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tomreedtoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-19-09 10:19 PM
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85. I'm not comfortable with myself at all. But...
...I know there is not a damn thing in this world or beyond that which can change that. I've seen people go for drugs, sexual experimentation, psychiatry, plastic surgery, yoga and other crap. Ultimately, it's all a failure.

We are all in our own Hell, and their ain't no escape, or a smiling happy God to get you out of it. Just accept your lot, whether you like it or not.
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  -My 14 year old neice (nephew now) annouced she is now a he helderheid  Jul-18-09 11:17 PM   #0 
  - wow, this was unrec'd? why?  helderheid   Jul-18-09 11:19 PM   #1 
  - Apparently somebody's not comfortable with HS transgenders...  parasim   Jul-18-09 11:21 PM   #2 
  - I'd unrec your response:  Deja Q   Jul-18-09 11:26 PM   #9 
     - I'll Give You a Dollar If You Go Away.  Toasterlad   Jul-19-09 10:53 PM   #90 
     - LOL. i'll give him 5  La Lioness Priyanka   Jul-21-09 09:09 AM   #97 
     - w  helderheid   Jul-19-09 11:17 PM   #91 
     - you do realize that you make about as much sense as sarah palin?  La Lioness Priyanka   Jul-21-09 09:08 AM   #96 
  - Don't ask.  EFerrari   Jul-18-09 11:21 PM   #3 
  - I literally could not be more proud. So brave so young! You go... BOY! :D  helderheid   Jul-18-09 11:22 PM   #4 
  - Someone probably pre-empted anyone who would have rec'ed it.  Deja Q   Jul-18-09 11:23 PM   #5 
  - Agree . . . plus the size of the website makes 24 hours to rec really unrealistic!!  defendandprotect   Jul-19-09 02:57 PM   #38 
  - Corrected that problem  nadinbrzezinski   Jul-18-09 11:25 PM   #7 
  - Oops...  polmaven   Jul-19-09 05:01 PM   #54 
  - You're wonderful,  Tangerine LaBamba   Jul-18-09 11:25 PM   #6 
  - wishing him all the best!  peacebird   Jul-18-09 11:26 PM   #8 
  - He's lucky and brn into a family of liberals who understand we're wired how we're wired. He's also  helderheid   Jul-18-09 11:34 PM   #11 
     - born even  helderheid   Jul-18-09 11:35 PM   #12 
        - Apparently 'better than even'.  The Doctor.   Jul-19-09 09:15 PM   #81 
  - Congratulations to your nephew!  DKRC   Jul-18-09 11:30 PM   #10 
  - I'd send him to my friend Bonnie Tinker,  Ms. Toad   Jul-18-09 11:43 PM   #13 
  - Good for him - and best of luck in his transition.  enlightenment   Jul-18-09 11:43 PM   #14 
  - Mashallah; Wonderful!  Sultana   Jul-18-09 11:47 PM   #15 
  - Deleted message  Name removed   Jul-18-09 11:47 PM   #16 
  - I can't imagine how difficult it must be  slackmaster   Jul-18-09 11:52 PM   #17 
  - Nor can I. Thank goodness we all knew and accepted long ago. His journey will hopefully be less  helderheid   Jul-18-09 11:54 PM   #18 
  - Best wishes and best of luck to your nephew.  uppityperson   Jul-19-09 12:07 AM   #19 
  - Please forgive my bluntness  obliviously   Jul-19-09 12:10 AM   #20 
  - we don't know yet  helderheid   Jul-19-09 12:21 AM   #21 
  - growing  katkat   Jul-19-09 12:32 PM   #32 
  - Genital surgery may not happen at all. Genitalia is not sex.  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 04:34 PM   #43 
  - I'm glad to hear he's in Portland.  liberalmuse   Jul-19-09 12:44 AM   #22 
  - Congrats to your nephew!  XOEnterprises   Jul-19-09 12:46 AM   #23 
  - My cousin (by marriage, not blood) just made the same announcement a few months ago.  DarkTirade   Jul-19-09 09:24 AM   #24 
  - A penis is a terrible thing to have. Take it from an owner.  tomreedtoon   Jul-19-09 09:34 AM   #25 
  - it's more than having a penis but being comfortable in the skin that you have  LynneSin   Jul-19-09 05:39 PM   #59 
  - Thank you!!!  helderheid   Jul-19-09 05:49 PM   #61 
  - Grass is always greener over the septic tank.  tomreedtoon   Jul-19-09 06:01 PM   #64 
     - But the thing is, it's something that doesn't make sense to us  LynneSin   Jul-19-09 07:26 PM   #74 
     - Thanks so much. The lack of empathy for a situation we've not experienced astounds me.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 07:37 PM   #75 
     - I'm not comfortable with myself at all. But...  tomreedtoon   Jul-19-09 10:19 PM   #85 
        - Just never met anyone who was so not understanding  LynneSin   Jul-20-09 09:10 AM   #93 
     - What do you think this is a cure for? He is who he is.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 07:42 PM   #76 
        - It's a cure for unhappiness. And there is none.  tomreedtoon   Jul-19-09 10:21 PM   #86 
           - WOW  helderheid   Jul-19-09 10:47 PM   #88 
           - This isn't about happiness or unhappiness  LynneSin   Jul-20-09 09:14 AM   #94 
  - If you think a person "decides" to change gender because they imagine everything will be--  Moonwalk   Jul-19-09 07:46 PM   #77 
  - I love you.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 07:52 PM   #78 
  - Well, that's a convenient set of excuses (nm)  Book Lover   Jul-21-09 03:19 PM   #99 
