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nashville_brook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-20-05 12:53 PM
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30. i started researching Narcissisist Personality Disorder b/c of my last
boss/business partner. i WAS in marketing communications and as such, i was a narcissist's wet dream -- a high-dollar creative able to polish a turd to numinous sheen. my last three employers were notorious narcissists. i made them look damn good which to a narcissist is even better than the money i was able to bring down for them.

i've been abused by these farkers for years, and this last boss offered me an executive position in a financial services marketing firm she was forming. we had been laid off in a merger, and i figured, why not, lets give this a shot.

she bascially used me as her personal best friend, dog, gopher, governess, slave -- you name it. because it was the first woman i had worked with i had the sudden flash of insight that she was treating me like all those girls in high school i so successfully avoided. they have you on their quick-dial and phone every 10 minutes ostensibly "to be you friend" and ask advice about everything from personal matters to hair color. it's control. they don't want you to have YOUR life. they will sabotage all your other relationships b/c they can't stand the fact that you don't BELONG to them completely.

one nite, after this business associate had been calling and freaking out at me all day, i woke up having a panic attack which turned into a migraine that lasted for 3 days. as soon as the headache lifted i wrote a letter of resignation and decided to work for myself and pursue my writing career (at least for a few months while i have severance and unemployment).

what caused most of my discomfort was i actually stepped into the slave role and became the task-master to those under me. she demanded it. i simply cannot work that way. i'm a facilitator. i have to work with WHOLE people. when i realized this, my decision was easy. but it's taken me a decade to get here.

There's a great book that came out in the 80s, The Chalice and the Blade by Riane Eisler. In it she outlines TWO possible alternatives for human social interaction -- Partnership and Dominance. really good stuff if anyone is interested in deeper reading into the dynamics.
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  -Question of GAY SEX surrounding White House reveal who we have become nashville_brook  Feb-19-05 02:46 PM   #0 
  - excellent writing - I don't know about the analysis - but the writing kept  papau   Feb-19-05 03:00 PM   #1 
  - it's your basic deconstruction of power  nashville_brook   Feb-19-05 03:16 PM   #3 
  - Excellent post! nt  caledesi   Feb-19-05 03:15 PM   #2 
  - ah shucks  nashville_brook   Feb-19-05 04:49 PM   #9 
  - Very interesting AND rational  havocmom   Feb-19-05 03:20 PM   #4 
  - see if there's anything on monkeys -- there might be a reason why they  nashville_brook   Feb-19-05 03:24 PM   #5 
     - LOL actually I WAS thinking about the Crocodile Diaries we watched  havocmom   Feb-19-05 03:36 PM   #6 
        - *allowed access" -- "contented"  nashville_brook   Feb-19-05 04:32 PM   #8 
        - That's what I think - those that don't believe in evolution don't evolve  glitch   Feb-20-05 01:40 PM   #36 
           - Kind of hard to believe in something  Jamastiene   Feb-21-05 05:22 AM   #50 
  - Bush's issues are personal  Old Mouse   Feb-19-05 03:37 PM   #7 
  - I agree - it's to get intelligence and to coerce support  Nothing Without Hope   Feb-20-05 02:47 PM   #43 
  - That's why I feel *'s rubbing of bald heads  HeeBGBz   Feb-19-05 05:28 PM   #10 
  - for sure! and don't forget the lieberman kiss.  nashville_brook   Feb-19-05 07:05 PM   #11 
     - Lieberman got the bitch kiss.  Us vs Them   Feb-20-05 12:39 AM   #13 
     - And the nicknames  starroute   Feb-20-05 10:18 AM   #21 
  - great post! n/t  deacon   Feb-20-05 12:19 AM   #12 
  - Dominance and Perversion....your article is interesting.  KoKo01   Feb-20-05 01:01 AM   #14 
  - when i was in college, taking poly sci theory courses, i had a prof  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 12:33 PM   #26 
  - KoKo01?  KayLaw   Feb-20-05 12:46 PM   #28 
  - Here are a couple:  Ojai Person   Feb-20-05 12:55 PM   #31 
     - Thanks, Ojai Person  KayLaw   Feb-20-05 01:19 PM   #35 
  - Kick....for an interesting read...n/t  KoKo01   Feb-20-05 04:29 PM   #45 
  - You write a mean post, nashville_brook.  Ojai Person   Feb-20-05 01:04 AM   #15 
  - you've got the narcissist thing down!  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 12:11 PM   #25 
     - Narcissism is a national, if not worldwide, epidemic....  Ojai Person   Feb-20-05 12:49 PM   #29 
  - I nominated, and  Ojai Person   Feb-20-05 01:09 AM   #16 
  - he even took a drink -- i play poker -- that's called a give.  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 12:34 PM   #27 
  - The BIG picture.  Karenina   Feb-20-05 08:21 AM   #17 
  - your analysis makes sense...good stuff!  LinuxInsurgent   Feb-20-05 08:47 AM   #18 
  - Enlightening!!  BeFree   Feb-20-05 09:22 AM   #19 
  - i started researching Narcissisist Personality Disorder b/c of my last  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 12:53 PM   #30 
     - child development stuff  KathmanduKid   Feb-21-05 08:04 AM   #51 
  - thanks for the enlightening insights  librechik   Feb-20-05 10:00 AM   #20 
  - I voted for this  Tesla   Feb-20-05 11:36 AM   #22 
     - i love you screen name!  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 12:57 PM   # 
  - excellent writing  qanda   Feb-20-05 11:51 AM   #23 
  - IMO this animal kingdom regime still needs to be chased out of the jungle  i miss america   Feb-20-05 11:53 AM   #24 
  - and WHO in the animal kingdom better to fight evil monkeys, than  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 01:06 PM   #33 
  - ## PLEASE DONATE TO DEMOCRATIC UNDERGROUND! ##  DU GrovelBot   Feb-20-05 12:57 PM   #32 
  - That's what I keep trying to say about prostitution.  barbaraann   Feb-20-05 01:16 PM   #34 
  - not his MO -- i can understand the your thing about  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 02:12 PM   #39 
     - Social ordering sex or narcissistic sex? Or something else?  barbaraann   Feb-20-05 02:15 PM   #40 
        - damn good question. the Velvet Texas Mafia thread goes a long way  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 05:09 PM   #46 
           - You know, I think it's the kind of sex Alexander the Greek had.  barbaraann   Feb-20-05 06:45 PM   #47 
              - oh yes, the greek-roman man-boy relationship thing  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 08:33 PM   #48 
                 - Consensual rape?  barbaraann   Feb-20-05 08:57 PM   #49 
  - Nominated.  bvar22   Feb-20-05 01:45 PM   #37 
  - saw this on salon -- i love it. could be toby keith's next CD art  nashville_brook   Feb-20-05 02:25 PM   #41 
  - Well you gave me a personal insight. Thanks for the post!!!  BigBearJohn   Feb-20-05 01:55 PM   #38 
  - I think the gay prostitution and probably pedophilia are for BLACKMAIL  Nothing Without Hope   Feb-20-05 02:35 PM   #42 
  - Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for your insights.  Pooka Fey   Feb-20-05 04:18 PM   #44 

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