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AlecBGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-20-11 01:36 PM
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22. I do not believe rules re: modest dress are petty
Now I am going to put on my asbestos flame-suit for this, but I think people SHOULD dress modestly. If I have children, I will not allow them to dress in ways that reveal too much. Why? Because when kids are teenagers they tend to focus on a few things, chief among those are fitting in and exploring their sexuality. I refuse to let my child dress in such a way that they begin to see their self-worth in terms of their appearance and their ability to attract others sexually. That mindset is destructive and I have seen what it can lead to. They may hate me for it at the time, but so be it. I realize this is an EXTREMELY slippery slope (making decisions for others in their supposed best-interest) but what else can parents do? Set NO boundaries and let children determine EVERY limit for themself? Most would agree of course not, kids need rules. So the question becomes, where do we (as parents) draw the line? Where do we make decisions, and what do we allow the kids to choose for themselves? At what age? To what extent? I have no kids but this question occupies my mind a great deal. I am trying my best to find that fine line between creating boundaries and allowing kids to explore on their own. Thongs on a middle-schooler are one of those things I will decide, regardless of how my kid feels.

Back to religion. I think pastors face the same dilemma. Where do they draw the line? As spiritual leaders accountable to God, how much is non-negotiable? Each pastor, like each parent, is different. Some are on the obedience-at-all-costs side of the spectrum and others are at the do-what-you-will end. Most are somewhere in the middle.

Ok, ramble off.
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