Reply #9: I was 'there' my then partner and I had a roommate to help meet the bills

[HillbillyBob]

as we were all in low paying jobs. This was fall 84 Bob started losing weight and acting strange. We tried to get him to seek help we had an idea of what it was, I had already gone through onset symptoms myself. We were still not sure was GRID was then either. We tried to get Bob to go to the hospital. In those days the hospital would not even see him. He locked himself in his room and it turned out that he had both pneumonia and dementia, he was taking things out of the house that were not his.
We called his family at the emergency number he left. They refused to bother.
Finally after about 4 times of calling for an ambulance they came and had to knocked open the door to his room.
He died a few weeks later in ICU , they would not let us in to see him. I don't thing he was even aware enough to know if we were there or not as he was unconscious or delirious if he was awake.
His brother came to clean out his room after he died and literally threw everything in his room away. Turned out a bunch of our pots and pans and silver ware were in there too. I don't blame Bob as he was out of his head, but the brother instead of asking about the pots and pans (Bob kept his own in there too and washed everything in bleach).
I have been diagnosed since 85, I have had my ups and downs and have been fortunate for the most part that I had friends as my family did not bother with me until a few years ago.
I really despise Kreestians, the pastor from the church i grew up in told my parents at the time of my diagnoses that It was gaaawds weell and that I would die and go to hell, and the sooner the better.
I went to 15 funerals in Mar 96 and many many more before that.
I got to the point where I was suicidal, and could not bear to go to another funeral for several years. I have watched friends die and their surviving partner get evicted from their homes because the 'real family'come get wills and deeds cancelled or overturned and the survivor thrown out like garbage while the family steals all they have worked for together. One case a nephew who was only related by marriage had a judge issue an eviction on the home of one partner who was in final stages of AIDS with cancer he only had a few months to live and he got gas from the lawnmower shed doused the house and himself and set fire.
The son of a bitch nephew had a fit cause he did not get to steal a free house.