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Thu Aug-09-07 02:32 PM
Response to Reply #22 |
| 59. this 'straight' guy finds it flattering, if its respectful, though I must admit |
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Edited on Thu Aug-09-07 02:43 PM by Danieljay
as 'straight' as I show up in the world as my preferred preference, I've had a couple 'man' crushes. Its interesting, I brought this up recently to my spiritual director (who happens to be gay), that my wife had mentioned that a particular singer that I'm fond of was "hot" when she saw his picture, and that I actually thought he was too.
Now, even considering myself a heterosexual with a very open mind, I got all tripped out saying this out loud to both my wife and my Spiritual Director, complete with blushing and an adrenaline rush. Its fascinating that as open minded as I consider myself regarding gays and lesbians, I still was uncomfortable expressing my attraction openly, even to my wife or a gay man. Its is sooo engrained in our psychology that even the most open minded are uncomfortable with such attractions.
His response, "don't write stories about what it means or doesn't mean. It doesn't mean your coming out of the closet, it means you are coming into your own acceptance of who you are" meaning, all of me, the 90% of the time I identify as 'straight' and the other 10% as gay or lesbian.
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| -My turnaround on gay people. |
Bluzmann57 |
Aug-08-07 07:23 PM |
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Great post! I applaud you! |
saracat |
Aug-08-07 07:26 PM |
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Nice post! n/t |
monarch |
Aug-08-07 07:28 PM |
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I'm pleased to recommend this. |
terrya |
Aug-08-07 07:31 PM |
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Thank you |
Bluzmann57 |
Aug-08-07 07:34 PM |
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You'll be completely turned around when you can make this post |
jgraz |
Aug-08-07 07:32 PM |
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I Confess, I Was Thinking That Too. |
Toasterlad |
Aug-08-07 08:08 PM |
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I only say it because I was at that point once myself |
jgraz |
Aug-08-07 11:21 PM |
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Very True. n/t |
Toasterlad |
Aug-09-07 08:02 AM |
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They Are MORE Frightened Of Transgender People!! |
PoconoPragmatist |
Aug-09-07 10:50 AM |
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In most respects I've been a loony lefty all my life |
PurpleChez |
Aug-09-07 04:30 PM |
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Right. My man was just making plain where he was coming from. |
PurpleChez |
Aug-09-07 04:05 PM |
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well there's also the fear that people might think you're gay |
IronLionZion |
Aug-09-07 11:27 AM |
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that's one of the cool things about all these Rethug "outings" |
jgraz |
Aug-09-07 12:59 PM |
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Some kids across the street thought I was gay |
5thGenDemocrat |
Aug-09-07 02:49 PM |
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Isn't it funny |
PurpleChez |
Aug-09-07 04:37 PM |
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Well, as I said, I am human |
Bluzmann57 |
Aug-09-07 07:11 PM |
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proud to recommend this too n/t |
AZDemDist6 |
Aug-08-07 07:43 PM |
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Labels are something that we use so we can hate people |
Not Me |
Aug-08-07 07:46 PM |
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great post |
dsc |
Aug-08-07 07:48 PM |
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Nice. |
BleedingHeartPatriot |
Aug-08-07 08:02 PM |
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Why I am for human rights, period. |
Steve_DeShazer |
Aug-08-07 08:04 PM |
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If you have had sex with other men you are not straight! |
BillSam |
Aug-09-07 01:39 AM |
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Oh, Come On, Bill... |
Toasterlad |
Aug-09-07 08:07 AM |
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I agree. |
DIKB |
Aug-09-07 08:56 AM |
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See what I mean |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 03:12 AM |
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Oh come on Toasterlad |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 03:09 AM |
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The Problem is, You Want to Compartmentalize Everyone. |
Toasterlad |
Aug-16-07 06:30 PM |
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I don't think an experience or two makes one 'bi' or 'gay' |
aundria75 |
Aug-09-07 01:26 PM |
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Is it different, perhaps, for women? |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 04:06 AM |
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Actually, I experimented BEFORE my mom came out... |
aundria75 |
Aug-10-07 08:49 AM |
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I appreciate your interesting, thoughtful reply |
BillSam |
Aug-11-07 01:28 AM |