  - Good For Your Nephew and His Supportive Family  Irishonly   Jul-19-09 09:35 AM   #26 
  - Good for him, and good for you!  Bluenorthwest   Jul-19-09 10:46 AM   #27 
  - Congratulations!!! And PROPS to a brave kid!  BlancheSplanchnik   Jul-19-09 10:50 AM   #28 
  - Best wishes to your nephew!  tbyg52   Jul-19-09 11:26 AM   #29 
  - Best wishes  muryan   Jul-19-09 11:48 AM   #30 
  - I know! My first thought was she was being abused but as the years went on...  helderheid   Jul-19-09 01:36 PM   #35 
  - Good for him! It takes a lot of self-knowledge to transition.  AlienGirl   Jul-19-09 12:23 PM   #31 
  - Best wishes on what is a very difficult journey  grantcart   Jul-19-09 12:41 PM   #33 
  - Congrats!  Dangerously Amused   Jul-19-09 12:46 PM   #34 
  - His life will be a lot easier with a supportive family  Not Me   Jul-19-09 01:58 PM   #36 
  - Congrats and good luck!  Christa   Jul-19-09 02:44 PM   #37 
  - Every couple has a 30% change of having a homosexual child . . .but ...  defendandprotect   Jul-19-09 02:59 PM   #39 
  - Just some info: being transsexual is different than being gay.  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 04:42 PM   #47 
     - Thank you. He appears to be a straight male born in a female body.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 04:48 PM   #50 
     - I hope you'll all still be there for him if he turns out to be gay!  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 04:52 PM   #51 
        - Are you kidding? OF COURSE we'd love and accept him! Nothing wrong with who you love.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 04:54 PM   #52 
           - Hee Hee  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 05:08 PM   #55 
              - Figured. ;P  helderheid   Jul-19-09 05:20 PM   #57 
     - Of course . . . didn't mean to suggest otherwise . . .  defendandprotect   Jul-19-09 10:24 PM   #87 
  - Well it seems a bit early but if he is sure  cindyperry   Jul-19-09 03:08 PM   #40 
  - We've know for about 10 years.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 04:22 PM   #41 
  - Kudos to your family for being so accomodating  NMMNG   Jul-19-09 04:32 PM   #42 
  - I have a 15 year old nephew of whom I'm equally proud.  Laurab   Jul-19-09 04:36 PM   #44 
  - My partner just started T this week. Bless you and the family for being so supportive.  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 04:36 PM   #45 
  - Question - when speaking of the transgendered - what and where is the "Self"?  demwing   Jul-19-09 04:41 PM   #46 
  - I cannot answer you with anything other than my own experience with him.  helderheid   Jul-19-09 04:47 PM   #48 
  - Basically, you do what isn't socially violent and listen to the individual.  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 04:48 PM   #49 
  - many  katkat   Jul-19-09 05:56 PM   #62 
     - Welcome to DU, kitkat  helderheid   Jul-19-09 05:58 PM   #63 
     - So, in a sense, binary gender is an illusion  demwing   Jul-19-09 08:47 PM   #80 
  - It's great...  Unca Jim   Jul-19-09 05:00 PM   #53 
  - and I'm proud of you. eom  bluesmail   Jul-19-09 05:12 PM   #56 
  - Intro him to the work of Kate Bornstein  nolabear   Jul-19-09 05:37 PM   #58 
  - Thank you SO much! I will do some googling. My dear nephew is so fortunate to have  helderheid   Jul-19-09 05:48 PM   #60 
  - I can't understand this.  lumberjack_jeff   Jul-19-09 06:20 PM   #65 
  - What if you woke up tomorrow as the other gender?  Occam Bandage   Jul-19-09 06:42 PM   #67 
  - But (s)he didn't.  lumberjack_jeff   Jul-19-09 06:50 PM   #69 
     - I don't think that's as important as you do.  Occam Bandage   Jul-19-09 07:03 PM   #72 
     - That makes some sense.  lumberjack_jeff   Jul-19-09 10:03 PM   #84 
     - Instead of imagining that you woke up in the wrong body, imagine the following--  Moonwalk   Jul-20-09 02:34 PM   #95 
  - I don't think surgery will be involved for awhile. In some cases it's not needed at all.  readmoreoften   Jul-19-09 06:46 PM   #68 
     - Point taken, thanks. n/t  lumberjack_jeff   Jul-19-09 06:52 PM   #70 
  - Good for him, and I'm glad his family is supportive. I'm also glad this is early enough  Occam Bandage   Jul-19-09 06:40 PM   #66 
  - I've sent you a PM about an acquaintance of mine who specializes  Lydia Leftcoast   Jul-19-09 06:52 PM   #71 
  - Thank you, Lydia!  helderheid   Jul-19-09 07:15 PM   #73 
  - Oh my, I could barf at a few of the replies in this thread...  tnlefty   Jul-19-09 08:43 PM   #79 
  - I feel exhilarated knowing that this has happened. When I was growing up in the fifties and  bertman   Jul-19-09 09:32 PM   #82 
  - I deeply admire anyone  underseasurveyor   Jul-19-09 09:37 PM   #83 
  - Big step. I wish him good luck!  Lost-in-FL   Jul-19-09 10:49 PM   #89 
  - That's great helderheid.  Starry Messenger   Jul-19-09 11:47 PM   #92 
  - I'm so glad this is working out for your nephew and your family.  hedgehog   Jul-21-09 09:11 AM   #98 
  - Congratulations to him!  Morning Dew   Jul-21-09 05:20 PM   #100 

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