this happened to you, too. I wish more people
would realize that this is not about men just getting horny and wanting some sex. It's about someone who has and uses the power to really hurt another human being.

Just like I believe rape is never about sex, it's about humiliating a woman enough, inundating her with enough shame, that she spends every day of her life after that thinking about suicide.

I heard a phrase I think is pretty appropriate. "Soul Murder." That's what happens.

I am safe with my husband. I finally got to the point where I just hide from the world now because I don't feel safe. It's because of stuff like this, and terrorism, and my body betraying me like getting Guillain-Barre Syndrome and...I guess a million other things. I just don't feel safe. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. I go out and get my groceries and other shopping I need or like to do, and that's it. I don't work, I don't volunteer except as being a pen-pal to help students struggling to learn to read, and I don't bother making friends or opening myself up to other people. To be honest I'm just sort of waiting to die now because when I die, I'll finally be safe and nothing bad can ever happen to me again. I know I'm not supposed to think that way and feel that way but I do. And from reading this thread, looks like I'm not the only one who doesn't feel very safe in this world.

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  -My sexual harrassment suit got shot down. undeterred  May-14-11 12:21 PM   #0 
  - I'm so sorry this happened to you. I heard stories about things like this that  LiberalLoner   May-14-11 12:27 PM   #1 
  - This was only for a week  undeterred   May-14-11 12:50 PM   #10 
  - Do Any of You Girls  liberalmike27   May-15-11 11:36 AM   #67 
     - the problem is  spooky3   May-15-11 02:20 PM   #75 
        - Girls are also women  lbrtbell   Dec-07-11 09:27 AM   #100 
  - i am so sorry to hear that  shireen   May-14-11 01:07 PM   #22 
  - Two words...Inspector General...  rasputin1952   May-15-11 10:03 AM   #55 
  - who is unreccing this and why? my condolences, undeterred.  Tuesday Afternoon   May-14-11 12:28 PM   #2 
  - Probably right-wing trolls I'm guessing. I recc'd it of course. Hope others will too.  LiberalLoner   May-14-11 12:31 PM   #4 
  - Guess the trick is to preemptively get the harrassment charge on file before  dkf   May-14-11 12:30 PM   #3 
  - I am so sorry  etherealtruth   May-14-11 12:37 PM   #5 
  - Call his wife and talk to her  Angry Dragon   May-14-11 12:38 PM   #6 
  - His wife won't have sex with him either.  undeterred   May-14-11 12:56 PM   #12 
  - gee I wonder if he is a clone of the bastard I worked for  CountAllVotes   May-14-11 01:04 PM   #20 
  - I thought the same thing. nt  Enthusiast   May-15-11 10:08 AM   #58 
  - I hope he did it in front of witnesses  Warpy   May-14-11 12:40 PM   #7 
  - My agency is shit.  undeterred   May-14-11 12:47 PM   #8 
     - I know, I've been there  Warpy   May-14-11 02:23 PM   #31 
  - What does your attorney think of this?  no_hypocrisy   May-14-11 12:50 PM   #9 
  - I don't have an attorney.  undeterred   May-14-11 12:55 PM   #11 
     - Find a civil trial attorney and sue him and the company.  no_hypocrisy   May-14-11 12:57 PM   #13 
     - I don't know how to find somebody like that.  undeterred   May-14-11 12:58 PM   #15 
        - neither did I  CountAllVotes   May-14-11 01:03 PM   #19 
        - Can your county's bar association and get 3-4 names and interview the  no_hypocrisy   May-14-11 01:06 PM   #21 
        - At least, contact local Bar Association for referrals to attorneys who handle similar matters.  elleng   May-15-11 07:24 AM   #50 
        - Call the bar association in the state in which you live.  JDPriestly   May-15-11 11:13 AM   #65 
     - Ok, I'm not clear here  customerserviceguy   May-14-11 05:08 PM   #46 
        - I sent a statement to the EEOC  undeterred   May-14-11 11:58 PM   #49 
           - I'm not a lawyer but I have been involved in two lawsuits  tinkerbell41   May-15-11 10:04 AM   #56 
           - Good Advice....nt  femrap   May-15-11 11:56 AM   #72 
           - Indeed, good advice  customerserviceguy   May-15-11 03:16 PM   #76 
           - Don't let it get you down....This is the kind of sleazy thing some companies do  whathehell   Jun-20-11 02:16 PM   #87 
              - Thank you.  undeterred   Jun-20-11 04:49 PM   #88 
                 - You're welcome, undeterred.  whathehell   Jun-21-11 02:58 AM   #89 
  - Fucking lame. I am sorry you lost your job over someone else's unethical behavior. nt  ZombieHorde   May-14-11 12:57 PM   #14 
  - Any chance for appeal -- ??  defendandprotect   May-14-11 12:59 PM   #16 
  - This just happened to me.  undeterred   May-14-11 01:02 PM   #18 
  - believe me I know how you feel  CountAllVotes   May-14-11 01:01 PM   #17 
  - Thanks  undeterred   May-14-11 01:07 PM   #23 
  - the bastard will rot in hell  CountAllVotes   May-14-11 01:12 PM   #25 
  - Probably too Late for You  liberalmike27   May-15-11 11:50 AM   #70 
