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RedLetterRev Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-17-08 01:01 PM
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39. Rec'd here and there both
Your experience with your ex sounds an awful lot like an experience I had with an ex of mine. It's sad to say that hetero marriages don't have a lock on spousal abuse. I remember that same shining moment, too, when I realized, like you, when someone thought they were giving me the last good reason to stay in that relationship, it hit me like a lead balloon it was the best reason to go. Right then.

It took the protection of the sheriff's office (who, thank Spirit, were understanding) to get him out of my life and that time I didn't end up in the emergency room getting stitched up again. But I got free.

Now I'm blessed to have the most wonderful, loving, gentle, loyal, passionate, sexy, smart, and perfect (for me) man in my life. In February, we will have 13 years together. One of these days, I'll marry 'im, too :)

Thanks for such a wonderful essay. When I read letters like yours, I keep hope.

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  -So why am I not divorced yet? grannylib  Nov-16-08 03:38 PM   #0 
  - Kick and Recommend  ayeshahaqqiqa   Nov-16-08 03:43 PM   #1 
  - I'll keep posting and working and hoping...  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:40 PM   #17 
  - It just boggles my mind that anybody can even say that with a straight (pun?) face.  Kali   Nov-16-08 03:47 PM   #2 
  - excellent post grannylib  auntAgonist   Nov-16-08 03:57 PM   #3 
  - Thanks much! Posted also on my diary at DailyKos  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:41 PM   #18 
     - Rec'd here and there both  RedLetterRev   Nov-17-08 01:01 PM   #39 
  - Please wait. You're on my list.  nichomachus   Nov-16-08 04:06 PM   #4 
  - Am I on your list?  Dr.Phool   Nov-16-08 08:29 PM   #15 
  - *lol* You're welcome to bust in and try, and I'll give you tea and scones  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:41 PM   #19 
  - Well, hubby and I celebrate our first anniversary  liberalhistorian   Nov-17-08 05:21 PM   #63 
  - Very well said, marriage is threatened from societal ills and from within  bluedawg12   Nov-16-08 04:08 PM   #5 
  - Yeah, time to do a Lucy Van Pelt, yank that football, and knock the  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:42 PM   #20 
  - recommend  xchrom   Nov-16-08 04:25 PM   #6 
  - Thanks for reading!  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:43 PM   #21 
  - Here's the thing  tavalon   Nov-16-08 04:26 PM   #7 
  - Yeah, I had a pastor who pushed this once... and I told him just  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:44 PM   #22 
  - Thank you. You get it.  BuffyTheFundieSlayer   Nov-16-08 04:36 PM   #8 
  - seems that some folks really NEED a "them" to hate  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:45 PM   #23 
  - It's the nature of the RRRW  BuffyTheFundieSlayer   Nov-16-08 11:58 PM   #32 
  - Without their script of fear, they wouldn't know who or how to be.  hisownpetard   Nov-17-08 10:30 PM   #69 
  - Buffy is right-it is all about 'we hate fags' actually it's that and we're  jhrobbins   Nov-17-08 03:49 PM   #48 
  - A-Bloody-MEN!! That's what I told my uncle who actually voted yes  Ecumenist   Nov-16-08 05:20 PM   #9 
  - Something like 18,000 gay couples were married in California between last spring and election day  yardwork   Nov-16-08 06:40 PM   #12 
  - You know Yardwork, the worse thing is that people  Ecumenist   Nov-17-08 04:03 PM   #51 
     - Here's to you and your wonderful marriage!  yardwork   Nov-18-08 01:59 PM   #74 
  - Oh man, in this century (or even the latter part of the last one) it's  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:51 PM   #27 
     - Thank you so VERY much for your comment, GrannyLib!  Ecumenist   Nov-17-08 03:46 PM   #47 
        - "It's such an embarrassing thing to see ANYONE who has had to  jhrobbins   Nov-17-08 03:53 PM   #49 
  - Kick AND Strongly Recommend n/t  Beartracks   Nov-16-08 06:32 PM   #10 
  - Thanks for reading, and I LOVE your sig pic!  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:46 PM   #24 
  - I'm so sorry for your loss and your terrible first marriage.  yardwork   Nov-16-08 06:36 PM   #11 
  - Thanks for taking the time to read it  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:47 PM   #25 
