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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-13-09 07:40 PM
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7. I'd say "yes" -
I know several couples in long-standing marriages who broke up - and ultimately divorced - when the husband retired and the wife had absolutely no way to deal with his being around all the time.

One was a girlfriend of mine from school - we'd grown up together and then found each other when we were both living in the same city. Her husband - twenty-four years - was a cop, and he took early retirement. He'd also always been on the night shift, so, really, they never saw each other for extended stretches of time.

Four kids, three still at home.

The first day Charlie was retired, Marcia went grocery shopping. When she got home, she found that he'd totally rearranged her kitchen cabinets, because the way she had them wasn't the most efficient.

It only took about a year for them to collapse completely.

You might want to sign up for some classes, or volunteering, or get into some exercise classes, but you've got to get yourself out of the house and break up the new routine before it gets established. Too much togetherness is NOT a good thing...............
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  -Husband retired. My blood pressure went up. Is there any real link? CTyankee  Sep-13-09 07:29 PM   #0 
  - Unemployment and stress are linked to hypertension  Juche   Sep-13-09 07:30 PM   #1 
  - Get him out of the house for a month and see what it does.  hobbit709   Sep-13-09 07:32 PM   #2 
  - Easier said than done. He does have a volunteer position with the city (where he worked before the  CTyankee   Sep-13-09 07:35 PM   #5 
  - Why get him out? She's the one with the problem.  TheCowsCameHome   Sep-13-09 07:42 PM   #9 
     - You are right. I AM the one with the problem. His b.p. is fine. nt  CTyankee   Sep-14-09 07:56 AM   #19 
  - Could be.  Howler   Sep-13-09 07:34 PM   #3 
  - Are you eating more , on your feet more?  rwheeler31   Sep-13-09 07:35 PM   #4 
  - No on both counts. If anything I am resting more. nt.  CTyankee   Sep-13-09 07:36 PM   #6 
     - Are you getting less exercise...less active?  Frustratedlady   Sep-13-09 08:50 PM   #18 
  - I'd say "yes" -  Tangerine LaBamba   Sep-13-09 07:40 PM   #7 
  - I am volunteering. I have 3 ESOL students so I spend time preparing lesson plans for them.  CTyankee   Sep-14-09 08:08 AM   #20 
  - How has your life changed?  tg   Sep-13-09 07:41 PM   #8 
  - I am almost positive that there's a link.  CaliforniaPeggy   Sep-13-09 07:44 PM   #10 
  - I retired 9 years ago. Wife has been stressed ever since  tularetom   Sep-13-09 07:52 PM   #11 
  - You are an unusually insightful man. nt  spotbird   Sep-13-09 07:59 PM   #14 
     - Not really but I'm not blind either  tularetom   Sep-13-09 08:13 PM   #15 
        - maybe she could take extended visits with the kids  grasswire   Sep-13-09 08:24 PM   #16 
           - The kids only live 1/2 hour away so that isn't a huge problem for her  tularetom   Sep-13-09 08:38 PM   #17 
  - I have heard this is a common problem  Alameda   Sep-13-09 07:53 PM   #12 
  - When I retired my BP went down. I'm single and living alone so no wife to effect. nt  Speck Tater   Sep-13-09 07:54 PM   #13 

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