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he never said there was anything "TERRIBLE about being gay" |
whopis01 |
Aug-09-07 05:26 PM |
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It has to do with Gay Pride, mine and yours and everyone else's |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 03:25 AM |
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I disagree |
whopis01 |
Aug-10-07 04:14 PM |
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It just isn't the same |
BillSam |
Aug-11-07 01:46 AM |
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you are being narrow minded -- to the point of bigotry. |
xchrom |
Sep-02-07 08:40 PM |
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Thank you |
FuzzyDicePHL |
Aug-21-07 03:32 PM |
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Well, I don't happen to feel at all repressed |
Steve_DeShazer |
Aug-09-07 05:32 PM |
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Thank you for your polite and reasonable response |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 03:34 AM |
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See, that's the thing I don't get |
Steve_DeShazer |
Aug-10-07 05:41 PM |
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Okay, I'm curious |
BillSam |
Aug-11-07 02:16 AM |
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It takes a strong person to apologize. |
Siyahamba |
Aug-08-07 08:42 PM |
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Make this required reading! Great post, buddy! |
CurtEastPoint |
Aug-08-07 08:48 PM |
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Holy Christ, you play Euchre? |
MLFerrell |
Aug-08-07 08:55 PM |
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Or Iowa. There's been some drift south from MI. |
NCevilDUer |
Aug-09-07 11:07 AM |
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You left out Indiana. n/t :) |
agtcovert |
Aug-09-07 01:28 PM |
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Damn Straight! |
evilkumquat |
Aug-09-07 02:37 PM |
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7's and 8's...??? |
evilkumquat |
Aug-09-07 02:36 PM |
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7s and 8s...??? |
5thGenDemocrat |
Aug-09-07 03:01 PM |
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Ace-No-Face, 9-10 Trade-In & Partner's Best |
evilkumquat |
Aug-09-07 08:25 PM |
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Ah, so you play the REAL Euchre. |
MLFerrell |
Aug-10-07 09:04 AM |
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You Got Me There... |
evilkumquat |
Aug-10-07 09:32 AM |
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Rabbit is a game like Euchre... |
MLFerrell |
Aug-10-07 01:57 PM |
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Iowa |
Bluzmann57 |
Aug-09-07 07:20 PM |
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Thanks for sharing |
nothingtoofear |
Aug-08-07 10:06 PM |
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Great story. |
Maat |
Aug-08-07 11:07 PM |
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"The Holiest place on earth is where an ancient hatred has become a present love" |
Maraya1969 |
Aug-08-07 11:20 PM |
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Cheers, Mate! |
ruggerson |
Aug-08-07 11:31 PM |
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hey... like |
themartyred |
Aug-09-07 01:15 AM |
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Nice post -- but it will be interesting to see what happens |
BillSam |
Aug-09-07 01:43 AM |
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The really funny thing is |
Wiccan Warrior |
Aug-09-07 06:03 AM |
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this 'straight' guy finds it flattering, if its respectful, though I must admit |
Danieljay |
Aug-09-07 02:32 PM |
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One of My Favorite Seinfeld Quotes |
Toasterlad |
Aug-09-07 08:14 PM |
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i'm saying he's attractive, and I'm a bit attracted toward him. And, I still consider myself |
Danieljay |
Aug-09-07 09:16 PM |
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You're probably a 1 or 2 on the Kinsey scale |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 04:25 AM |
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hey, thanks Bill. I think. I'm actually not struggling here. |
Danieljay |
Aug-10-07 10:10 AM |
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sounds quite like my turnaround |
Dragonbreathp9d |
Aug-09-07 06:53 AM |
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Thank you posting this. |
myrna minx |
Aug-09-07 08:41 AM |
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What a refreshing post |
ejbr |
Aug-09-07 08:55 AM |
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Thanks, that's a great account. |
PelosiFan |
Aug-09-07 08:59 AM |
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Next you can work on your cheap shots and stereotyping of "hillbilly types" |
Tanuki |
Aug-09-07 09:45 AM |
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My condo has like 5 gay men in it |
mslawstudent |
Aug-09-07 10:29 AM |
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Now If Only More Would "Turn Around" Regarding TRANSGENDER PEOPLE.... |
PoconoPragmatist |
Aug-09-07 10:46 AM |
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I'm a turnaround! |
Larissa238 |