  - Right on, Grannylib!!!  ladym55   Nov-16-08 07:41 PM   #13 
  - Well, when it comes to Chimpy the Unelected Imbecile, at least...  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:49 PM   #26 
  - K and R  badgerpup   Nov-16-08 08:14 PM   #14 
  - You are so right...and any two committed people can bring that  grannylib   Nov-16-08 08:39 PM   #16 
  - Best damn definitation of a "sanctified" marriage ever.  Libertyfirst   Nov-16-08 08:57 PM   #28 
     - Amen to that.  grannylib   Nov-16-08 09:31 PM   #29 
     - God bless you LibertyFirst!!  Ecumenist   Nov-17-08 04:20 PM   #52 
  - Proudly recommended. Thank you for that eloquent post, grannylib.  bertman   Nov-16-08 09:55 PM   #30 
  - Thanks for taking the time to read it, and for the rec...  grannylib   Nov-16-08 10:58 PM   #31 
  - what can we do?  shireen   Nov-17-08 01:39 AM   #33 
  - And talk to people...from what I hear, personal contact was effective  grannylib   Nov-17-08 07:00 AM   #34 
  - Excellent post, grannylib!  BlueMTexpat   Nov-17-08 07:29 AM   #35 
  - Thanks for reading it, and welcome to DU!  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:13 PM   #55 
  - It seems to mainly affect Republican marriages: McCain, Giuliani, etc. nt  IronLionZion   Nov-17-08 08:36 AM   #36 
  - And that's one of the things that is SO frustrating about  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:14 PM   #56 
  - Massachusetts Has The Lowest Divorce Rate In The Nation  MannyGoldstein   Nov-17-08 09:56 AM   #37 
  - OMG  Number23   Nov-17-08 02:48 PM   #45 
     - Thanks! It's My Own Site. n/t  MannyGoldstein   Nov-17-08 04:22 PM   #53 
  - Wow, Grannylib....  RetiredTrotskyite   Nov-17-08 10:09 AM   #38 
  - My hope is that if we all keep working to engage people, talk to them  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:15 PM   #57 
  - Thanks very much for this excellent piece.  mlevans   Nov-17-08 01:05 PM   #40 
  - I'll keep hoping and working for that day right along with you!  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:16 PM   #58 
  - This is outstanding. Thank you for posting.  Midlodemocrat   Nov-17-08 01:25 PM   #41 
  - Thanks so much, Midlodemocrat...and for taking the time to read  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:17 PM   #59 
  - This is for you granny...  RedCloud   Nov-17-08 02:32 PM   #42 
  - Oh, dear can't begin to know what a gift that is  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:18 PM   #60 
  - Fantastic, fantastic, fantastic  Number23   Nov-17-08 02:45 PM   #43 
  - Thanks much, #23...I appreciate it!  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:19 PM   #61 
  - Damnation!  Number23   Nov-17-08 02:46 PM   #44 
  - *lol*  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:21 PM   #62 
  - I was all prepared to make a glib and funny remark about this post  jhrobbins   Nov-17-08 03:42 PM   #46 
  - You're welcome...and thank YOU for taking the time to read it!  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:21 PM   #64 
     - And just an FYI-my partner and I have been together for 27 years now  jhrobbins   Nov-17-08 06:22 PM   #67 
        - Congratulations!'re ahead of us in years!  grannylib   Nov-17-08 08:38 PM   #68 
  - Too late to rec, but well stated. I am fed up with the fundie, holier-than-thou  mnhtnbb   Nov-17-08 03:59 PM   #50 
  - I hope you will have that chance, mnhtnbb...and that he will find  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:22 PM   #65 
  - So true! So excellent!  FitzmasAgain   Nov-17-08 04:34 PM   #54 
  - Thanks so much, FitzmanAgain!  grannylib   Nov-17-08 05:23 PM   #66 
  - K&R. For your courageous and honest post.. Totally right about  trickyguy   Nov-17-08 10:32 PM   #70 
  - I hope that non-whacko 'religious' folk will SPEAK UP  grannylib   Nov-19-08 05:19 PM   #76 
  - While we're on the subject...  GoddessOfGuinness   Nov-17-08 11:52 PM   #71 
  - Excellent points, you are so right. Children LEARN hate and  grannylib   Nov-19-08 06:25 PM   #77 
  - I confess - I did in your first marriage...  Ms. Toad   Nov-18-08 12:25 AM   #72 
  - With great power comes great responsibility.  DarkTirade   Nov-18-08 02:36 PM   #75 
  - THANK YOU for saving me! If you had anything to do with making  grannylib   Nov-19-08 06:26 PM   #78 
  - You rock, grannylib!!  thecatburgler   Nov-18-08 12:49 AM   #73 
     - Why, thank you! I'm sure you rock as well!  grannylib   Nov-19-08 06:27 PM   #79 

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