  - +1,000. I'm sorry this happened to you, too. I wish more people  LiberalLoner   May-14-11 01:11 PM   #24 
     - it is sad what sexual harassment does to a person  CountAllVotes   May-14-11 01:18 PM   #26 
     - ....  polly7   May-15-11 08:35 AM   #53 
     - When you Die You'll Be Safe?  liberalmike27   May-15-11 11:56 AM   #71 
  - sometimes it "works"  shireen   May-14-11 01:20 PM   #27 
  - Well, I'm not sure where the EEOC comes in  undeterred   May-14-11 01:29 PM   #28 
     - You probably have to respond to their lying response within a deadline --  elehhhhna   May-14-11 03:03 PM   #34 
        - Thats what I will do. Thank you.  undeterred   May-14-11 03:12 PM   #37 
           - Do you have access to any of this info or copies you've made previously? Like Ensign  spooky3   May-14-11 03:38 PM   #42 
  - I wish this wasn't still happening  dmr   May-14-11 01:43 PM   #29 
  - what a sad sick story  CountAllVotes   May-14-11 01:51 PM   #30 
  - Are you receiving Unemployment Compensation?  blue neen   May-14-11 02:50 PM   #32 
  - yes  undeterred   May-14-11 03:07 PM   #35 
     - In Wisconsin does the agency have to report a reason to UC for you to collect?  blue neen   May-14-11 03:21 PM   #38 
        - There are a few categories  undeterred   May-14-11 03:25 PM   #40 
  - APPEAL! If you just got a copy of the agency's denial,  elehhhhna   May-14-11 02:56 PM   #33 
  - I actually haven't been turned down  undeterred   May-14-11 03:08 PM   #36 
     - This is important - from your OP, it wasn't clear - therefore:  spooky3   May-14-11 03:29 PM   #41 
     - The material came directly from the company.  undeterred   May-14-11 03:48 PM   #43 
        - Yes, this is sadly how you come to realize how you gave up a lot for the  spooky3   May-15-11 10:18 AM   #62 
        - Thanks.  undeterred   May-15-11 09:57 PM   #80 
        - You got paid overtime, right? If not file a wage claim.  elehhhhna   May-15-11 04:49 PM   #77 
           - That is the part that hurts the most.  undeterred   May-15-11 05:21 PM   #78 
     - Good> Now reply point by point w/ stats, facts, etc. If they do a phone hearing  elehhhhna   May-14-11 04:30 PM   #45 
  - Thank you good people for responding.  undeterred   May-14-11 03:21 PM   #39 
  - I'm just so sorry. I hope that good things happen to you soon. n/t  LiberalLoner   May-14-11 04:04 PM   #44 
  - Tape recorders . . . pretty hard to deny a verifiable direct quote.  mistertrickster   May-14-11 07:29 PM   #47 
  - Lawyer up! Lawyer up! Lawyer up!  Dem1988   May-14-11 10:45 PM   #48 
  - I suspect the EEOC just gave you the right to sue in Federal Court  TomClash   May-15-11 07:48 AM   #51 
  - I'm a 57 year old male  90-percent   May-15-11 08:14 AM   #52 
  - Oh God, the memories.....  Mopar151   May-15-11 10:10 AM   #59 
     - the modern workplace  90-percent   May-15-11 10:19 AM   #63 
        - Explains the 90% moniker.  Mopar151   May-15-11 11:11 AM   #64 
           - the Lagana Family!  90-percent   May-15-11 11:21 AM   #66 
              - I'm in Central NH, between NED and NHMS  Mopar151   May-15-11 11:42 AM   #68 
  - not clear  trud   May-15-11 08:58 AM   #54 
  - I hope you stay "undeterred"  Stargleamer   May-15-11 10:06 AM   #57 
  - The EEOC always does this. Time for you to file a lawsuit. EEOC shot me down but i won in the end.  Exultant Democracy   May-15-11 10:14 AM   #60 
  - I Feel Your Pain  otohara   May-15-11 10:16 AM   #61 
  - Exactly my experience with Cigna workman's comp. n/t  Mopar151   May-15-11 05:55 PM   #79 
  - Sometimes I think it  femrap   May-15-11 11:46 AM   #69 
  - the problem is that some state laws require that you tell the other person they are being recorded  spooky3   May-15-11 02:18 PM   #74 
  - Good that you are speaking out  felix_numinous   May-15-11 12:11 PM   #73 
  - I talked to the Equal Rights Officer today.  undeterred   May-16-11 09:50 PM   #81 
  - sounds as if you may have a very EEOC (?) rep.  spooky3   May-18-11 09:58 PM   #82 
  - Equal Rights Officer.  undeterred   May-18-11 10:09 PM   #83 
  - I hope you get the justice you deserve.  Darth_Kitten   May-28-11 09:28 AM   #85 
     - Thank you.  undeterred   Jun-02-11 11:14 PM   #86 
  - What amazes me most is all the lying.  undeterred   May-22-11 06:27 PM   #84 
  - couldn't agree more. great post.  jul61252   Jul-14-11 07:21 PM   #91 
     - thank you  undeterred   Jul-14-11 08:39 PM   #92 
  - undeterred, any update? +++++++ for you.  spooky3   Jul-11-11 06:56 PM   #90 
  - No Probable Cause.  undeterred   Oct-07-11 07:39 PM   #93 
     - " are not a protected class."  Feldspar   Oct-13-11 10:41 AM   #94 
        - The law is written so narrowly that it is very difficult to prove  undeterred   Oct-13-11 07:24 PM   #95 
  - Sorry about that. nt  AverageJoe90   Oct-22-11 04:32 PM   #96 
  - I just filed my request for a hearing.  undeterred   Oct-24-11 03:21 PM   #97 
  - You are a strong person. May you prevail not only for yourself but for many other women (and men).  spooky3   Nov-05-11 11:33 AM   #99 
  - KEEP PRAYING  anonymousworldwide   Oct-31-11 08:03 AM   #98 

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