Aug-09-07 12:09 PM |
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Bless You. If Only there Were More Larissa's In The World...Or Even On DU!! |
PoconoPragmatist |
Aug-09-07 12:24 PM |
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You're absolutely right. |
racaulk |
Aug-09-07 01:05 PM |
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Thank you! Great post. n/t |
Tyo |
Aug-09-07 11:27 AM |
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I admired your line: ...because I'm human. True, it's about being human and life in its fullness. |
pingzing58 |
Aug-09-07 11:45 AM |
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The times, they are a changin' |
blayne |
Aug-09-07 11:50 AM |
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Ewwwww, the Cowboys? |
aundria75 |
Aug-09-07 01:33 PM |
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I REALLY Agree With You. |
Toasterlad |
Aug-09-07 01:39 PM |
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I'm sticking by the Cowboys, but |
blayne |
Aug-09-07 01:51 PM |
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You'll Need Plenty Of It Watching Owens Drop Romo's Passes, My Friend! |
Toasterlad |
Aug-09-07 02:04 PM |
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I guess I could say the same thing about Owens, |
blayne |
Aug-09-07 04:19 PM |
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Very Nicely Said |
sandyj999 |
Aug-09-07 11:51 AM |
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Great, so you think gay people are just as good as straight people |
Mozcram |
Aug-09-07 11:53 AM |
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Well said. |
Sapphocrat |
Aug-09-07 02:08 PM |
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That was a wonderful story. |
Sequoia |
Aug-09-07 11:54 AM |
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My turnaround happened |
VWolf |
Aug-09-07 11:54 AM |
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This is a great post. |
Midlodemocrat |
Aug-09-07 12:29 PM |
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Of course you'd say that |
LostinVA |
Aug-09-07 01:31 PM |
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Great post! |
racaulk |
Aug-09-07 01:07 PM |
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My neighbor was like you used to be |
Rambis |
Aug-09-07 01:57 PM |
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Yes, I was brought up to believe something was "wrong" |
Maestro |
Aug-09-07 04:32 PM |
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yeah it's really sad |
idgiehkt |
Aug-09-07 05:51 PM |
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Yep, we're all different |
meowomon |
Aug-09-07 06:03 PM |
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You give me hope. |
David Zephyr |
Aug-09-07 06:58 PM |
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I used to hate Star Trek |
Conscious Confucius |
Aug-09-07 07:40 PM |
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I think it's varying degrees of awareness on one's part |
anachro1 |
Aug-09-07 07:44 PM |
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I certainly think we should be friendly to gay-friendly |
BillSam |
Aug-10-07 04:34 AM |
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You're right. |
swimboy |
Aug-10-07 02:12 PM |
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Hat's off to you for having the character and courage to grow. |
Zenlitened |
Aug-10-07 10:02 AM |
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My turnaround on Black people |
GymDude |
Aug-10-07 12:59 PM |
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... |
Sapphocrat |
Aug-10-07 01:35 PM |
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Best reply yet. |
BuffyTheFundieSlayer |
Aug-10-07 01:59 PM |
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Some people just don't appreciate good satire when they see it... |
MLFerrell |
Aug-10-07 02:01 PM |
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Cheers, GymDude! |
swimboy |
Aug-10-07 02:15 PM |
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Yes. |
PelosiFan |
Aug-10-07 03:05 PM |
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Sigh. |
Bluzmann57 |
Aug-10-07 06:56 PM |
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Hey, it's okay Bluzman |
BillSam |
Aug-11-07 02:36 AM |
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You are "wicked" -- |
BillSam |
Aug-11-07 02:28 AM |
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Thanks, Bluzmann |
mitchtv |
Aug-11-07 05:01 AM |
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Ya know... |
foreigncorrespondent |
Aug-16-07 07:07 PM |
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Please Speak for Yourself. |
Toasterlad |
Aug-20-07 06:02 PM |
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Name removed |
Aug-17-07 01:37 AM |
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Some choice selections (1) |
jesus_of_suburbia |
Aug-17-07 01:49 AM |
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Thanks for opening your mind. |
ftbc |
Aug-20-07 02:20 PM |
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i find you more genuine and authentic in your opening up than some of the gay folk in this thread. |
xchrom |
Sep-02-07 08:47 PM |
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Congratulations on your evolution.... |
SacredCow |
Sep-03-07 12:08 PM |
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